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- Kunconyiwe - Gcina Inkambo Yami Yomshado
- 1. Qhubeka nezinsuku
- 2. Fundisisa oshade naye
- 3. Maka nsuku zonke
Wake wezwa nge-entropy?
Kungumthetho wesayensi othi ngokuyisisekelo indlu yakho ehlanzekile maduze izoba yinhlekelele uma ungenzi lutho ngayo. Ngamagama esayensi amaningi, ukuhleleka kuphendukela ekuphazamisekeni ngaphandle kokungenelela.
Ake siqhathanise umshado wakho nomqondo we-entropy
Njengoba nje sichitha isikhathi sethu sihlanza, sisusa uthuli futhi sikhuhla ukungcola ezindongeni, kufanele futhi siqhubeke nokutshala imali emshadweni wethu. Siyazi ukuthi uma singahlanza, kuzothatha izintambo.
Akukho okungaguquguquki kulo mhlaba (ngaphandle kweqiniso lokuthi uyashintsha). Ubudlelwano bethu buyaqina noma buqala ukuwohloka kancane kancane.
Kwesinye isikhathi kuthatha isikhathi eside. Kwesinye isikhathi kuthatha isikhathi esifushane kuphela.
Imishado egcina ukuhlala yimibhangqwana ehlose ngobungqabavu nokugcinwa kobudlelwano bayo.
Ngakho-ke singavikela kanjani kuphela lokho esinakho kepha senze ukuba khona kwethu ndawonye kube yinto enhle?
Kunconyiwe - Gcina Inkambo Yami Yomshado
Izindlela ezintathu zokusindisa umshado wakho ku-entropy:
1. Qhubeka nezinsuku
Yebo, kwenze njengalokho okwenzile ngenkathi nisathandana.
Akekho okwakumele akuphoqe ukuthi uthole isikhathi sokukhuluma nesithandwa sakho. Ubucabange ngabo kuqala. Wawuhlose ngamabomu. Awukwazanga ukuqhubeka uqinisekisa ubuhle namandla we-soulmate yakho entsha. Kwenzekeni-ke?
Impilo. Umsebenzi wakho, izingane, abangani, ukuzibophezela, nakho konke okuphakathi kuphakathi kokuthola ukunakwa kwakho.
U-Entropy wenzekile ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi zingaguqulwa. Faka leso sikhathi esilinganayo, ukuzibophezela namandla kumlingani wakho, futhi ubudlelwano bakho bungaphinda buqhakaze futhi.
Isikhathi sezithandani sibalulekile. Ungamangala ukuthi bangaki abantu abacabanga ukuthi abanaso isikhathi noma imali. Sihlala sinesikhathi salokho okubalulekile kithi futhi izinsuku akudingeki zibize lutho.
Ukugcizelela ukubaluleka kwemibhangqwana eya ezinsukwini ezivamile, cabanga ngocwaningo olwembula olwenziwe nguWilcox & Dew (2012). Bathola ukuthi uma lo mbhangqwana unesikhathi sabashadikazi okungenani kanye ngeviki, bebenamathuba aphindwe ama-3.5 okuchaza umshado wabo ngokuthi "bajabule kakhulu" uma kuqhathaniswa nalabo ababenesikhathi esincane sekhwalithi nabalingani babo.
Baphinde bathola ukuthi ngobusuku bezinsuku zamasonto onke, kwenza amakhosikazi abe mancane amathuba okuba abesilisa baphindwe kane nohhafu amathuba okuthi babike ukuthi isehlukaniso siphakeme kangakanani.
2. Fundisisa oshade naye
Yiba umfundi koshade naye.
Ukuthi ushadile akusho ukuthi ukujaha sekuphelile! Kunenqwaba yezincwadi, ama-podcast amaningi namavidiyo angenakubalwa ngesihloko sobudlelwano. Ngazo zonke izindlela, yiba umfundi. Lokhu kusisizile safunda okuningi ngathi nangabanye.
Yize izincwadi nezinsizakusebenza zangaphandle zimangalisa, ngubani ongakusiza kangcono ukuthi ufunde ngoshade naye kunomlingani wakho?
Abantu bavame ukusicela izeluleko mayelana nabalingani babo futhi enye yezimpendulo zethu zokuqala njalo: Ngabe ubabuzile?
Imvamisa singabafundi abampofu bomunye umuntu. Kukangaki lapho umlingani wakho ekucele ukuthi wenze okuthile (noma ungenzi okuthile), kepha ukhohliwe? Khumbula abakucelayo futhi basebenze kukho ngamabomu nsuku zonke.
3. Maka nsuku zonke
Ukungcola kuhlangana emakhoneni ngaphandle kwesikhathi namandla asetshenzisiwe ukukuhlanza.
Kuthiwani ngamakhona wobudlelwano bakho? Ingabe zikhona izindawo okungakhulunywa ngazo? Ngabe izimfihlo zabo ezingakaxoxwa? Ingabe zikhona izidingo ezingafinyelelwa?
Ungazi kanjani uma ungakhulumi?
Kunemibuzo emithathu okufanele ubuzane yona nsuku zonke; lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi “iDaily Dialogue”:
- Yini eyahamba kahle ebudlelwaneni bethu namuhla?
- Yini engahambanga kahle?
- Ngingaba wusizo kanjani kuwe namuhla (noma kusasa)?
Le yimibuzo elula engakusiza ikugcine ekhasini elifanayo futhi ikusize uzijwayeze ukuzethemba. Lapho oshade naye ephendula imibuzo yakho, qiniseka ukuthi ungumlaleli okhuthele.
UWilliam Doherty unikeza incazelo enembile ngomshado.
Uthi, “Umshado ufana nokwethulela isikebhe emfuleni iMississippi. Uma ufuna ukuya enyakatho, kufanele ugwedle. Uma ungagwedli, uya eningizimu. Akunandaba noma ngabe nithandana kangakanani, noma ngabe kugcwele kanjani ithemba nethembiso nezinhloso ezinhle, uma uhlala eMississippi ngaphandle kokugwedla okuhle — ukugwedla ngezikhathi ezithile akwanele — ugcina eNew Orleans (okuyi inkinga uma ufuna ukuhlala ngasenyakatho). ”
Into enhle ukuthi, ukugwedla ubheke enyakatho nomuntu ofunda ukumthanda ngokujulile nangokugcwele akuyona umsebenzi. Ukwakha uhlobo lobudlelwano obuthatha imisinga eqinile yokuphila kuyisinqumo futhi kufanele senze lokho kukhetha ngenhloso.