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Kubukeka njengombuzo oyisisekelo lapho othile ebuza, buyini ubudlelwano, akunjalo?
Iqiniso, kunjalo kuyinto umbuzo oyisisekelo. Kepha impendulo iyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe. Abantu sebethandane, bethandana, beshada futhi behlukanisa iminyaka, kepha ababaningi bethu abama bacabange ukuthi kuyini empeleni kusho ukuba ebudlelwaneni obunempilo. Sivame ukudlula emizweni kaningi kunalokho, singafundi okuningi ekuxhumaneni ngakunye esikwenzayo nomunye umuntu.
Iqiniso ngukuthi, sinentambo yokusebenzisana nabantu. Sifisa ukuba nobudlelwano nokusondelana nabanye abantu, ngakho-ke kungokusizuzisa kakhulu ukuthi sibeke izinkombandlela ezithile zokwenza kahle.
Akulula njengomthetho wegolide: yenza kwabanye njengoba ungathanda kwenziwe kuwe.
Kunokuhlukahluka okuningi kokusebenza okwenza ifomula yobudlelwano bekhwalithi ibe yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho kubonakala. Yize kungahle kube yinkimbinkimbi ngokuphelele, ngokuqinisekile kunezinsika ezithile obuboniswe kuzo bonke ubudlelwano obukhulu esake sazazi. Ake sithathe umzuzu sixoxe kabanzi ngalezi zinsika, futhi sethemba ukuthi uma sikwazi ukuzicindezela phansi, sizoba nesibhamu empilweni yothando.
Ukuxhumana
"Inkinga eyodwa enkulu kwezokuxhumana ukukhohlisa ukuthi sekwenzekile".
- UGeorge Bernard Shaw
Futhi lapho unayo. UMnu. Shaw udalule esinye sezithiyo ezinkulu ebudlelwaneni bekhwalithi, futhi ukwenze lokho ngomusho owodwa. Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi sivulelekile futhi sethembekile kokunye kwethu okuphawulekayo, kepha empeleni, siyazigodla. Asibonisi uhlangothi lwethu olujule kakhulu ngoba sesaba ukuthi umuntu ohlezi ngaphesheya kwethu uzokuthola kukubi.
Ukuzibamba kanjena kusibangela ukuthi sizibambe kwezinye izindawo zobudlelwano noma zomshado, futhi. Amanga amhlophe lapha, ukushiywa lapho, futhi kungazelelwe kukhona izikhala ezidalwe kulokho owake wacabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo obuqotho futhi obuthembekile. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lezi zikhala ziyakhula, futhi ukuxhumana okholwa ukuthi kukhona empeleni akukho.
Vuleka. Thembeka. Khombisa umlingani wakho uhlangothi lwakho olubi. Yindlela kuphela yokwenza ubuhlobo bakho bube yiqiniso kulokho ocabanga ukuthi kuyikho.
Ukwethemba
Ngaphandle kokwethembana, awunalutho. Ubudlelwano kufanele bube ikhaya lakho elingokomzwelo, into ongathembela kuyo ukuthola induduzo. Uma ungamethembi umlingani wakho, uzozishayela wena (futhi mhlawumbe nabo, futhi) uhlanye nendaba ngemuva kwendaba oyidalile ngaphandle komoya omncane. Uma ungazizwa sengathi ungamethemba umlingani wakho ngenhliziyo nangomphefumulo wakho, usendaweni engafanele.
Bathi uthando aluboni, futhi uma kukhulunywa ngokwethembana, kufanele kube njalo. Hhayi ukusho ukuthi kufanele ube ungazi lutho noma yini efana naleyo, kepha wena kufanele ukwazi ukukholwa ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nihlala nenza ngendlela ehlonipha wena nobudlelwano bakho, ngaphandle kwezilingo ezingaba khona lapho.
Yiba yidwala
Uyazi ukuthi umama wakho noma ubaba wakucosha kanjani ngenkathi uwa phansi lapho useyingane? Lapho usukhulile futhi usumdala ngokwanele ukuthi ungaya emhlabeni, usadinga lolo hlobo lokuxhaswa okungashabalali. Abazali bakho bayohlala bekhona ngandlela thile, kepha indima "yedwala" empilweni yakho izokwehlela komunye wakho obalulekile.
Wena nomlingani wakho kufanele nizimisele futhi nigqugquzeleke ukuthi nithathane lapho omunye ezizwa edangele. Uma othile emndenini wabo eshona, kufanele ube yihlombe labo ukukhala kulo. Uma bedinga ukwesekwa ekuqaleni ibhizinisi, kufanele ube yilokho kumamatheka okubabingelelayo lapho ekugcineni izinto zihamba kojantshi.
Akuzikhetheli, kuyadingeka. Udinga ukuba ngumuntu obathweleyo ezinsukwini zabo zobumnyama, futhi kufanele bazimisele ukubuyisa umusa.
Ukubekezela
Njengabantu, sithambekele ekuziphatheni kabi. Sinesono esakhelwe kuyi-DNA yethu. Ukuthatha isinqumo sokuchitha impilo yakho nomunye umuntu kuyindlela yokuthi "Ngiyakwamukela njengoba unjalo, amaphutha nakho konke."
Futhi kusho ukuthi.
Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho bekuhlanyisa khona ngokuphelele.
Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho bekulimaza khona imizwa yakho.
Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho bakhohlwa ukwenza okuthile abathembise ukuthi bazokwenza.
Ingabe kufanele ubadedele? Cha, neze. Kepha njengoba uzama ukwenza ukuthula ngemuva kokwephula isithembiso noma ukusho okuthile okulimazayo, udinga ukubabekezelela. Bangaphinda bakwenze futhi, kepha amathuba amahle ukuthi abaqondile ukukulimaza kule nqubo.
Abantu bahle ngokwemvelo. Kepha futhi abaphelele. Thembela ukuthi umuntu othi uyakuthanda akabi nonya. Kholwa ukuthi bathambekele ekwenzeni amaphutha ayizimungulu, njengawe.
Yiba nesineke nomlingani wakho, ukuphela kwendlela izinto ezizohlala ngayo.
Phila ngaphandle kwendaba yakho yothando
Vumela umlingani wakho kanye nawe ukwenza izinto ezingaphandle kobudlelwano bakho. Zimele komunye nomunye ngenkathi nithandana ngokujulile.
Umshado uvame ukuthi lapho abantu ababili baba munye. Yize kuyisisho esihle, akudingeki ukuthi ilandelwe ngokusobala.
Yiba nomsebenzi wokuzilibazisa ongahlanganise lutho nabo, futhi ubakhuthaze ukuba benze okufanayo. Akukona ukuthi udinga ukuziphoqa ukuthi uchithe isikhathi ngokuhlukana, kungenxa yokuthi ukuzakhela izintshisekelo ebudlelwaneni bakho kunempilo kakhulu. Ikuvumela ukuthi uchithe isikhathi esithile nihlukene, bese nizijabulela ngempela izikhathi enihlanganyela ngazo.
Awudingi ukuchitha yonke imizuzu yokuvuka ndawonye. Lunga uphumele ngaphandle kwenganekwane yakho bese ubuyela ekuvuseleleni.
Isiphetho
Ukudala uthando impilo yonke akuyona isayensi, kufana nobuciko; umdanso. Kunezinsika ezithile ezifana nalezi eziyisisekelo sento ethile ekhethekile. Kepha uma usuthole lezi zinto phansi, ubuhlobo bakho bungabakho. Awukho umshado noma ubudlelwano obufanayo, ngakho-ke dansa lapho ushaya isigubhu sakho uma usufunde lezi zinyathelo eziyisisekelo.