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- Ukuphatha ubudlelwano
- Kwenzekani kwilungiselelo lokunakekelwa kwabantu abangabodwa
- Imibono yokusiza ukwenza lula ubudlelwano obunempilo
Ukukhetha ukuba ngabazali bokugcina kungukuzibophezela okumangazayo komshado nomndeni. Ngaphezu kokuba ngumelaphi onelayisense nomelaphi wezobuciko obhalisiwe, ngingumzali okhulisa ingane engingamtholi nomyeni wami. Sibe nethuba lokukhuthaza amaqembu ezelamani abenezinhlobo ezehlukene zokuhlukunyezwa noma ukunganakwa okube nemiphumela ehlukahlukene ngokulinganayo. Umndeni ngamunye wokutholwa unamandla awanikeza izingane zawo zokutholwa. Amandla ethu axhomeke olwazini lwethu losizi lwezingane, sinciphisa ukulahleka kwezingane, ukuphepha, kanye nokumelela izidingo zabo.
Ukuphatha ubudlelwano
Kunezici ezingaphezu kokukhulisa izingane okuxoxwa ngokungaqondakali ngazo ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa kwabazali abangabodwa. Umzali wokutholwa angasiza ukuphatha ubudlelwano ngethemba lokunciphisa usizi nokulahlekelwa okuhlangenwe nakho kwengane engeyona eyakho. Obunye ubudlelwano buyadingeka ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zezingane ezinjengosonhlalakahle, abelaphi, abameli, nabameli benkantolo. Obunye ubudlelwano bugcwele imizwa exubile yabazali abangabakhulisi kanye nezingane ezifana nabazali bokuzalwa, izingane zakwabo kanye nogogo nomkhulu. Bonke lobu budlelwano bunokubaluleka kwabo futhi abazali abakhulisa izingane okungezona zabo badlala indima ebalulekile ekugcineni lokho kuxhumana komndeni.
Kwenzekani kwilungiselelo lokunakekelwa kwabantu abangabodwa
Ukubekwa ngakunye kwabakhulisi kunesimo esihlukile sokunganakwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa. Njengoba inhloso yokuqala futhi eyinhloko ekunakekelweni ngabazali kungukuhlanganiswa komndeni wokuzalwa, ukubekwa kwabangakhulisa izingane kungaba yisikhathi esifushane noma eside. Abazali bokuzalwa banikezwa ukwesekwa ukuze bathuthukise izimo zabo zempilo eziholele ekubekweni kwabangewona abantwana futhi bathuthukise amakhono obuzali ngenhloso yokwandisa ukuphepha nokunikeza indawo efanelekile yokukhulisa izingane. Zonke izinhlaka: ochwepheshe bokunakekelwa kwabangabazali, abazali bokuzalwa, izingane kanye nabazali abangabanakekeli, bonke bazoba nemibono engafani mayelana nokunganakwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa. Ngenkathi abazali bevuselela isimo ngendlela edingekayo, kukhona “ukuvakashelwa komndeni” noma izikhathi ezibekiwe lapho izingane nabazali bokuzalwa bechitha isikhathi ndawonye. Lokhu kuvakasha kungahluka phakathi kwamahora ambalwa esikhathi esigadiwe kuze kube sebusuku ngaphandle kokuqondiswa kuya ngesimo senhloso nenqubekela phambili yomzali wokuzalwa. Iqiniso lihlala likhona ukuthi abazali bokutholwa bakhulisa izingane iningi lesonto. Lokhu kungadala umuzwa wokulahleka kubazali bokuzalwa. Izingane zingaba nokudideka ngenxa yabanakekeli abaningi nemithetho ehlukile.
UWilliam Worden ubhala ngemisebenzi yokulila encwadini yakhe Ukwelulekwa Usizi kanye Nokwelashwa Kosizi lokho kungasetshenziswa kalula ezinganeni, emindenini yokuzalwa nakubazali abangabondli. Imisebenzi yosizi kaWorden ifaka phakathi ukubona ukuthi ukulahleka kwenzeke ngempela, ukuzwa imizwa enamandla, ukwakha ubuhlobo obusha obulahlekile kanye nokutshala ukunakekelwa namandla ebudlelwaneni nasemisebenzini emisha. Njengabazali abangabondli nabazali bokutholwa, singayibona le misebenzi futhi sisize lezi zingane ngezindlela ezifanele isimo sazo.
Mina nomyeni wami sisebenzise izindlela eziningi ukwenza kube lula ukuvuleleka ngakunye kwalabo esibabekele khona futhi sathola inqwaba yezinzuzo. Imindeni yokuzalwa yayamukela futhi ibambe iqhaza ngokususelwa ezingeni labo lokunethezeka. Inhloso yethu ihlala ikukuvuma ukulahlekelwa okusemandleni okunakekelwa ngabantu abangebona abazali bakho, ukuxhasa izingane ukuba zibhekane nemizwelo enamandla, sikhuthaze ulwazi oluhlanganyelwe mayelana nezingane ukwenza ubudlelwano futhi kutholakale izindlela zokufaka umndeni wokuzalwa ngendlela enempilo nephephile.
Imibono yokusiza ukwenza lula ubudlelwano obunempilo
1. Funda izincwadi nezingane
Imfundo engokomzwelo isiza izingane ukuthi zithuthukise ukwethembana nomndeni wokutholwa. Baqala ukufunda ukuthi bangayilawula kanjani imizwa enzima yokuba sekunakekelweni kwabantu abangabodwa. Jwayela imizwa ehlukene izingane ezingazizwela phakathi nezinsuku namaviki abo ngezincwadi ezifana nazo Izinsuku Zami Eziningi ZamaKhaladi nguDkt Seuss no Ngabe uyaxebuka kanjani nguS. Freymann noJ. Elffers. Ngokuya ngeminyaka yengane, ukuqhubeka kwengxoxo kungafaka lapho okungenzeka ukuthi bezwe umuzwa noma ukuthi yini engasiza. Intambo Engabonakali nguP. Karst noG. Stevenson bangasiza izingane ukuthi zikwazi ukubhekana nebanga ukusuka kumalungu omndeni. Ikhaya elisha likaZachary: Indaba Yezingane Ezikhulisiwe Nezingamukeleki nguG. Blomquist noP P. Blomquist bakhuluma ngezinkinga zokuhlala ekhaya elisha nabazali ezihluke kakhulu kunengane. Mhlawumbe Izinsuku: Incwadi Yezingane Ekunakekelweni Kwezingane nguJ. Wilgocki noMnu. Kahn Wright kusiza izingane ukuthi zihlole ukungaqiniseki kwesikhathi esizayo. Abazali abakhulisa izingane okungezona ezabo bayakhuthazwa ukuthi babelane ngokusobala ukuthi baphila futhi “Izinsuku Mhlawumbe” ngoba imindeni ekhuliswa ngabazali abayithola ithola okuncane kakhulu ukuthola ulwazi ngesimo somndeni wokuzalwa kanye nenqubekela phambili.
2. Zama ukuvula imigqa yokuxhumana
Ukuxhumana okuvulelekile kuhlangabezana nezinhloso ezintathu. Okokuqala, amanothi ngezingqophamlando, ukuthanda ukudla noma ukungathandi, isimo sempilo yengane, noma yiluphi ulwazi olusha ngezintshisekelo noma imisebenzi emisha kusiza abazali bokuzalwa ukuba banakekele futhi bahlanganyele nezingane. Okwesibili, izingane zingagcina ukuxhumana okunempilo nomndeni wazo wokuzalwa kaningi ngokufaka kwakho isiko nomlando wazo womndeni. Ngokwengeziwe, izingxoxo ezincane zokuthi ingane ingafana kanjani nabazali bayo zingabiwa uma umndeni wokutholwa ukwazi ukufunda ngomndeni wokuzalwa ngokubuza imibuzo ephephile efana nohlobo oluthandwa ngabazali lomculo noma umculi womculo, umbala, ukudla, amasiko omndeni, nokuziphatha kwezingane okwedlule. Gcina engqondweni izici ezihlukile zokunganakwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa kwangaphambilini, futhi uvikele izihloko ezingabonakala zizinhle emvelweni ezingadala izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu. Ekugcineni, indlela yeqembu inciphisa izingqinamba zokubambelela izingane ezingakhuliswa ngazo zivame ukubhekana nobunzima njengoba zijwayela umndeni onganakekelwa.
3. Thumela okulula neziphuzo
Umndeni ngamunye unezimo ezehlukene zezezimali kanye nekhono lokuhlela. Imibono ye-snack ephakanyisiwe yimigoqo ye-granola / cereal, i-goldfish, ama-pretzels noma ezinye izinto ezingaphatheka futhi / noma zilondolozelwe olunye usuku. Inhloso ukuthi ingane yazi ukuthi inakekelwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwedlula uma ukudla kusetshenzisiwe. Ithemba abazali bokuzalwa baqala ukuthatha le ndima. Yize, abazali bokutholwa bangefisa ukuqhubeka nokuhlinzeka ngokudla okulula ngenxa yokwehluka kwenqubekela phambili yomzali wokuzalwa.
4. Shintshanisa izithombe
Thumela izithombe zemisebenzi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwezingane. Abazali bokuzalwa bangathanda ukuba nalezi zithombe njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka. Uma ucabanga ukuthi abazali bokuzalwa bavulekile, thumela ikhamera ezilahlwayo ukuze bathathe izithombe njengomndeni bese bethumela izimpinda ekuhambeleni okulandelayo. Ungazihlela lezo zithombe ozithola ukuthi uzifake emakamelweni ezingane noma endaweni ekhethekile ekhaya lakho.
5. Siza izingane zikwazi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka
Ingane ngayinye izoba nezidingo zayo ekulawuleni imizwa enzima. Funda ukuthi izingane zisabela kanjani ekuvakasheni futhi ubone noma yiziphi izinguquko ekuziphatheni. Uma ingane ithanda ukukhahlela noma ukushaya, zama ukusetha ngemuva kokuvakashela imisebenzi evumela lolo hlobo lokukhishwa njenge karate noma taekwondo. Uma ingane ihoxa kakhulu, dala isikhala semisebenzi ethule njengobuciko, ukufunda noma ukugoqana nesilwane esithandwayo noma ingubo njengoba ingane iguquka ngenkathi umzali okhulisa ingane okhulisiwe ehlala etholakalayo ukuze athole induduzo.
6. Gcina incwadi yokuphila yengane ngayinye
Lokhu kuvame ukuxoxwa ngakho ekuqeqeshweni komzali wokutholwa futhi kubaluleke kakhulu enganeni engeyona eyakho. Lokhu kuyingxenye yomlando wabo ngenkathi uhlala emndenini wakho. Lezi kungaba yizincwadi ezilula kakhulu ezinezithombe zemicimbi ekhethekile, abantu noma izigaba ezivelele zengane. Kunconywa ukuthi nawe ugcine ikhophi yomlando womndeni wakho.
7. Siza ngokubeka noma ukushintsha imigomo
Uma ingane ishintsha amakhaya, abazali bokukhulisa bangasiza kakhulu kuleyo nqubo yenguquko. Ukwabelana ngemininingwane ejwayelekile, okuthandwa yisikhathi sokulala ngisho nezindlela zokupheka zokudla okuthandwa ingane noma ukudla kungasiza umndeni olandelayo wokubekwa noma umndeni wokuzalwa. Uma umgomo ushintshele ekunqobeni ngokutholwa, abazali bokutholwa banezinketho eziningi okufanele bazicabangele maqondana nokuvuleka ekugcineni ukuxhumana.
Ukukhulisa ubudlelwano ekunakekelweni ngabazali kuyinqubo eyinkimbinkimbi. Ukulahleka kuningi kuzo zombili izingane zokutholwa nemindeni yokuzalwa. Ububele nomusa ohlangothini lomndeni onganakekelwa kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukulahlekelwa okuzayo okungahlangana phakathi nesikhathi sokubekwa. Sebenzisa lezi ziphakamiso njengephedi yokwethula imibono emisha ukusekela ubudlelwano bomndeni obungasetshenziswa ezimweni ezihlukile. Lindela ukuba namazinga ahlukene wokubambisana avela emindenini yokuzalwa. Inhloso yakho eqotho izoba nezinzuzo eziningi. Ukuzinikela kule nqubo ngethemba lokuthi kuzosiza izingane ukuthi zithuthukise umbono wezwe onempilo, umuzwa wokubaluleka kanye nokuzazi komuntu siqu.