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- 1. Khombisa uthando nokusekela kwakho
- 2. Thuthukisa amathuba okuthola ukululama isikhathi eside
- 3. Khuphula amathuba okuhlala ndawonye njengendoda nenkosikazi
- 4. Thuthukisa impilo yakho
- 5. Qinisani ukusondelana kwenu njengezithandani
Uma oshade naye ephakathi kwamaphesenti ayishumi abantu abadala kuleli abelulama ekubeni umlutha wezidakamizwa noma kotshwala, khona-ke ungahle ubhekane nenkinga efanayo. Kuyinkinga evame ukuvezwa imibhangqwana eshadile ekululameni kwasekuqaleni, njengoba ngibonile mathupha ngomsebenzi wami nemindeni yamakhasimende ekwelapheni ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa. Ezimweni eziningi, umlingani weklayenti elulama otshwaleni uyozibuza ukuthi kufanele futhi alinganise kanjani imikhuba yabo yokuphuza. Uma ubuza lowo mbuzo, cabanga ngalezi zizathu ezinhlanu ezinamandla zokuyeka ukuziphuza:
1. Khombisa uthando nokusekela kwakho
Umlutha unikezwa ngokuhlukaniswa. Ikhambi lokuphulukisa uthando nokuxhumana. Lapho othandana naye ezwa kakhulu futhi esekelwa kakhulu, yisikhuthazo sabo sokunamathela ekululameni kwabo - futhi ukwesekwa kwakho kuyindlela yokuphila ebucayi yothando nokusekelwa okungasiza unkosikazi wakho, umyeni noma umlingani wakho ukuthi ahlale ekhuthazekile ekululameni.
2. Thuthukisa amathuba okuthola ukululama isikhathi eside
Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi imiphumela yokutakula iyathuthuka lapho bobabili abashadile bezibophezele ekuzileni. Unyaka wokuqala kulandela ukwelashwa kotshwala futhi lapho oshade naye esengozini enkulu yokubuyela emuva, okungenzeka ukuthi kwenzeke lapho kunezindlela zakudala zokuphuza, njengokukubona uphuza noma ukutholakala okulungele kotshwala endlini.
3. Khuphula amathuba okuhlala ndawonye njengendoda nenkosikazi
Uma ungumuntu ophuza ngokweqile, khona-ke lesi sibalo esilandelayo sithinta wena: Imishado lapho omunye womlingani ephuza kakhulu kungenzeka agcine ngesehlukaniso. Ucwaningo lwango-2013 lwathola ukuthi imishado lapho umlingani oyedwa kuphela ephuza kakhulu (iziphuzo eziyisithupha noma ngaphezulu noma ephuza kuze kube ukudakwa) iphela ngesehlukaniso ngamaphesenti angama-50 esikhathi.
4. Thuthukisa impilo yakho
Noma ngabe ungumuntu ophuza ngokulinganisela kuphela, kunecala eliqinile elenzelwe ukuyeka ukuphuza ngesizathu sokuthi kungcono kuwe. Izifundo zakamuva zotshwala zingabaze ubuhlakani obudumile bokuthi ukuphuza ingilazi yewayini elibomvu ngesidlo sakusihlwa kuyayilungela impilo yakho. Eqinisweni, kubikwa ukuthi abacwaningi baphetha ngokuthi Ijenali yezifundo ngotshwala nezidakamizwa ukuthi izinzuzo zempilo zokuphuza “ziyaxegisa kakhulu.”
5. Qinisani ukusondelana kwenu njengezithandani
Lapho oshade naye esenkingeni yokuphuza ngokweqile nokulutha okusebenzayo, utshwala busebenza njengomuntu wesithathu emshadweni wakho: bekuyisithiyo ekuxhumaneni kwangempela. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi utshwala banciphisa amandla owakwakho wokuzizwa nokuba khona kuwe. (Lokhu sikwazi kusuka ezifundweni zamakhasimende ancike otshwaleni eziphakamisa ukuthi utshwala bonakalisa amandla abo okuzwelana.) Manje njengoba oshade naye engasangulukile, nobabili ninethuba elingakaze libonwe lokuthola lo mqondo ojulile wokuxhumana ngokomzwelo. Lokho kuyiqiniso futhi lapho ukhetha ukungabi nasizotha futhi.
Yonke imibhangqwana eshadile kufanele izinqumele ukuthi izobhekana kanjani nobunzima bezidakamizwa notshwala lapho oshade naye eseluleme. Abanye abayeni namakhosikazi bazokwamukela ukusanguluka njengesinyathelo sesikhashana esisiza othandekayo wabo adlule kuleyo “ndawo eyingozi” (unyaka wokuqala ngemuva kokwelashwa). Abanye ozakwethu bazokhawulela futhi balinganise izindlela zabo zokuphuza (ukuphuza kuphela ezimeni lapho abalingani babo bengekho, ngokwesibonelo). Futhi, abanye ngokuhlanganyela bazibophezela ekuziyekeleni impilo yonke. Le nketho yesithathu ingaba ukukhetha okuhlakaniphe kakhulu, ngokuya ngalezi zinto ezinhlanu.