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- Isehlukaniso: Yebo noma Cha?
- Izizathu zokungahlukanisi
- Umthelela omubi ezinganeni.
- Ukwakha umshado ohlala njalo
Inketho yesehlukaniso seyenziwe yaba yinsika ngokwesiko langaleso sikhathi. Ngisho nemibhangqwana eshadile ejabule kakhulu yake yalwa kaningi kangangokuba yacabanga nokuthola isehlukaniso.
Lokhu kuphambene nogogo nomkhulu bethu, ababegibela ezikhathini ezinzima zempi, bengalilahli ithemba emshadweni ngoba emuva ngalezo zinsuku, isehlukaniso kwakuyinto eyivelakancane necwaswa.
Ukube bekunezinkinga ebudlelwaneni babogogo nomkhulu wethu — futhi impela bezikhona — bazisebenzisile noma bahlala nazo.
Kepha abagijimelanga ukuya enkantolo yesehlukaniso ngoba nje bekunezikhathi ezithile eziyinselele emshadweni wabo.
Isehlukaniso: Yebo noma Cha?
Uma wena noshade naye nicabanga ukuhlukanisa, kepha anikenzi isinqumo esiqinile, funda.
Sizobeka izizathu eziningi ezinhle zokuthi ungathathi isehlukaniso. Kepha asicacise ukuthi kunezimo lapho isehlukaniso kuyinto efanele ukwenziwa.
Nazi ezinye zezimo lapho isehlukaniso siyisidingo:
- Ukungathembeki, umlandeli wobugebengu obucashile, noma ukudlala ngothando online ngemuva kwakho
- Ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba
- Ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo
- Umlutha. Lokhu kungaba umlutha wotshwala, izidakamizwa, ukugembula, ucansi, noma enye indlela yokulutha ebeka impilo yakho, ukuphepha kanye nokuphila kwakho engcupheni.
Ezimweni eziningi, unenketho yokuhlukanisa noma ukungadivosi.
Ngaphambi kokuthi sihlole ukuthi cha isehlukaniso, ake sibuyekeze futhi sibheke ukuthi yini eholela imibhangqwana eminingi ukuba ihlukanise.
Ukulindela okungenangqondo emshadweni.
Okuningi kwalokhu kuyiphutha labezindaba. Ukuphakelwa kwe-Instagram, kusikhombisa kuphela amadoda nabafazi abajabule kakhulu, endaweni enhle, enezingane ezimbili ezinhle.
Siqhathanisa izimpilo zethu ezixakile nalokho esikulethelwa ezikrinini zethu, futhi sicabanga ukuthi "ukube nje benginomlingani ohlukile ... ngineqiniso lokuthi impilo yami ibingabukeka kanjalo!" Lokhu kuyingozi kakhulu.
Sidinga ukulungisa umbono wethu wokuthi uyini umshado: umanyano ozoba nezinsuku zawo ezinhle nezinsuku ezimbi, kepha siyazibophezela kuwo ngoba senze isethembiso esiqinile sokugcina omunye nomunye ephephile futhi ethandwa.
Ukubheka oshade naye ukuthi abe yiyo yonke into yakho.
Lo ngomunye umqondo wamanga wokuthi uyini umshado. Akekho umuntu oyedwa ongaba yikho konke ... umphefumulo wakho womlingani, umhlekisi wakho wasendlini, udokotela wakho, umqeqeshi wakho wezemidlalo.
Vele, oshade naye akakwazi ukwenza konke lokhu. Lesi akusona isizathu sokuhlukanisa!
Lapho ulungisa okulindele kulokho umshado okuyikho ngempela — ubuhlobo obuyisibopho obungeyona inganekwane ngaso sonke isikhathi — ukusho ukuthi cha isehlukaniso kunengqondo.
Izizathu zokungahlukanisi
Umthelela omubi ezinganeni.
Abantu abadala abahlukanisile bangakutshela ukuthi “izingane ziyakudlulisa lokho.” Kepha buza noma ngubani owabona isehlukaniso somzali wakhe, bazokutshela ukuthi ubuhlungu nokungalingani ngokomzwelo abakuthola ngemuva kokuhlukana kwabazali babo kungokoqobo futhi kusekhona, nangemva kwesehlukaniso.
Izingane zabazali abahlukanisile kungenzeka zingabethembi abanye futhi zinjalo ubunzima nobudlelwano bezothando. Uma ucabanga ngomthelela ongemuhle isehlukaniso ozoba nawo ezinganeni zakho, kuba lula ukuthi cha ukudivosa.
2. Isehlukaniso siyalimaza ngokomzwelo.
Akekho noyedwa umuntu, ngisho nogqugquzela isehlukaniso, ophuma esahlukanisweni engalimele. Imiphumela engokomzwelo yokuqeda impilo yakho eyabiwe ihlala isikhathi eside, ngokulahlekelwa ukwethemba, ukuzethemba, umuzwa wokuphepha, nokuphepha.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, imizwa engaxazululiwe ingachitheka ebudlelwaneni babo obulandelayo ngoba besaba ukuthi into efanayo ingaphinde yenzeke.
Esikhundleni salokho, ungavulelana imizwa yakho noshade naye bese nisebenzisa izikhathi eziyinselele empilweni yenu yomshado ukuzinikelisana futhi ningadikibali ngomshado wenu.
Uma uphumelela, kungaba yinto ebopha kakhulu, okwenza inyunyana yakho iqine.
3. Ungubani uma ungeyena Mnu noma uNkk?
Uma ucabanga ukuthi uzohlukanisa noma cha ukuhlukanisa, zibuze ukuthi ubuyoba ngubani uma ungashadile?
Esinye isizathu sokungahlukanisi ukulahleka kobunikazi bakho. Ube nguMnumzane noma uNkk isibanibani isikhathi eside kangaka. Ungaba ngubani uma kungeyena owakwakwakho?
Ikakhulukazi emishadweni yesikhathi eside. Isehlukaniso senza umuntu azi ukuthi ungubani, sikushiye uzizwa ungenanjongo futhi ungathandeki.
Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzela emshadweni wakho bese uzama ukunciphisa ukuncika kokubambisana ebudlelwaneni bakho. Lokhu kuzokwenza ube ngumbhangqwana onokuthula futhi kukusize uqonde ukuthi ungubani njengomuntu ngamunye.
Buka futhi: Izizathu Eziningi Ezivamile Zesehlukaniso
4. Akuwona umndeni wakho osondelene kuphela ohlukanisayo.
Isehlukaniso asithinti wena kuphela, oshade naye nezingane zakho. Lapho isehlukaniso senzeka, uvame ukulahlekelwa umndeni womlingani wakho.
Uninazala owayesefana nomama wesibili kuwe. Udadewenu womlingani wakho, umalokazana wakho, enihlanganyela naye izimfihlo nezimfihlo. Konke lokhu kususwa ngesahlukaniso.
Kwesinye isikhathi lezi zibopho zihlala, ikakhulukazi ezinganeni, kepha izinto ziba nzima lapho abashadikazi abasha bengena emndenini futhi ukuthembeka kuvivinywa.
Ukugcina umndeni wokuqala ndawonye kuyisizathu esihle sokwenqaba ukudivosa. Inikeza ukuzinza kanye nomuzwa wokuba yingxenye ebalulekile enhlalakahleni yethu.
Ukwakha umshado ohlala njalo
Imibhangqwana esondela emaphethelweni kodwa ihlehle emuva ithi cha isehlukaniso futhi izincoma emshadweni ohlala njalo bonke bathi bekufanele. Babheka amandla avuselelwe othando lwabo njengesahluko sesibili endabeni yabo yomshado.
Njengoba sebesondele ekuhlukaniseni, bese belungisa izinto, kubasiza ukuthi bakhumbule ukuthi isibopho somshado sibaluleke kangakanani, nokuthi babonga kangakanani ngokuba nomunye nomunye. Iseluleko sabo?
- Funa usizo kumeluleki wemishado othanda umshado futhi onobuchwepheshe bokukusiza ubone izizathu zokungahlukanisi.
- Dedela okulindelwe okungenangqondo. Oshade naye akakwazi ukugxila empilweni yakho kuphela.
- Yenzani izinto ndawonye njengombhangqwana oshadile kodwa futhi nihloniphe isidingo sokuba nesikhathi sodwa.
- Njengoba uthi cha isehlukaniso, yithi ngiyakuthanda nsuku zonke, noma ngabe awukuzwa 100%.
- Gcina impilo yezocansi esebenzayo nenothando, efaka imibono namasu amasha. Ungavumeli impilo yakho yothando ibe yisicefe.
- Hlala usebenza futhi ulungele wena nomlingani wakho. Khumbula izinsuku zakho zokuphola, ungasichitha kanjani isikhathi ugqoka ngokucophelela kusihlwa kwakho? Ungakunaki ukubukeka kwakho noma ngabe useneminyaka eminingi ushadile. Kukhombisa oshade naye ukuthi uyabakhathalela futhi ufuna ukubukeka kahle kubo. (Kuzophinde kukwenze uzizwe ungcono, futhi!)