-Delile
- 1. Kungcono noma kubi
- 2. Ukudlala ohlangothini olufanayo
- 3. Khulumisanani
- 4. Phikelela ngekhwalithi esikhundleni sobuningi
- 5. Kugcine kukuhle
Izibalo zisikhombisa ukuthi ukonga umshado nokugcina ukwaneliseka emshadweni kuyinjongo eyinselele kakhulu ukufeza. Ukuthi umsebenzi lowo uzoba nzima kangakanani kuncike ezintweni eziningi ezahlukahlukene kuyadlalwa, kepha kunesizathu esenza imishado yosomabhizinisi ibhekwe njengeyinkimbinkimbi futhi engathembisi neze.
Kubukeka sengathi lolu hlobo lokukhishwa okungaqinisekile futhi olungazinzile luletha izinkinga uma kukhulunywa ngokuthola ibhalansi phakathi "kwempilo" kanye "nomsebenzi". Ngendlela ezuzisayo noma cha, enye ihlala ithinta enye. Kokubili ezamabhizinisi nemishado kuyizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu emphakathini wethu, ngakho-ke sifuna ukuthi zinikele komunye nomunye ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
IHarp Family Institute igxile kule nkinga ikakhulukazi. Umsunguli wayo, uTrisha Harp, unombono onethemba elikhulu ngale ndaba kunalokho esivame ukukuzwa. Okukhonjiswa ngucwaningo lwakhe ukuthi ngisho u-88% wabaphendulile wathi bazophinde bashade, yize kunezinto abazazi manje ngokushada nosomabhizinisi.
Kuneseluleko esithile, uma silandelwa, singakhulisa amathuba okuthi lolu hlobo lomshado luwele ohlangothini oluhle lwezibalo.
1. Kungcono noma kubi
Ukukhuluma ngokomfanekiso, umshado ubuye ube uhlobo lwamabhizinisi.
Kokubili kudinga izinga eliphezulu lokuzinikela nokuzibophezela, futhi kudlule ezikhathini ezinhle nezimbi. Kuyadingeka ukuthi uzilungiselele zombili futhi wenze ukuqonda ukuthi lezo zinhlaka ezimbili zithembekile, nokuthi indlela esisebenzisana ngayo eyodwa inquma indlela esizophatha ngayo futhi sisebenzise enye.
UTrisha Harp uthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi imibhangqwana eshadile yabelane ngayo yonke into, hhayi kuphela lokho okubonakala kuthembisa, kepha futhi nezinkinga nokwehluleka. Uthi umlingani uzohlala ezwa uma izinto zingahambi kahle, futhi ukungazi kungamenza aphazamiseke nakakhulu futhi akhathazeke. Usikisela ukwenza izinto obala njengengxenye esemqoka yokwakha ukubekezela nokwethembana.
2. Ukudlala ohlangothini olufanayo
Noma ngabe bobabili abalingani bangosomabhizinisi noma cha, bangamalungu eqembu elifanayo, futhi okungcono kakhulu abangakwenza emshadweni wabo nakumabhizinisi abo ukwenza ngaleyo ndlela.
Imvelo yethu, inomthelela omkhulu kithina, ngakho ukwesekwa nokwazisa kubalulekile kuyo yonke impumelelo. Ucwaningo lukaHarp lukhombisa ukuthi labo somabhizinisi ababelana ngezinhloso zabo, imibono yabo kanye nezinhlelo zesikhathi eside nabalingani babo babejabule kakhulu kunalabo abangazange. Ngisho namaphesenti angama-98 alabo ababelana ngezinhloso zomndeni babika ukuthi basathandana nabalingani babo.
3. Khulumisanani
Sesibonile ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukusobala, futhi ukuze kube ngaleyo ndlela kuyadingeka ukuzibophezela ekuxhumaneni okusezingeni, okuvulelekile nokwethembeka. Ukuveza nokulalela ngokweqiniso hhayi kuphela amapulani namathemba, kepha futhi ukwesaba nokungabaza, futhi ukuxoxa ngakho ukuphela kwendlela yokwakha ubumbano, ukuqonda nokuzethemba kuzo zombili izinhlangothi.
Ukuhloniphana nokuqondiswa kwezixazululo kwenza kube lula ukusingatha zonke izinkinga, kunciphise ukucindezeleka, futhi kwenza konke ukuwela ethubeni lokukhula nokuthuthuka. Ukuxhumana okwakhayo kuholela emqondweni ozolile, futhi ingqondo ezolile yenza ukunyakaza okuhlakaniphile. Njengoba uTrisha Harp asho, abalingani kufanele bahambisane ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, ngoba "lokho kuyisisekelo esiqinile sanoma yimuphi umshado", kusho yena.
4. Phikelela ngekhwalithi esikhundleni sobuningi
Ezamabhizinisi zivame ukuba yisikhathi esithatha isikhathi, futhi lokho kungenye yezizathu eziyinhloko abashadikazi abaningi abangosomabhizinisi abakhala ngazo. Ukwenza indlela eya empumelelweni kungadinga isikhathi esiningi nomzamo kepha, uma othile ebengalandela iseluleko esishiwo ngaphambilini, lokho bekungeke kusamele inkinga enkulu kangako.
Ukuzibona kuyisidingo esinamandla nokufeza okubalulekile kwawo wonke umuntu, futhi umshado omuhle wenza futhi ukhuthaze izinhlangothi zombili ukuthi zilandele indlela yazo. Isikhathi esiningi samahhala esitholakalayo ngeke sisho lukhulu uma oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bezizwa benqatshelwe. Abantu abazizwa bekhululekile ukulandela amaphupho abo nogqozi lwabo, abanikeza leyo nkululeko abanye futhi, abahlakulela futhi bakhombise ukwazisa ngomlingani wabo obasekelayo, yilabo abangawujabulela kalula umshado wabo, noma ngabe isheduli yabo ingahle icoceke kanjani.
5. Kugcine kukuhle
Indlela esibuka ngayo izinto inomthelela omkhulu kulokho esizoba nakho nazo. Leyo ndlela yokuphila engazinzile engaqinisekile njengosomabhizinisi ingahle ibhekwe njengengozi eqhubekayo, kodwa futhi njengesihambeli esihlala njalo.
Njengoba uTrisha Harp asibonisile, ukuba nethemba nokwenza izinto ngendlela efanele kwenza oshade nabo bakwazi ukunqoba zonke izinselelo nobunzima obungahle butholwe yilolu hlobo lomsebenzi.
Ezamabhizinisi ziyi-adventure enesibindi okungenzeka ukuthi ngeke izikhokhele ngobusuku obubodwa, ngakho-ke ukubekezela nokholo bangabasizi ababalulekile endleleni.