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Abasanda kushada, leli gama likhumbuza izithombe zabantu ababili abazithele kusofa bephethe umug wekhofi ezandleni zabo bedlala umdlalo ka "Guess ukuthi ngubani ophekayo" futhi uqeda usuku lwabo ngezincwadi zomtapo wolwazi osekudlule isikhathi ngaphansi kwesihlahla sama-apula.
Kodwa-ke, iqiniso likude nalokhu; futhi izindlu eziningi azizi nesihlahla se-apula kepha zinendawo engaphansi ebunjiwe. Amaqiniso okuphila komshado ahluke kakhulu kunalokho okusakazwa kakhulu.
Ukuze ube nomshado ojabulisayo kubalulekile ukubeka izinto eziza kuqala ngaphambi kokuqalisa impilo yenu ndawonye.
Nalu uhlu lokuhlola lwezinto eziza kuqala abantu abasanda kushada okufanele bazicabangele ukwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo nobudala.
1. Yenza okuthile okukhethekile ndawonye
Lokhu, ngamagama alula, kusho ukudala umsebenzi owabiwe. Ngokuyisisekelo, lo ngumbono wokuthi imibhangqwana kumele iqale ukusebenza ngokwakha isiko elifanele ngemuva komshado okungelayo futhi elihlukile ngendlela emangalisayo. Sonke sichitha impilo yethu yonke sigxile ekwakheni ubunikazi bethu ngomndeni wethu nangomsuka wawo.
Ngemuva kwalokho, ngolunye usuku sinqume ngokungazelelwe ukushada futhi siqonde okunye. Kunconywa imibhangqwana ukuthi iqale ukuba nento yayo.
Le nto ingaba isiko njengokunyuka ngezinyawo ngeSonto ekuseni noma ukuhlakulela izindinganiso ezithile njengokungenisa izihambi nokuphana.
Kwesinye isikhathi kungavunyelwana ngephupho ndawonye futhi usebenzele ukulifinyelela njengohambo lweminyaka emihlanu lokuya e-Atlanta noma eGibhithe.
Kodwa-ke, ukuze uthole into ndawonye kumele wazi ukwesaba, amathemba nokungabaza komlingani wakho, kufanele ugxile kumbono wakho, futhi kuzodingeka uzidele.
Ukuba nento kumnandi futhi kuyinto elula ukuyibeka kuqala.
2. I-Fight Fair
Lokhu kusho ukuphatha izingxabano nokuphikisana okuvelayo. Kunesizathu esenza izimbongi nababhali bezingoma bakhangwe yizithombe zosuku olungakhathali lwangoMgqibelo kunokuba kube yiSonto eligcwele ingcindezi. Ukungqubuzana nezimpikiswano akuyona inkondlo, kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi ngeke kwenziwe ngobuciko.
Kubalulekile ukuthi imibhangqwana ibone ukuthi ingxabano ayinakugwenywa; ngokushesha beza ngokuvumelana nalokhu kuqaphela, kungcono.
Lapho izithandani zisebenza kanzima komunye nomunye futhi ziqonda umgogodla kanye nokwakheka kwengxabano yazo, ziyakwazi ukusungula iphethini enempilo yokwethembeka. Lokhu kungasiza ekutholeni isisekelo somshado wabo ekuhambeni okude.
Ngakho-ke lwela ukulingana, uqaphele amaphutha akho bese uxolisa lapho wenze iphutha. Ukulwa nobulungiswa akumnandi kepha kusondelene kakhulu futhi kumele kube yinto ebekwa phambili onyakeni wokuqala nakweminye iminyaka ezayo.
3. Qoqa izinsiza
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu okungasho lutho. Uma usushadile, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuqoqa izinsiza ezifana nodokotela wezokwelapha, umeluleki wezezimali nokuningi.
Qiniseka ukuthi uyamazi umakhelwane wakho, wenza amakilasi okupheka, futhi uvakashela umtapo wolwazi womphakathi. Ngokuyinhloko, zama ukwazi yonke imithombo etholakalayo eyakho nomphakathi wakho.
Imishado ayikho esikhaleni, futhi kufanele wazi ukuthi unganikeza futhi uthathe usizo kuphi, kanjani futhi nini; umphakathi wakho ungakusiza uphume kalula.
Lokhu kubalulekile uma isigaba se-honeymoon siphela, bese ungena ku- “Sinesikhathi eside sishadile, senzenjani manje?”.
4. Azikho ukuzisola
Ngakho konke ukucatshangelwa okungenhla, lokhu okubekwa phambili kungabonakala kuyinqaba. Umshado usebenza kanzima futhi uyisibopho eside; njengoba isikhathi sihamba, nakanjani uzowenza amaphutha. Ukuzisola kuyinto ejwayelekile.
Kodwa-ke, ukuzisola akulungile, ukuzwa izinto ezinjengokuthi “Ngiphuthelwe yizimpawu zokuxwayisa” noma “Bekungafanele sishade kwasekuqaleni” - lokhu akulungile.
Ungaphuthelwa yizimpawu eziyisixwayiso, gcina amehlo akho evulekile ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ungazisoli ngesinqumo sakho. Qiniseka ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buthola ukuhlolisisa obudingayo.
Hlala wazi ukuthi impumelelo yomshado wakho incike kuwe noshade naye ndawonye. Lapho usuzibekile izinto eziza kuqala, nobabili kufanele nizivikele futhi nizilandele. Yenza ushintsho oludingayo, gwema izinto ezicasula oshade naye nokuzidela nokuyekethisa lapho kudingeka.
Zama ukuhlela kabusha izinto ozibeka phambili uma kunesidingo futhi wenze umshado wakho usebenze lapho izikhathi ziba nzima. Thembelani komunye nomunye, thathani usizo ekwelashweni futhi ningasunduzelani kude lapho izinto seziba nzima.
Khumbula ukuthi ukuphonsa ithawula emshadweni wakho kulula kodwa ukukwenza kusebenze kuyisinqumo esingcono kakhulu futhi esijabulisa kakhulu.