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- Uma ubona ukuntuleka kothando ebudlelwaneni bakho, ungalahli ithemba
- Ungakhohlwa ukuveza uthando ngalowo muntu oyidwala lakho
- Intukuthelo ingaba umbulali wothando wangempela
- Imfihlo encane - usengamthanda umlingani wakho ngaphandle kokubonisa ezothando
- Thola ukuthi yiziphi izidingo zakho zothando
Akukwenzeka ngobusuku obubodwa. Eqinisweni, ukwehla kuthatha iminyaka embalwa. Mhlawumbe awuboni nokuthi kwenzeka kuze kube uvuka futhi uzibuze ukuthi kwenzekeni. Ngelinye ilanga ubheka umlingani wakho bese uthola okuthile: uhlala kakhulu njengabantu ohlala nabo kunabalingani bezothando. Uthando lwashonaphi?
Uma ufana nemibhangqwana eminingi emishadweni yesikhathi eside, izinsuku zokuqala zomshado wakho zazibukeka zihluke kakhulu kunqubo yanamuhla yansuku zonke. Ezinsukwini zakho ezisanda kushada, ubungeke ulinde ukufika ekhaya komunye nomunye. Ubusuku bakho nangezimpelasonto ubone ukwenza okuningi kothando, ingasaphathwa eyokuqabulana, ukwangana nokuthintana ngokomzimba. Kepha njengoba iminyaka iqhubeka, bekuncipha kakhulu ama-hanky-panky nothando amanothi, futhi uhlu oluthe xaxa lwe- "honey do" futhi iso eliseceleni lahamba udoti ungakhishwanga ngaphandle kokucela kwakho.
Uma ubona ukuntuleka kothando ebudlelwaneni bakho, ungalahli ithemba
Kunezinto eziningana ongazenza ukubuyisa ukucwazimula emehlweni womunye nomunye, futhi wandise umuzwa wothando phakathi kwenu. Uma ungafuni ukuthi impilo yakho yasemshadweni ifane nesimo sokuhlala ngokuhlanganyela, yilalele lokhu. Ake sisebenze ekubuyiseni ezothando!
"Kungani" ngemuva kokwehla kwezothando ebudlelwaneni. Akunzima ukukhomba ukuthi kungani ezothando ziwela ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Iningi lalo kungenxa yeminye imicimbi yempilo encintisana nesikhathi sezithandani. Izinto ezifana nomndeni okhulayo, noma ukuzibophezela kobungcweti, izidingo zomndeni ezandisiwe (abasekhweni, abazali asebekhulile, amalungu omndeni agulayo), umbuthano wakho womphakathi (ubusuku bomdlalo nomakhelwane, imisebenzi yesonto), izidingo zesikole sezingane zakho (umsebenzi wesikole, ukuzithandela ekilasini , ohambisana nekilasi ohambweni lwensimu). Uhlu alupheli futhi akumangazi ukuthi sincane kakhulu isikhathi esisele sokuba wena nomlingani wakho nizinikele ekuthandaneni ndawonye.
Ungakhohlwa ukuveza uthando ngalowo muntu oyidwala lakho
Kukhona futhi nombuzo wesimiso. Njengoba umshado wakho uqhubekela phambili, kungokwemvelo ukuba nesimiso sokuzifaka futhi mhlawumbe uqala ukuthathelana phezulu. Ingxenye enhle yalokho ukuthi uyazi ukuthi unomuntu ongethembela kuye, usuku nosuku. Ingxenye embi yalokho ukuthi ungakhohlwa ukuveza uthando nokubonga ngalowo muntu oyidwala lakho. Ubudlelwano bakho bungangena enkingeni, njengoba uvamise ukunamathela esimisweni sokwenza konke. Ngaphandle kokulindelekile noma ukumangala, ungahle ubone ukuthi akusekho ukukhathazeka okusele, akukho okufana nezinsuku zakho zokuqala lapho konke kwakukusha futhi kujabulisa.
Intukuthelo ingaba umbulali wothando wangempela
Ezothando zingafa ngoba ungafukamela inzondo kumlingani wakho. Intukuthelo, engavezwanga noma evezwe, ingaba umbulali wothando wangempela. Kunzima ukuzizwa unothando futhi unothando ngomuntu okuhlala ekudumaza noma osebenza ngokweqile emandleni omndeni. Lesi yisimo esinzima kakhulu ukuthi umbhangqwana uzilawule wedwa ngakho-ke ukufuna i-Therapist yomndeni kuyasiza lapha ukukusiza ubuyele endleleni, usungule amasu amahle wokuxhumana, futhi ufunde ukuxoxisana ngalokho okukwenza uthukuthele ukuze isixazululo sikwazi kwenzeke futhi imizwa yothando ingabuya.
Imfihlo encane - usengamthanda umlingani wakho ngaphandle kokubonisa ezothando
Kuyakumangaza lokho? Kunezigidi zemibhangqwana engadingi ukushukunyiswa kothando, okukhulu noma okuncane, ukwazi ukuthi ubudlelwano bayo bungothando. Bathembele kakhulu kula maqiniso alandelayo ukuthi ubudlelwano babo babanikeza ngothando. Banomuzwa oqinile wokuthi kukhona isibopho sothando phakathi kwabo, futhi abadingi izimbali, amanothi othando noma izingubo zangaphansi ukukhumbula lokhu. Banakekelana ngokweqiniso. Lezi zithandani zinomqondo opholile futhi ongaguquguquki wokunakekelana ogcizelela umshado wazo. Kungenzeka kungabi nothando olunothando nsuku zonke, kepha bangakujabulela ukukuhweba lokho ngomuzwa ofudumele nokhathalelayo ababa nawo ebudlelwaneni babo. Ukwemukelana njengoba benjalo. Izithandani ezamukelanayo kubo bonke ubuntu bazo (amaphutha nakho konke!) Zingathandana ngokujulile ngaphandle kokudinga imithamo emikhulu yothando.
Isisekelo senjabulo. Lezi zithandani ziya phambili ngomuzwa wenjabulo eqhubekayo ngokuba ndawonye nje. Noma ngabe bayazipholela nje egumbini elilodwa noma bayothenga, bayajabula, asikho isidingo sezenzo zothando ezi-splashy. Ubungani. Kungase kungabi khona ukuwina, ukudla nokuthandana, kepha kuhlala kunomqondo wobungani futhi "Ngikulungele" nalezi zithandani.
Thola ukuthi yiziphi izidingo zakho zothando
Kubalulekile ukuthi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izidingo zakho zothando ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ungaba yingxenye yeqembu elingadingi ukuboniswa kwansuku zonke kwezothando ukuze uzizwe ubalulekile futhi uvikelekile emshadweni wakho. Noma, ungafisa ukuthi umlingani wakho angenze okuthe xaxa ohlangothini lwezothando. Uma kunjalo, khuluma nowakwakho bese wabelana ngezidingo zakho nabo. Akunzima ukwenza umdlalo womuntu emnyangweni wezothando, ngemizamo nje embalwa yokubuyisa lowo muzwa wothando lokuqala. Kepha khumbula: ezothando azibalulekile ukuze kube khona uthando lweqiniso.
Kunenqwaba yemibhangqwana ekujabulelayo ukugezana ngamathokheni abizayo othando, futhi agcina esehlukanisile noma kunjalo. Okubalulekile ukuthi ulimi lwenu lothando lucacelane, futhi nivulekele kulokho enikudingayo ukuze nizizwe nibalulekile, naziswa futhi naziswa nguzakwenu.