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- Uphulukisa umoya ongokomzwelo
- Ukwelapha kubo bobabili abalingani
- Idedela intukuthelo
- Kukhuthaza indawo enokuthula ebudlelwaneni bomshado
- Ikhuthaza ukwethembeka nobuqotho
- Ima isenzo esihle
- Ichaza imbangela yakho elandelayo yesenzo
Ngokwemvelo, imibhangqwana iba nezinselelo ngenxa yokukhuliswa kusuka ekusetheni / ezimisweni ezihlukile zomndeni nobuntu obuhlukahlukene. Okwenza umshado onelisayo noma ongajabuli yikhono lokuphenduka futhi ufune ukuthethelelwa kunoma ikuphi ukwenza okungalungile. Kususa imizwa engemihle enesibopho sokucasuka nentukuthelo. Ikhono labashadikazi lokwamukela amaphutha abo kunokuba badlale izisulu lidala umoya wokuxolelana. Ukuthethelela kuphelele; empeleni, kukuvumela ukuthi uthuthukise isipho sokubekezela nokuzithoba.
Intukuthelo ehlala isikhathi eside iqeda isibopho esiqinile esingokomzwelo phakathi kwabantu abashadile okuholela ekuqhekekeni kokuxhumana. Okwamanje kunokuntuleka kokuxhumana phakathi kwezithandani; ukwamukela umthwalo wemfanelo nanoma yimuphi umzamo wokulungisa umshado awusizi ngalutho. Umphumela jikelele ukuqagela kwentukuthelo nokwehluka okungasonjululwanga okuholela esahlukweni. Nayi imiphumela eyisikhombisa emihle yokuthethelelwa nokuphenduka esikhungweni somshado
Uphulukisa umoya ongokomzwelo
Ukuthethelela akusibo ubuthakathaka kepha ngamandla enkambiso yokwelashwa. Ikhono layo lokunciphisa imicabango engemihle liheha ubuhle. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuphenduka kukuvumela ukuthi wamukele ubuthakathaka bakho ngenhloso yokwenza ngcono ngokusekelwa owakwakho. Okuhlangenwe nakho okugculisayo kwalokhu okubili kukubuyisela emshadweni ojabulisayo.
Ukwelapha kubo bobabili abalingani
Ukuthethelelwa nokuphenduka kunikeza isisekelo sobuqotho ekuxazululeni inkinga. Akukho ukungaqiniseki ngokungafani okungalungisiwe okuvumela imibhangqwana ukuba iqhubekele phambili kunokuba ibambelele kokungavumelani kwabo.
Idedela intukuthelo
Okwamanje kunokuntuleka kokuxolelana emshadweni, ukubona umlingani wakho kudala ubutha. Ngokuphindisela, omunye umlingani wakha umuzwa wokuzivikela ukugwema ukubambana. Kushanela ukungezwani ngaphansi kukakhaphethi. Ingabe uyixazulule inkinga? Ngokuxolela ukhuluma okucabangayo, umlingani wakho uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uthembisa ukushintsha. Yeka impumuzo emshadweni othele izithelo. Ngokuningi ongakhohlwa ngokuya ngezinga lemizwa elimele, akuhlali engqondweni yakho engaphansi ukukhiqiza intukuthelo.
Kukhuthaza indawo enokuthula ebudlelwaneni bomshado
Ukuthula kuyisici sokwaneliseka emshadweni; kusho ukuthi, yize kunezinselelo, ungakwazi ukumamatheka nokuhleka. Ungaphutheli ukuthula ngokuthula, ungathula ngemizwa yolaka. Ukufinyelela ezingeni lokuthethelelwa nokuphenduka, kukhombisa ukukhula kwakho ekusingatheni izingqinamba ngaphandle kokwesaba, kepha ngenhlonipho nangothando. Ukuthethelela kuthuthukisa inhliziyo ehlanzekile engenanzondo nokukwazi ukulawula imizwa yokuhlalisana ngokuthula nomlingani wakho.
Ikhuthaza ukwethembeka nobuqotho
Ucela ukuthethelelwa lapho usukulungele ukubhekana nemibuzo enzima; uzimisele ngokuxolela futhi uyeke ulaka nentukuthelo ngoba ulangazelela ukubuza oshade naye ngokuthobeka ukugwema ukuphinda iphutha. Kuleli zinga, wonke amaqembu athembekile futhi aqotho komunye nomunye ukubeka yonke into ngendlela efanele ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa. Ukuxolelana kuvula ishaneli yakho yokuxhumana- ipharamitha eyinhloko yomshado ophumelelayo.
Ima isenzo esihle
Ukwazile ukuthola imfihlo ejulile yomlingani wakho; njengoba ulinde ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuyikhuluma, umlingani wakho ukubiza ngosuku lwekhofi ukuze akuchaze, kepha akanalo ulwazi ngokwazi kwakho. Uzizwa kanjani? Ngokuzenzekelayo, intukuthelo iyaphela, inikeze ithuba lenkulumo evuthiwe nevumayo. Isenzo sokwamukela isenzo esingalungile senza ingqondo yakho eyakhayo ikunikeze ukwesekwa ukunciphisa ubuthakathaka unomphela. Khumbula, akusona isikhathi sokusola oshade naye noma ukuthukuthela naphezu kobunzima besimo.
Ichaza imbangela yakho elandelayo yesenzo
Yebo, ngemuva kokubonisana ngesimo sakho; mhlawumbe oshade naye uthathe lesi senzo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakho okudelelayo. Ukuthethelela kudala indawo yokuqhubekela phambili ngokufaka imizwa yazo zombili izinhlangothi. Ongoti bemishado baqinisekisa ukuthi ukuthethelela kuyisinyathelo sokubuyiselwa kwemishado. Ivumela imibhangqwana ukuthi ikhulume ngokukhululekile futhi yabelane ngemizwa yayo yangaphakathi ebalulekile esikhungweni somshado ngenhloso yokuxoxa ngendlela eya phambili yokuphila kuze kube phakade.
Isenzo sokuxolela futhi uphenduke isiminyaminya sabantu ababili. Njengoba ucela ukuxolelwa, umlingani wakho kumele abe nokuzimisela ukukuxolela - lokho ngukuqedwa kwenqubo. Ukuqhubeka komshado wakho ojabulisayo kuncike ekhonweni lakho lokugxila enhlosweni enkulu “yokuhle kube kubi” ngokuxhumana njalo, ukuxolelana, ukuphenduka, nokuzimisela ukuyeka okwedlule ungabi nasici sokwahlulela. Ukuthethelela akunamibandela futhi akunamkhawulo kumvamisa, empeleni, kungukutholwa kwangaphakathi.