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- Yazini ngokujulile
- Xoxani ngokuthi nilindeleni emshadweni
- Khuluma ngekusasa lakho
- Vumani ukuthi nizilawula kanjani izingxabano
- Khumbula usuku lwakho lomshado
- Yiba nokubonga
Kungekudala uzoshada? Nazi izinto ezithile okufanele uzicabangele ngaphambi kokushada.
Enjabulweni yokuthi ungalungiselela kanjani umshado, imibhangqwana ingagxila kalula kakhulu emcabangweni "womshado" futhi inganaki ukuthi "umshado" usho ukuthini ngempela. Lokho kungaba iphutha.
Umshado uphelile emahoreni ambalwa. Umshado uhlala impilo yonke. Yize kunjalo abantu abaningi bachitha izinyanga belungiselela umshado ngaphandle kokucabanga kakhulu ukuthi bangawakha kanjani umshado omuhle.
Nazi izinto ongazenza ngaphambi komshado ezingakusiza ekulungiseleleni umshado.
Yazini ngokujulile
Isikhathi esimaphakathi kosuku lokuqala nomshado cishe siyizinyanga ezingama-25. Leyo yiminyaka emibili lapho imibhangqwana isuka ku- “hello” iye ku- “I do.” Sebenzisa leso sikhathi ukufunda ngomlingani wakho.
Ezinye izinto ongazenza ngaphambi kokushada kungaba ukuhamba ndawonye, ukwenza izinto eziyinselele ndawonye, ukuzibeka ezimweni lapho ningewona amandla akho onke, futhi nibone ukuthi niphathana kanjani omunye nomunye lapho ukhathele, udangele, ugula.
Lokhu kungakusiza kanjani lapho ulungiselela ukushada?
Ngalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, ubungeke bona ukuthi umlingani wakho uziphendula kanjani izindaba ezinhle nezimbi, babhekana kanjani nengcindezi, ngezimo ezingaziwa, ngokuhlukahluka abakwazi ukukulawula.
Ungatshela okuningi mayelana nokuthi impilo yakho yomshado izoba kanjani njengoba nithola omunye nomunye isikhathi esithile. Ungavumeli izinhlansi zothando lokuthatheka zikuvale amehlo kunoma yimaphi amafulegi abomvu.
Futhi lapho lawo mafulegi abomvu evela (futhi azokwenza), khuluma nawo. Ungalenzi iphutha lokucabanga ukuthi izinto zizonyamalala uma usushadile.
Lapho ulungela ukushada, ukukhuluma ngalezi zinkinga kungukuzivocavoca okuphelele kohlobo lwamakhono wokuxhumana ozowadinga phakathi kwempilo yakho yomshado.
Naka indlela osebenza ngayo kulezi zinto manje, ngaphambi kokuba ushade. Uma unenkinga ngokusombulula izingxabano, kungaba uphawu lokuthi udinga ukuletha ukwesekwa kwangaphandle ngendlela yokuba ngumeluleki wangaphambi komshado.
Umeluleki angakusiza ukuthi ulungele umshado ngokukufundisa amathuluzi adingekayo ukubhekana nezinkinga ngendlela ekhiqizayo.
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Xoxani ngokuthi nilindeleni emshadweni
Yiziphi izinto okufanele nixoxe ngazo ngaphambi komshado? Ungaqala ngokuxoxa ngokulindelekile kwakha umshado wakho.
Njengoba nithandana futhi nazana kahle, ingxoxo eyodwa oyofuna ukuyibuyela kaningi eyezinto ezilindelwe.
Uyibheka kanjani impilo yasemshadweni? Uzohlukanisa kanjani imisebenzi yasendlini? Sasizobukeka kanjani isabelomali sakho? Uma amandla akho okuhola engalingani, lokho kuzosho ukuthi ngubani okhokhela ini, noma uzobeka malini wokonga?
Yini okulindeleyo maqondana nokuhlela umndeni, izingane nokunakekelwa kwezingane? Iyiphi indima inkolo okufanele ibe nayo empilweni yakho yomshado?
Ukwazi okulindelwe omunye nomunye kuyasiza ekwakheni uhlobo lomshado olwanelisayo nobabili, ngakho-ke gcina inkhulumomphendvulwano ivulekile, ngaphambi nangemva komshado.
Ukuxoxa ngokulindela kwakho emshadweni kungasiza futhi ekuqondeni ukuthi ungawulungiselela kanjani umshado ngokwezimali.
Buka futhi:
Khuluma ngekusasa lakho
Amamagazini enza impilo yomshado ibonakale icwebezela futhi ihle. Ungena ekhaya elisha; yonke into ayinabala ngamavazi ezimbali ezisanda kusikwa yonke indawo.
Kepha ukusuka ekuhlaleni njengomuntu ongashadile kuya kokuphazima kweso njengababili akuyona inguquko elula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Unemikhuba yakho (ushiya ithawula lakho lokugeza phansi, ngokwesibonelo), kanjalo nothandekayo wakho (uzoke afunde ukubeka isihlalo sangasese phansi?).
Ngakho-ke, ungalungiselela kanjani umshado ngenkathi ungashadile? Kulula; ungalindi ukuthi imikhuba yakho ibe ifolishi lezimpi.
Lapho uhlela ukushada, khulumani ngokuthi niyosebenzisana kanjani nobabili njengeqembu ekwakheni nasekulondolozeni ikhaya lapho ukungqubuzana kungeyona into evamile, futhi lapho kukhona khona isikhala sabantu ababili.
Lapho kuvela izinto ezincane, zibhekise kubo. Musa ukulinda kuze kube usuku lwakho lomshado lwe-10 utshele oshade naye ukuthi uzonda ngokuphelele ukuthi akakaze akhiphe udoti okokuqala lapho umbuza.
Uzozibuza ukuthi kungani ulinde iminyaka eyi-10 ukukhononda.
Vumani ukuthi nizilawula kanjani izingxabano
Yini okufanele uyenze ngaphambi kokushada? Qonda ukuthi ngamunye wenu uzisingatha kanjani izingxabano. Ukwazi izitayela zomunye nomunye zokubhekana nengxabano kuzobaluleke kakhulu njengoba nikhula ndawonye.
Ungahle ungasebenzisi indlela efanayo ukuhambisa izimpikiswano. Ungahle ubambisane ngenkathi umlingani wakho, mhlawumbe umuntu odinga ukuwina ngazo zonke izindlela.
Noma, bangagwema ukungqubuzana ngokuphelele, bakhetha ukunikezela kunokuphazamisa ukuthula.
Noma ngabe izitayela zakho, qiniseka ukuthi zisebenza kahle. Uma kungenjalo, uzofuna ukufaka usizo lwangaphandle ukukufundisa ukuthi "ungalwa kanjani ngokulingana" futhi uvikele izindlela ezingasebenzi ezimeni eziphikisanayo.
Isikhathi sakho sokuphola yisikhathi esifanele sokukhomba noma yiziphi izinguquko ezidinga ukwenziwa ukuze nobabili nihlonyiselwe ukuhlangabezana nezimo eziyinselele futhi niphume ngakolunye uhlangothi ngomusa nangokukhula.
Khumbula usuku lwakho lomshado
Njengamanje, usesimweni esihle sothando esikhiqiza i-endorphin. Konke okwenziwa othandiweyo wakho kuhle, futhi ikusasa lakho ndawonye njengezithandani libukeka liqhakazile futhi likhazimula.
Kepha impilo izokuphonsa kuma-curveballs, futhi kuzoba nezinsuku lapho uzozibuza ukuthi kungani uke wathi "ngiyakwenza" kulo muntu.
Uma lokho kwenzeka, donsela phansi i-albhamu yakho yomshado, noma ubheke iwebhusayithi yakho yomshado, noma uvule incwadi yakho ... noma yini onayo engubufakazi bezinsuku eziyinhloko eziholela ekuzibophezeleni kwakho komphakathi komunye nomunye.
Futhi khumbula zonke izinto ezinhle ngomlingani wakho, zonke izizathu zokuthi kungani ubathanda, futhi wazi ukuthi akekho omunye umuntu ofisa ukuhlanganyela naye ikusasa.
Ukulungiselela umshado, remember ukucabanga ngezimfanelo zoshade naye nokuthi kungani ukhangwa nguye, lokhu kungasiza kakhulu uma ushaya into embi ohambweni lomshado.
Yiba nokubonga
Umkhuba wokubonga wansuku zonke ogxile emshadweni wakho uyindlela enhle yokuvuselela i-quotient yakho yenjabulo. Lo mkhuba ungaba lula noma ube yinkimbinkimbi ngendlela othanda ngayo.
Ukubonga ukuvuka eduze koshade naye, ukufudumala nokuphepha embhedeni onethezekile kuyindlela elula yokuqala usuku ngalunye ngokubonga.
Ukunikeza oshade naye izinsiza zokukusiza ngesidlo sakusihlwa, izitsha, noma ukuwashwa kuyindlela enhle yokuqeda usuku ngokubonga. Iphuzu ukugcina ukugeleza kokubonga kuhamba, ngakho-ke kusebenza njengesikhuthazi, usuku nosuku.