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Cishe usuvele wazi ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuqondile ukuthi kungaba nzima kanjani kwesinye isikhathi ukuzizwa sengathi usekhasini elifanayo nomlingani wakho, ukuthi umuntu onaye namuhla usenguye lowo muntu othandana naye. Ubudlelwano buyashintsha futhi enye yezingxenye ezinzima kakhulu ukugcina inhlansi yokuqala iphila ebusweni bokudlula kwesikhathi.
Kungani izinkanuko zokuqala ziphela?
Kungani lokhu sizizwa sengathi umuntu ebesithandana naye manje ubukeka njengesihambi noma umuntu esihlala naye?
Enye yezinselelo ezibalulekile ukuzicabangela okuhilelekile. Sonke siyalahleka emhlabeni wethu futhi sibambe izinto ngaphakathi lapho sesaba kakhulu ukulimala. Ekuqaleni, singazibeka engcupheni yokuba sengozini ngoba kuncane kakhulu okusengozini. Kepha uma ubudlelwane buqhubeke isikhathi eside, kuyethusa ukuzamazamisa isikebhe. Sincike kakhulu embonweni wozakwethu ngathi futhi sizolahlekelwa kakhulu uma silimala, ngoba akulula kangako ukumane uhambe. Futhi-ke siqala ukuvumela izinto zishelele, sizidlale ziphephile ngokomzwelo, bese sishiya eceleni izingqinamba ezingasonjululwanga ezikhula ngezikhathi ezithile.
Kepha ukufaka izingcuphe ezingokomzwelo yikho okusisondeza, kanti okunye ukwesaba nokuba sengozini kuyadingeka ekugcineni injabulo ethile iphila. Ukuthola izici ezintsha nezijulile zomunye nomunye yilokho okunika ubudlelwane besikhathi eside umuzwa wobusha nokuheha. Ukuxhuma kufanele kwenzeke kabusha kusizinda sokuphepha nokujwayela.
Ake sibheke izithandani ndawonye.
Thatha uDavid noKathryn. Baphakathi kweminyaka engamashumi amahlanu, beshade cishe iminyaka engama-25. Bobabili bangabaphathi abamatasa futhi nesikhathi sakhe ibanga phakathi kwabo. UDavid ubesefuna ukuxhuma kabusha, kepha uKathryn ulokhu emxosha.
Nalu uhlangothi lukaDavid:
Ngiyakuzonda ukukusho, kepha okwamanje ngizwa sengathi uKathryn nami sifana nabantu esihlala nabo kunendoda nomfazi. Noma sobabili simatasa ngemisebenzi yethu, lapho ngifika ekhaya ngivela ekuhambeni noma ngisho kusukela ezinsukwini ezinde ehhovisi, ngilangazelela ukumbona futhi ngilangazelela ukuxhumana. Ngifisa sengathi ngabe singenza okuthile okujabulisayo ndawonye njalo futhi ngiyakhathazeka ukuthi ngamunye wethu ubambe iqhaza ekuzijabuliseni kwethu okuhlukile kangangokuba silahle umkhondo wobudlelwano bethu futhi sibubeka phambili. Inkinga ukuthi uKathryn ubonakala engenandaba nhlobo kimi. Noma nini lapho ngiya kuye noma ngimcela ukuba siphume sobabili futhi senze okuthile kwezenhlalo noma nje kumnandi phakathi kwethu sobabili, uyangibrusha. Kuzwakala sengathi unalo lolu donga phezulu futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngikhathazeka ukuthi usenesithukuthezi nami noma ukuthi akasangitholi ngijabule.
UDavid wesaba ukutshela uKathryn ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Uyesaba ukwenqatshwa futhi ukholelwa ukuthi usevele uyazi iqiniso ngokuziphatha kukaKathryn- ukuthi ulahlekelwe yintshisekelo. Uyesaba ukuthi ukuveza obala ukwesaba kwakhe kuzoqinisekisa ukwesaba kwakhe okubi kakhulu ngaye nangomshado wakhe; ukuthi akaseyona insizwa encane futhi ethokozisayo ayeyiyona nokuthi umkakhe akasamtholi efiseleka. Kubukeka kulula ukugcina imicabango yakhe yangasese kuye, noma okungcono, ukugwema ukucela uKathryn.
UKathryn unombono wakhe kodwa; eyodwa uDavid angayazi ngoba bobabili abakhulumi ngayo.
UKathryn uthi:
UDavid ulokhu efuna ukuphuma ayozijabulisa kodwa akaboni ukuthi ngizizwa kabi ngami, kunzima ukuphuma njengakuqala. Ngokwethembeka, angizizwa kahle ngami. Kunzima ngokwanele ukuthola ukuthi ngizogqokani ekuseni lapho ngiya emsebenzini bese ngizizwa kabi ngami usuku lonke ... lapho ngifika ekhaya ebusuku ngifuna nje ukuba sekhaya endaweni yami yokunethezeka futhi ngingakhathazeki ngokuthi ukugqoka futhi ubone zonke izimpahla ekhabethe ezingasalingani. Umama wayehlala ethi akukaze kube kuhle ukutshela owesilisa ukuthi awuzwa kahle ngendlela obukeka ngayo; umane ubeke ukumamatheka okukhulu ebusweni bese wenza sengathi uzizwa muhle. Kepha angizizwa ngimuhle nakancane. Uma ngizibuka esibukweni kulezi zinsuku, engikubonayo kuphela amakhilogremu athe xaxa nemibimbi.
UKathryn wesaba ngokufanayo ukuthi ukukhuluma ngendlela azizwa ngayo ngaye noDavid kuzomdonsela ukunaka amaphutha akhe futhi kuqinisekise imizwa yakhe engemihle ngomzimba wakhe.
Umuntu wangaphandle angabona kalula ukuthi kungaba nzima kanjani ngalowo nalowo wabalingani ukuthi angathathi izinto uqobo lapho bobabili besaba ukubeka ukwesaba kwabo emgqeni bese bekhuluma ngokwenzeka ngaphakathi, kepha uDavid noKathryn balahlekile ngamunye amakhanda ukuthi akwenzeki kubo ukuthi kungahle kube nomunye umbono ngokuphelele. Lokhu futhi kwenza kube nzima ukuthi lezi zithandani zixhumane futhi ziqinisekise isifiso sazo sokunye.
Ungabi yilezi zithandani!
Awudingi umeluleki wezemishado (yize kwesinye isikhathi kungasiza uma unamathele!) Ukuxazulula loluhlobo lwenkinga; kumayelana nokuzibeka engcupheni bese usho lokho okwaziyo ukuthi kuyiqiniso engqondweni yakho. Kulungile ukwesaba kepha isenzo sokukhuluma sisabalulekile.
Kungokwemvelo ukuthatha izinto uqobo lapho sisengozini enkulu, futhi kulula ukwenza ukucabanga futhi sivale impendulo. Kepha uma ungazimisele ukuthatha ithuba emshadweni wakho, ungahle ungazi ukuthi yimaphi amathuba okusondelana olahlekile!
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