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- Hlonipha umlingani wakho
- Jabulani ndawonye
- Lawula ulaka lwakho
- Yeka ukususa icala
- Yakha ukwethembana futhi
Izinkinga zomshado zingawohloka zize zifike ezingeni lapho imibhangqwana icabanga ukuthi idinga isikhala esihlala njalo ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ukuvikela ukulimala okungenakulungiswa emzimbeni wabo, engqondweni, emoyeni nasemphefumulweni. Ngemuva kwalokho bavame ukuphendukela ekuhlukaneni. Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi ukwehlukana komshado akuvimbeli isehlukaniso kunalokho kungaholela kokunye. Ukwehlukaniswa kuvame ukuba yisikhathi somzwelo kubantu abashadile abazithola bemiswa ndawana thize phakathi komshado nesehlukaniso. Imizwa yokungaqiniseki, usizi, ukwesaba, intukuthelo nesizungu kulindeleke. Lapho kunokuhlukaniswa, kuba khona usongo oluzayo lwesehlukaniso — okuvame ukuthi kube ukuphela komshado ngokuphelele. Indlela ozizwa ngayo ngokuhlukana kwakho komshado ibizoncika ekutheni bekunguwena ozoyiqala noma cha, futhi-ke ukuthi bekuyiziphi izizathu zezinkinga nezinkinga emshadweni wakho.
Ukwehlukana kufana nokuziphendukela kwemvelo kepha kunemizwa yokudideka ngekusasa. Ngenxa yemizwa enamandla ukwehlukana okubangelwa, izinqumo eziphuthuma, ezenziwa ngamawala nokujaha zivame ukwenziwa. Lezi zinqumo zivame ukulimaza umshado.
Ukufunda ukuhloniphana isikhala nobuntu bomunye nomunye ngaphakathi kwendlu kungasindisa umshado ngemuva kokuhlukana ngesehlukaniso- lokhu kuhamba ibanga elide ekukhuthazeni ukuxhumana okunempilo nokuthuthukayo nokuxhumana.
Izinyathelo ezilandelayo zingasiza ekuvuseleleni umshado ngesikhathi sokuhlukana:
Hlonipha umlingani wakho
Isinyathelo sokulungisa nokonga umshado wakho ukufunda ukuthi ungamhlonipha kanjani umlingani wakho futhi. Kungenzeka kube nemizwa yentukuthelo, usizi, ukwesaba nentukuthelo enhliziyweni yakho ngenxa yesikhathi sakho esedlule kepha udinga ukukuyeka. Udinga ukuthanda nokuhlonipha umlingani wakho ngobuntu babo nokuthi bangobani ngempela. Uma usukwazi ukuhlonipha umlingani wakho ukuthi ungubani, ungathola indlela yokulungisa ukungaboni ngaso linye kwakho ngendlela enomusa futhi ecabangayo nenengqondo. Ukuhloniphana kuyisisekelo nesisekelo sobuhlobo bonke ngisho nomshado.
Jabulani ndawonye
Ukuzijabulisa ndawonye njengezithandani kungenye yezindlela zokonga umshado wakho ngemuva kokwehlukana. Ukuhlala ndawonye, ukuya kumamuvi, ukuya ohambweni, imibukiso, amakhonsathi ndawonye kuyindlela yokuvuselela uthando nentshisekelo emshadweni ngemuva kokwehlukana. Thatha isikhathi esithile ukuze ube nokuzijabulisa okuncane nomlingani wakho kaningi. Lokhu kuzokwenza ukwazi ukuxhumana kabusha ndawonye futhi kuvuselele uthando nentshisekelo enaninayo komunye nomunye ngaphambi kokwehlukana. Njengoba nje wenza ezinsukwini zokuqala zomshado wakho noma indlela owenza ngayo ngenkathi uthandana yiyona okufanele iqale ukwenziwa. Noma, ukwahlukana kwenza izinto zibe yinkimbinkimbi kepha lena indlela yakho ekhethekile yokukubonisa ukuthi usathanda futhi uyikhathalele injabulo yomuntu wakho.
Lawula ulaka lwakho
Ukulungisa umshado ngemuva kokwehlukana, kufanele ufunde ukulawula intukuthelo yakho. Kufanele ufunde ukuthi ungazola futhi uphole kanjani lapho usuthukuthele. Unganquma ukuyozihambela ngaphandle noma kunini lapho ubona ukuthi uthukuthele. Akufanele uzame ukujikijela nokuhlukumeza oshade naye noma nini lapho nixabana noma ningavumelani naye. Kungalimaza ubuhlobo ozama ukubusindisa. Qiniseka ukuthi wehlise umoya noma ngabe umlingani wakho uyabila futhi uyakhathazeka, melana nesilingo sokujikijelana ngamazwi anokhahlo emshadweni.
Yeka ukususa icala
Isinyathelo esibalulekile sokonga ubudlelwano ngemuva kokwehlukana ukuthatha umthwalo ophelele wezenzo zakho, ukungasebenzi, ukungalungi, amaphutha namaphutha. Uma ufuna ukuphinde uhlangane noshade naye kungukubuyela emuva ngokuphelele ukuthukuthela, ukuveza inzondo nokususa icala kuye ngezenzo zakho. Udinga ukufinyelela endaweni yokwazi ukwaba ukulimala nemizwa yakho ngendlela eyakhayo ngenhloso yokuqonda nokubambisana ukuze unqobe izinkinga emshadweni wakho. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo nendoda ngezenzo zakho nokuziphatha kwakho kunokuba usole omunye umuntu.
Yakha ukwethembana futhi
Ukwethembana kuyisithako esibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bomshado. Kuyisisekelo lapho umshado nobunye ubuhlobo bume khona. Ngaphandle kokwakha kabusha ukwethembana obukade unakho kumlingani wakho noma kumlingani wakho ake waba nakho kuwe, ngiyaxolisa ukukutshela ukuthi umshado uzowa.
Kuthatha isikhathi esifushane kakhulu ukuqeda ukwethemba othile anakho ngawe nesikhathi esithe xaxa sokwakha kabusha. Ukwakha ukwethembana kudinga ukuthi uhlale uhlole indlela oziphatha ngayo, uqaphele kakhulu ukuthi niphathana kanjani. Ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana emshadweni ongajabule kuyisihluthulelo esikhulu sokubuyisa uthando nentshisekelo emshadweni ngemuva kokwehlukana. Uma ufuna ukusindisa umshado wakho ngemuva kokwehlukana udinga ukhiye!