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- Silangazelela ukuzizwa siphephile futhi sanelisekile ebuhlotsheni bethu
- Bhekana nezinselelo zobudlelwano ngosizo lochwepheshe
- Inselele yokwelashwa kobudlelwano
- Umelaphi angakusiza ngobuhlobo obenelisayo kuwe
NjengoPsychotherapist ekusebenzeni okuyimfihlo, ngibona imibhangqwana eminingi nemindeni futhi ngizwa okuningi ngezinkinga zobudlelwano. Ngenkathi ubudlelwano buhlukile njengabantu, kunokufana okuthile uma kukhulunywa ngenhlalakahle yobudlelwano.
Silangazelela ukuzizwa siphephile futhi sanelisekile ebuhlotsheni bethu
Ukucwaninga kwezempilo ebudlelwaneni kusekelwe emibonweni yokuthi sifunde kanjani ukuzizwa siphephile futhi sanelisekile ngokuba sengozini futhi sincike kwabanye, ngokuya ngemibono yokufunda kwasekuqaleni mayelana nokunamathiselwe.
Kukhona nesayensi eningi ekuxhumaneni ngempumelelo nasekuxazululeni izinkinga, nokuthi zikuthinta kanjani ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano. Okubaluleke ngokulinganayo, ukuzazi kanye nokukwazi komuntu ukubhekana nokulawula imizwa nokuziphatha ngoba nakho lokho kunomthelela ebudlelwaneni. Lezi zinto zingalungiswa ekwelashweni.
Bhekana nezinselelo zobudlelwano ngosizo lochwepheshe
Yize kungewona wonke umuntu ohlale evulekile ukufinyelela kuchwepheshe ukuze asize ekubhekaneni nezinselelo zobudlelwano, iningi likulungele ukufuna usizo ngamanxeba obudlelwano. Kodwa-ke ukwelashwa kungaba yindlela yokuzikhandla ekuvimbeleni ukonakala kobuhlobo. Abantu ebudlelwaneni bakha izimpendulo ezinephethini komunye nomunye ezingamelana noshintsho ngoba ziyazenzekela, futhi kunzima ukuzibona noma ukuziqondisa kabusha.
Umelaphi angasiza abantu ukuthi bazi izindawo ezingaboni, baqonde ukuthi yini ebangela ukusabela, futhi banikeze abantu ithuba lokushintsha amaphethini. Ukwelashwa kungasiza ukunikela ngezindlela ezintsha zokubonana nokuxhumana maqondana nokuxazululwa kwezinkinga okungcono nokwaneliseka okuhlangene.
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Inselele yokwelashwa kobudlelwano
Umelaphi uhlala azi ukuthi yini edingekayo futhi kudingeka nje ukuthi aphumelele ekwazini ukuthi angasiza kanjani amaklayenti ukuthi akubone, futhi enze lula ukufunda kwawo. Lapha siza inselelo yokwelashwa kobudlelwano. Njengoba kushiwo, kwesinye isikhathi abantu bangena lapho sebelungele ukuhlukana noma ukuhamba.
Ukulungela ushintsho kudinga ukuqwashisa okuthile, isibindi, ukugqugquzela, nokuvuleleka. Lokhu kungaba yinselelo yokwelashwa njengoba umelaphi engaqhubekisela phambili izinto kakhulu njengoba umuntu ongakhuthazekile kangako efuna ukuthi bathuthuke. Uma othile enonyawo olulodwa emnyango, lokho kuyisithiyo esikhulu. Futhi, ukusebenza ngamandla nokukhuthazeka kubalulekile.
Amakhasimende avame ukukhuthazeka kakhulu ukunciphisa ukuhlupheka kwabo ebudlelwaneni, futhi babheka ukwelashwa kobudlelwano ukuzwa izikhalazo zabo nokuqeda izinhlungu zabo. Lokhu kungaba yinselelo futhi, njengoba kuvamise ukuthi kube nemibono eyehlukene nezidingo ezahlukahlukene okumele kuhlangatshezwane nazo egumbini. Umelaphi kufanele aqinisekise ukuthi wonke amaqembu azizwa ezwa futhi ehlonishwa ukuze kwakheke ukwethembana futhi asize abantu bavule futhi baqhubekele phambili. Kwesinye isikhathi lesi sidingo sokuzwakala nje ukuthi umuntu uzizwa elinyazwa kanjani wukuziphatha komunye umuntu empeleni singaphazamisa ekwakheni ubudlelwano bokuthembana phakathi kwezithandani nodokotela uma kuqhubeka isikhathi eside kakhulu noma kungalingani. Lapha sifika kunothi yegolide.
Umelaphi angakusiza ngobuhlobo obenelisayo kuwe
Indima kadokotela ekusizeni umbhangqwana isiza i- ubuhlobo. Izinhloso zokwelashwa zidinga ukusebenzisana futhi kuvunyelwane ngazo. Zonke izinhlaka ezithintekayo kufanele kwesinye isikhathi zibe nomqondo wokuthi zifunani ekwelashweni nokuthi zifunani kumelaphi. Akubona bonke abelaphi abangavumelana nalokhu, kodwa kube yisipiliyoni sami ukuthi abantu abacaciseleka ngokwengeziwe ngalokho abafuna ukukuthola ekwelashweni, futhi lapho kucace bha ukuthi wonke umuntu usendimeni yomelaphi, umphumela wokwelashwa uzosebenza ngempumelelo kube. Abantu bavame ukungena lapho sebephelelwe yithemba. Badinga ukuzwakala futhi bazizwe beqondakala. Badinga ukufunda ukubamba ngempumelelo indawo ephephile yemizwa yomunye nomunye nokuzwelana.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuyadingeka kepha akuvamisile ukuthi ushintsho lwenzeke. Lapho umbhangqwana ungaqala ukucabanga ngalokho okufunayo komunye nomunye nasekwelashweni, umelaphi angabasiza kakhulu ekwenzeni izinguquko abazidingayo ukuze babe nobudlelwano obenelisa kakhulu.
Uma uzizwa ulimele futhi uphelelwa yithemba ngempilo yobudlelwano bakho, kepha kusekhona ikhono lokukhulumisana, kungasiza impela ukuthi izithandani zikulungele ukwelashwa ngokuxoxa ngezinhloso zazo ezifanayo. Uma lokhu kungenzeki, umelaphi ofanele angasiza ekwenzeni ingxoxo enenhlonipho lapho lezi zinhloso zingakhula khona. Vula ukuze ushintshe!