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- Luyini uthando lwezithandani?
- Izigaba zothando lwezithandani
- 1. Isigaba se-honeymoon
- 2. Isigaba somuntu ngamunye
- 3. Uthando oluvuthiwe / isigaba sothando sangempela seqiniso
Sihlala njalo silufuna uthando, silufuna kuzo zonke izindawo ezingafanele nezindawo ezifanele, kepha uthando bekulokhu kugxilwe kakhulu kubantu. Umlando ugcwele izindaba zothando lwezithandani, njengoba abathandi beboshelwe ndawonye- ngentshisekelo nemizwelo. Noma ngabe ukuthatheka noma ukubona ukuthi ungumuntu womphefumulo, luthando olungadala isibopho phakathi kwabantu ababili, oluqine kangako- bagcina sebemunye. Lolu uthando sonke esilufunayo.
Uthando alunazibopho. Akwenzeki ngokuzikhethela komuntu. Ubona umuntu, futhi uma uzizwa ukhangwa yibo- mhlawumbe lokho kuyinkomba yokuthi uyathandana. Ukuhlakulela imizwa kothile kungukuqala kwayo yonke indaba yothando. Ngakho-ke, njengoba niya kuloyo muntu, niyakhuluma, hlanganani izikhathi ezimbalwa futhi into elandelayo niyazi, nobabili nisothandweni.
Hhayi ukusheshisa izinto, kepha uthando alugcini nje ngokuthanda umuntu. Uthando lwakho lwezithandani luzodlula kwezinye izigaba ezimbalwa luze lufinyelele lelo zinga lothando lweqiniso 'lweqiniso'.
Luyini uthando lwezithandani?
Incazelo yothando lwezithandani ingachazwa njengalokho okuvame ukuthatheka noma ukuheha phakathi kwabathandi. Uhlobo lothando olwenza inhliziyo yakho ishaye ngamandla, amadolo akho abe ntekenteke futhi uzithole ungalawuleki uzithole uhlala ucwile emicabangweni yesithandwa sakho.
Uthando lwezithandani yisigaba sokuqala sothando kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo futhi luqhutshwa yimiphumela yehomoni njengoba ubuchopho bakho bukhipha amakhemikhali akwenza uzizwe ujabulile noma unothando. Yilokhu okwenza ukusondelana kwakho, intshisekelo yakho futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, isifiso sakho.
Uthando lwakho lwezothando luphawula ukuqala kokusha. Njengoba nivame ukukhulisa imizwa ngophathina wakho, nobabili nihlala nikhangwa komunye nomunye ngenxa yesisusa esinamandla sobunye obungokomzwelo. Uthando lwezithandani lususelwa ekuheheni ngokobulili obuhlukile- umuzwa ongokwemvelo kubo bonke abantu.
Izigaba zothando lwezithandani
Njengoba kungazelelwe futhi kungazelelwe kungenzeka ukuthi uthando lungena empilweni yakho luvele, kepha kuzothatha isikhathi ukukhula nokukhula eminyakeni edlule. Lokhu kuyadingeka ekukhuleni kobudlelwano obunempilo ngoba uma uthando lwezothando lususelwa enkanukweni yomunye kuphela, khona-ke luzophela ezinyangeni ezimbalwa.
Ubudlelwano buhamba benyuka ngezikhathi zonke, kepha inqobo nje uma uzinikele, uthembekile futhi uthembile kumlingani wakho, uthando lwakho nakanjani luzokuyisa ezindaweni.
1. Isigaba se-honeymoon
Lokhu kuvame ukuba yisigaba esijabulisa kakhulu nesikhangayo kubathandi. Kulesi sigaba, uzozithola udonsela njalo kumlingani wakho ngezifiso zocansi ngokuyinhloko. Konke ukushiyeka nokungapheleli komlingani wakho kubonakala kungabalulekanga kangako, futhi yinkanuko ezobaluleka kuphela. Ingqondo yakho, ngaphansi kwethonya lamahomoni afana ne-dopamine ne-serotonin, izokugcina usesimweni esimnandi njalo.
Ucabanga ngomunye umuntu kangangokuthi uzozithola usucwile emicabangweni yesithandwa sakho cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokhu kuhambisana nesifiso sokuchitha izikhathi ezingokomzwelo nomlingani wakho.
Isigaba se-honeymoon sigcwele idrive yothando olwenza uthando luthande ukuzwa kaningi kumabhayisikobho, kumanoveli, nakumadrama- ukuba sezindabeni.
2. Isigaba somuntu ngamunye
Kodwa-ke, ezinyangeni ezimbalwa, ukuthatheka kuyaphela masinyane, futhi yonke imiphumela yamahomoni yaqala ukuguga. Lesi yisigaba lapho uzoqala khona ukufunda ngomlingani wakho futhi uqaphele imikhuba yabo, inqubo yabo, imicabango yabo, izinkolelo zabo, njll.
Uyeka ukuzenza phambi komunye nomunye njengoba inkanuko nenkanuko kugcina kuphelile. Kuleli qophelo, ushaywa kanzima yiqiniso lapho uthola ukuthi umlingani wakho akaphelele ngendlela obucabanga ngayo.
Ebudlelwaneni obuningi, njengoba ukuphela komgqomo wesigaba sangemva komshado, abalingani bavame ukuzithola becasukelana, okuholela ekulweni nasezingxabanweni.
Kudinga ukubekezela okukhulu ukuhlala phansi, futhi uxazulule izinkinga zakho njengabantu abadala abavuthiwe ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho bukhula.
Hlala uthembekile futhi uhloniphe umlingani wakho kuyo yonke indawo, futhi kuzokusiza ukunqoba izinkinga eziningi.
3. Uthando oluvuthiwe / isigaba sothando sangempela seqiniso
Uma ubuza ukuthi luyini uthando lweqiniso lwezithandani, khona-ke luzochazwa njengesigaba sokunikela esicashile futhi esinokuthula lapho uthando lwakho lwezothando luguqulela esimweni salo esimsulwa. Yize yonke inkanuko yezocansi nemizwa evuthayo iphela, kepha uyavumelana nomlingani wakho.
Nobabili niyaziqonda futhi niyazihlonipha izidingo zomunye nomunye, futhi manje uthando selwenze isibopho esingenakuhlukaniswa phakathi kwenu nobabili. Ukuzinikela okuholela emishadweni ephumelelayo eyakhelwe ezinsikeni zokusekelwa ngokomzwelo, ukuzibophezela, ukuqonda, ukuyekethisa, inhlonipho, ubungane nokwethembana.
Wabelana ngezikhathi ezinhle, ezisondelene nesithandwa sakho futhi wabelane ngamahlaya futhi uzizwe uvulekile ukugxekwa. Lolu hlobo lothando luhlala njalo futhi lunenjongo lapho ubona khona ukuthi udlule ebunzimeni nasebunzimeni nomlingani wakho. Ngakho-ke, uhlala uzimisele ukuhlala nomphefumulo wakho ngaphandle kwesibopho sezifiso. Kuyindlela ethula futhi eyiqiniso kunazo zonke yothando.
Sihlala njalo sifuna uthando. Kepha lapho uthando luza kuwe, kulapho-ke lapho ubona ukuthi indaba yakho ingahle ibe nengqondo.
Zonke izindaba zothando zifanelwe ukuthola isiphetho esijabulisayo. Futhi uma wena nomlingani wakho nizinikele ekwenzeni izinto zisebenze, uthando luzonibambelela nobabili ohambweni lomlingo olungakaze lube khona ngaphambili.