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- 1. Misa udaba futhi uqinisekise oshade naye ukuthi sekuphelile
- 2. Zilungiselele ukuphendula yonke imibuzo
- 3. Zwelana noshade naye
- 4. Qhubeka ukhulume futhi ulalele, noma ngabe kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani
- 5. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
- 6. Phatha okulindele
Uma uzama ukwelapha umshado wakho ngemuva kokuqomisana, siyakuzwela.
Kuyinselelo enzima, kepha ungayinqoba eyodwa uma wena noshade naye nitshala umzamo wokufunda ubuciko bokwakha kabusha imishado ngemuva kokuhlukumezeka kokungathembeki.
Inqubo yokwakha kabusha umshado wakho yehlukile kumlingani ngamunye.
Ngezansi uzothola amathiphu ethu amahle kakhulu okusiza oshade naye ongathembekile ukuba aqonde ukuthi yini okudingeka bayenze ukuqinisekisa ukuthi inqubo yokwelashwa inethuba elihle lokuphumelela.
1. Misa udaba futhi uqinisekise oshade naye ukuthi sekuphelile
- Sika konke ukuxhumana nomthandi wakho - Kubalulekile ukuthi uqonde ukuthi uma ufuna ukulungisa umshado wakho, awukwazi ukubeka engcupheni yokuthi ube ngumngane walowo owayethandana naye. Okungenani hhayi uma ufuna ukusindisa umshado wakho. Ngeke nje kusebenze.
- Thembeka koshade naye - Kulesi sigaba, kubalulekile ukwethembeka koshade naye. Uma kwenzeka ubone isithandwa sakho ngenhlanhla, tshela umlingani wakho, futhi wazise umlingani wakho uma othanda umthandi wakho exhumana nawe. Ngeke kukuthokozele ukwenza lokhu, kepha kuzokuvumela wena noshade naye ukuthi nibonisane ngalesi simo futhi niqale nokwakha ukwethembana kabusha.
- Khombisa oshade naye ukuthi ususe bonke oxhumana nabo nesithandwa sakho sakudala - Khombisa lokhu ngokususa imininingwane yokuxhumana futhi ususe ukuxhumana kwakho nemidiya yakho yokuxhumana nesithandwa sakho sakudala phambi koshade naye. Kungasiza futhi oshade naye ukuthi athuthukise ukwethembana futhi uma ubavumela isikhathi esifushane ukuthi bakwazi ukufinyelela ezinkundleni zokuxhumana nocingo ukubasiza baqonde ukuthi lolu daba seluphelile futhi akukho okufihlayo.
- Gwema eminye imihlangano eyimfihlo ngisho nabangani nomndeni - Kungadala i-paranoia kumlingani wakho futhi kuvule kabusha amanxeba entekenteke.
- Gcina ukuxhumana kwebhizinisi kufana uma kudingeka - Uma usebenza nalo muntu, gcina ukusebenzisana kwakho kunjengebhizinisi futhi ulungele ukuxoxa nomlingani wakho ukuthi uzohlala usebenza nesithandwa sakho noma cha. Khumbula ukuthi imisebenzi iyashintshwa, kepha umshado wakho awunjalo.
Izeluleko ezikulesi sigaba zonke zibukeka zibanda futhi zinokhahlo, kepha ukuphela kwendlela lapho uzokwazi ukuqala khona ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana phakathi kwenu.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi izinto zizobuyela kwesijwayelekile. Yize noma yikuphi ukuziphatha okuyimfihlo ngokuzayo kungadala ukukhathazeka koshade naye - kufanele uqaphele lokho.
2. Zilungiselele ukuphendula yonke imibuzo
Ochwepheshe abaningi bemishado bathi imibhangqwana iwuphulukisa kangcono umshado wayo uma lowo okopelayo ephendula yonke imibuzo abashade naye abanayo mayelana nobudlelwano babo.
Kuyasiza oshade naye okhohlisiwe ukuthi aphulukise futhi avumelanise imininingwane. Kuphinde kwehlise noma yikuphi ukuthi 'kuthiwani uma?' ubuza imibuzo futhi asuse yonke imfihlakalo kulesi simo, ngaleyo ndlela, asize oshade naye ukuba azizwe ekwazi ukulawula isimo futhi angabi sengozini kakhulu.
Kususa izimfihlo futhi kuthuthukisa ukwethembana.
3. Zwelana noshade naye
Masibe qotho; ukhohlisile, uzodinga ukuthatha imiphumela yalokho, uzodinga ukwamukela impendulo engokomzwelo ozokunikezwa ngumlingani wakho.
Lokhu ngeke kube kuhle.
Kubalulekile ukuthi oshade naye abe nesikhathi nesikhathi sokuveza imizwa yakhe ngalesi simo (kufaka phakathi ukulimala nentukuthelo yabo). Ngenkathi oshade naye eveza imizwa yabo, kubalulekile ukuthi usebenzise uzwela noma ngabe izinto zibukeka zikhungathekisa kanjani.
Lobu bunzima buzodlula.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi wakhe kabusha okuthile okuncane ngokwamukela ukusabela koshade naye nokuzwelana nabo. Dlula kulesi sigaba ngempumelelo futhi oshade naye uzoqala ukuzizwa ebanjwe nguwe ngokomzwelo. Futhi, ngendlela exakile, usanda kudala umzuzu omusha osondelene phakathi kwenu, ongathathwa njengezinyathelo zokuqala zomshado omusha onempilo.
4. Qhubeka ukhulume futhi ulalele, noma ngabe kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani
Khumbula ukuthi awukwazi ukuphoqa inqubo yokuphulukisa koshade naye. Kungadingeka badlule kulesi simo nawe izikhathi eziningi ngaphambi kokuthi basilalise.
Dlulisa umkhuba, thembeka, khuluma noshade naye, ubalalele bese uzama ukwenza izinguquko ezidingekayo ukuze udlule kulokhu noma ngabe kuthatha isikhathi eside.
5. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
Kungaba nezizathu zokuthi kungani nithandane.
Mhlawumbe, umshado wakho wawusemadwaleni, impilo yakho yezocansi yayingekho, futhi oshade naye wayenenkinga yokuxhumana nawe. Akunandaba ukuthi yini ekuholele kule ndawo, ngaphandle kwezimo, usole oshade naye.
Ungabhekana nanoma yiziphi izingqinamba eziholela ekukopeleni kwakho njengoba wakhe kabusha umshado wakho, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi ungamsoli oshade naye.
Esikhundleni salokho, xolisa kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, khombisa ukuzisola nokuzisola ngobuqotho. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuze uqinisekise oshade naye ukuthi ngeke uphinde ukhohlise. Kungase kudingeke ukuthi ukuphinde lokhu kaninginingi kuze kube yilapho oshade naye ekwethemba.
Kepha yilokhu okudingeka ukwenze ukulungisa umonakalo odalekile. Kuzoba nesikhathi nendawo yokusebenza nganoma yiziphi ezinye izindaba ezazikhona emshadweni ngaphambi kokwenza lo msebenzi, kamuva ngesikhathi sokululama.
6. Phatha okulindele
Ungadukiswa ucabange ukuthi ukuxolelwa kuza ngokushesha noma kalula. Uzokwenza iphutha.
Ungalindela ukuzwa intukuthelo, izinyembezi, ukufutheka, ukusolwa, ukuzihlukanisa nakho konke okunye okuphakathi komlingani wakho. Hlala nayo. Kuzodlula - ikakhulukazi uma oshade naye ethatha izinyathelo ezifanele zokuphulukisa kulolo daba futhi.