-Delile
Ah ... L'amour. Izigaba zokuqala zothando zingaba yinto ejabulisayo engakushiya ungaboni amaphutha wesithandwa sakho semvelo. Kwabanye, ukuthandana kungukuhlangenwe nakho kokwamukelwa okuphelele ngokuphelele komunye; ukwamukela nokuncoma nobuntu obuncane bokungafani nokwehluka kokuziphatha. Izingubo ezingcolile ezisakazeke phansi noma izintambo zemithi yokuxubha ezinosuku kusinki azinakwa kalula noma zingahle zibonakale zithandeka ngendlela esontekile. Uthando lwethu olusha alunakwenza okungalungile. Singazizwa sengathi isithandwa sethu siphelele ngoba lolu thando olusha luyasiqedela, lusisindisa okwesikhashana kusuka ebunyeni bethu nasekufeni okuzayo.
Buyela eqinisweni
Kepha ... akekho umuntu ophelele. Ekugcineni, leyo nkungu yothando evalekayo iqala ukuphela futhi amaphutha neziphambeko zabathandi bakho kucace. Ngandlela thile lezo zingubo phansi kanye ne-smudges yomuthi wokuxubha ziba nzima kakhulu. Kwemibhangqwana eminingi, ukuphuma esigabeni se- "honeymoon" nokubona ubuqiniso bomlingani wabo kungaqala isikhathi sokuqhelelana ngokomzwelo nokungamukeli. Kuyindida ukuthi izimfanelo ezake zamukelwa futhi zabonwa njengezikhangayo zingaba yizimfanelo ongazithandi futhi ofuna ukuzishintsha kokunye. Izimfanelo ezibuyile ozithole zithandeka kakhulu lapho uhlangana okokuqala, manje zingazizwa zingalungile futhi zifane nokuntula isifiso noma ukuvilapha. Noma mhlawumbe lowo mthandi ovelele futhi ohlelekile owanike amandla umoya wakho ekuqaleni, manje uba ngumuntu ocindezela kakhulu ukuba abe seduze kwakho.
Yamukela ukungapheleli okuphelele
Ubuhle bobudlelwano bezothando ngukuthi uqobo lwakhiwa ngabantu ababili abangafani, abanamanani nobuntu obungafani. Ukuthi imibhangqwana ikukhomba futhi ikubeke kanjani ukungabi bikho kwayo ngokwamukelwa kungaba ukuqeda noma ukunamathela ebudlelwaneni babo. Vele, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi akuyona yonke indlela yokuziphatha noma umehluko okufanele wamukelwe ngokungangabazeki ku-coupledom. Ukuziphatha njengokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba noma ukuba nomehluko obalulekile wenani eliphambili yizibikezelo zobudlelwano obungenampilo, obungagculisi futhi obungaphephile.
Ukusebenza ekwamukeleni umehluko omningi kumlingani wakho kungaba umsebenzi ozuzisa ngokomzwelo kuwe nakumlingani wakho. Umkhuba wokwamukela ukukhulula ekucindezelekeni nasekungajabuleni kwemizamo yakho eyize yokuguqula umlingani wakho. Uma usuyekile ukuzama ukushintsha noma ukulawula umlingani wakho futhi wamukele ukungaboni ngaso linye kwakho, ngeke nje uzizwe ukhululeka, kepha ubudlelwane bakho buzokuzwa bunokuthula futhi buyavumelana.
Ngokwemvelo, umqondo wokwamukela ungaba nzima ukwamukela. Kwabanye abantu, kusho ukuyeka, ukungenzi lutho okuphelele kanye / noma ukunika amandla ukukhetha okuhlukile, izici nokuziphatha komlingani wakho. Noma kunjalo, ukwamukelwa akudingeki ukuthi kubonakale ngaleyo ndlela. Ungakhetha ukuchaza ukwamukela njengokuzimisela ukubekezelela futhi ubone okuhle kulezo zindlela zokuziphatha ongeke uzishintshe.
Nazi izindlela ezi-5 zokuphulukisa ubudlelwano bakho ngokwamukela:
- Yamukela ukuthi umlingani wakho akekho ngaphansi kolawulo lwakho.
- Yamukela ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho aniphelele.
- Yamukela ukuthi umlingani wakho akadingi ukufana nawe.
- Yamukela ukuthi wena nozakwenu ngeke nihlale nivumelana ngaso sonke isikhathi.
- Yamukela ukuthi udinga ukwazi ukuthi usebenza njalo ekwamukelweni.
Impande yengxabano yobudlelwano ayikaze neze ibe ngezingubo phansi noma umuthi wokuxubha amazinyo; imvamisa ngokuphathelene nokulawula, ukuntuleka kokuqwashisa kanye nokukwazi ukwamukela umehluko komunye nomunye. Ngakho-ke uma ufuna ushintsho olunempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho kulo Nyaka Omusha, sebenzela ekudedeleni ukumelana kwakho nemizwa kokungafani kwemvelo komlingani wakho bese uvumela izinto zibe yilokho eziyikho.