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- Kuhamba kanjani ukuxhumana kwakho?
- Injani impilo yakho yocansi?
- Hlela ucansi ekhalendeni
- Yiba nengxoxo evulekile mayelana nalokho okukuvula ngempela
- Sinjani isimo sakho sezezimali?
- Kumele nithembeke komunye nomunye
- Ngubani owenza lokho ukugcina ikhaya liqhubeka?
- Izeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zezinkinga zomshado: Funa usizo kusenesikhathi
Usuku lapho sithi “ngenza” kubathandekayo bethu, sicabanga ukuthi siyohlala sinezinga eliphakeme elifanayo lentokozo nenjabulo. Ngemuva kwalokho, sesinesikhathi eside sithandana nalo muntu ngakho-ke siyazi ukuthi sibathanda kakhulu. Futhi uthando lungaxazulula zonke izinkinga ezincane ezingase zivele ngesikhathi somshado wethu, akunjalo?
Ngeshwa, kudinga okungaphezu kothando ukubhebhethekisa izingxabano ezinkulu nezincane kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, noma ngabe umuntu ozibophezele njengomshado. Nazi izimo ezinhlanu namasu ahambisanayo ongawasebenzisa ngokuzayo lapho ushaya inkinga emshadweni wakho.
Kuhamba kanjani ukuxhumana kwakho?
Umthombo wazo zonke izinkinga zobudlelwano — kungaba semshadweni wakho, emsebenzini noma nabangani kanye nomndeni, ukuxhumana okungalungile. Ungase ucabange ukuthi ungumuntu okhuluma kahle kakhulu, kodwa uma uhlola njalo ifoni noma i-pc yakho lapho umlingani wakho ezama ukukhuluma nawe, noma wena kubo, lokho kukubeka esigabeni “sezingxoxo ezihluphekayo”.
Uma wena noshade naye nihlala phansi ukubhekana nenkinga evelile emshadweni wenu, into yokuqala enizofuna ukuyenza ukucisha ifoni, ithebhulethi, i-pc nethelevishini.
Misa kancane imithetho ethile yengxoxo, njengokuthi ungaphazamisi omunye ngenkathi bekhuluma, kungekho ukusola, ukungabambi okubi okwedlule ukuze ukhulise ingxabano yakho yamanje, kungabikho zinyembezi, akukho ukukhala, futhi kungabikho ukusuka engxoxweni.
Bakhulume bodwa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi babhekane emehlweni ukukhombisa ukuthi ukhona futhi ulalele.
Uma unenkinga yokugcina amazinga ezwi ephansi, noma uthola imizamo yakho yokulungisa izinkinga iya emibuthanweni futhi ungalokothi uthole isisombululo esigculisayo, thola umeluleki wezemishado oyingcweti noma umelaphi ozokuqondisa wena nomyeni wakho futhi akunikeze nezeluleko zezindlela ezisebenzayo ukuxazulula izingxabano.
Injani impilo yakho yocansi?
Kuvamile kakhulu ukuthi imililo yothando iphele njengoba umshado wakho uqhubeka futhi ubanjwa ukukhulisa izingane, ukuthuthuka komsebenzi nazo zonke ezinye izinto ezinhle (kodwa eziphazamisayo) ezilethwa impilo yasemshadweni. Kepha khumbula: ucansi lubalulekile. Iletha wena noshade naye ndawonye, ikhipha ama-hormone anigcina nihlangene, futhi iyingxenye ebalulekile yekhemistri yombhangqwana ojabulayo futhi onempilo. Ngakho-ke uma uzwa ukuthi ukwenza kwakho uthando kuwela eceleni kwendlela:
Hlela ucansi ekhalendeni
. Inzuzo yokuya ocansini ehlelelwe ukuthi ungachitha usuku oluholela kulokhu "kuqokwa" nithumele imibhalo ye-racy komunye nomunye, kukhulise isasasa lakho ukuze kuthi lapho ekugcineni usuzolala, usukulungele ukuhamba!
Yiba nengxoxo evulekile mayelana nalokho okukuvula ngempela
Enye indlela yokudala yokwenza lokhu ukuthi ngamunye wenu eze nemibuzo embalwa kumlingani wakhe, enjengokuthi “Iyiphi into eyodwa ongathanda ukuyenza embhedeni esingakayenzi?”, Noma “ Ukube ubusembhedeni onenkanyezi yezocansi, ubungacela benzeni kuwe? ” Lezi izindlela ezinhle zokuthola izifiso eziyimfihlo zoshade naye bese uzifaka emdlalweni wakho wezocansi. Konke mayelana nokugcina izinto zisha futhi zishisa!
Sinjani isimo sakho sezezimali?
Imali ingenye yezindawo ezinenkinga ephezulu yemibhangqwana. Lokhu kungavela kumdlalo ongafanele ekusebenziseni noma ekulondolozeni izitayela, noma ukufihla ngezinsizakusebenza.
Kumele nithembeke komunye nomunye
Bheka kahle sonke isimo sakho sezezimali: ukheshi, ukonga, ukutshalwa kwezimali, ingcebo, imoto, imali mboleko yasekhaya neyabafundi. Uma ucwila ezikweletini, kufanele wenze izinguquko ezithile ukuze ubuyele ku-solvency.
Uma ukhuluma ngezezimali zakho, thathani indlela yokuthi nobabili niseqenjini elilodwa, nisebenzela ibhalansi yasebhange evumayo nendlela yokuphila engenazikweletu. Izitatimende ze-Banish ezinjengokuthi “Uma ungathenganga okungaka (okokugqoka, okokusebenza kwezemidlalo, ubhiya, noma yini enye), besizoba nemali eningi ebhange!” Le ngxoxo idinga ukuthi ingasongeli futhi ingasoli.
Vumelani ngamunye wenu "imali yokuzijabulisa" ngokubeka eceleni okuncane kepha lowo nalowo kini angasebenzisa ngaphandle kokuziphendulela ngakho. (Qiniseka ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso. Uma unesikweletu esikhulu, lokhu kungenzeka kungabi njalo.)
Ngubani owenza lokho ukugcina ikhaya liqhubeka?
Uma nobabili nisebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya, nidinga ukuhlukanisa imisebenzi yasekhaya ngokulingana. Imvamisa lokhu akunjalo: abesifazane bahlala benza umsebenzi omningi endlini kunabesilisa. Lokhu kungaholela ezinkingeni emshadweni ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukulungisa ukungalingani ngaphambi kokuthi lokhu kuphenduke isimo sokwehlukaniswa kwesivumelwano.
Uma ukwazi ngokwezimali, isisombululo esihle kunazo zonke kungaba ukukhipha umsebenzi wasendlini, ukuwashwa, uku-ayina kanye nokugcinwa kwengadi.
Uma kungenjalo, sebenzisa uhlu lwemisebenzi bese ubhala phansi yonke imisebenzi edinga ukwenziwa ukugcina ikhaya liqhubeka. Uma unezingane, zibandakanye kule ngxoxo; bonke bangangena ukuze basize. Ngisho nomntwana oneminyaka emibili angakwazi ukufafaza ifenisha. Umgomo ukuthi imisebenzi isatshalaliswa ngokulingana phakathi nesonto.
Izeluleko ezinhle kakhulu zezinkinga zomshado: Funa usizo kusenesikhathi
Uma umbhangqwana wakho uhlangabezana nezinkinga ezibangela ukucasuka phakathi kwakho, ungalindi ukuqhuma okukhulu kwenzeke. Zitholele owelapha umshado lapho ungakhipha khona izikhalazo zakho ngaphambi kokuba zibe zinkulu kakhulu ukuba zingaziwa. Ngeke kusize kuphela ukuthi umshado wakho ubuyele emgqeni, kepha uzofunda izindlela ezibalulekile zokuxazulula izinkinga, amakhono ozokwazi ukuwasebenzisa lapho ushaya esinye isikhathi esinenkinga emshadweni wakho.