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- Uyini umndeni oxubekile?
- Awukwazi ukuqhubeka ngaphandle kwecebo
- Ungabekezelela kanjani lezo ziqalo ezinzima?
- Ukwakha isibopho nomndeni wakho
Njengoba imishado eminingi ibandakanya izingane ezivela ebudlelwaneni obudlule, imindeni exubekile noma imindeni yokutholwa manje seyande kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Ngesikhathi lapho imindeni “ihlangana,” kuba nzima kuwo wonke amalungu. Zimbalwa izingane ezingaphikisana nezinguquko, ngenkathi wena njengomzali ungazizwa udumele lapho umndeni wakho omusha ungasebenzi njengowedlule.
Yize ukuxubana kwemindeni kudinga ukubuyisana kanye nokuyekethisa kuwo wonke umuntu ofakiwe, le mihlahlandlela ingenza umndeni wakho omusha ukwazi ukusebenza ngezinhlupheko ezisakhulayo. Akunandaba ukuthi izinto zicindezelwa noma zinenkinga kangakanani ekuqaleni, ngezincwadi ezibanzi, ukubabaza okwabiwe, nokunconywa nokuphikelela okuningi, ungakha isibopho esihle nezingane zakho zokutholwa futhi wakhe umndeni oxubene onothando nothelayo.
Uyini umndeni oxubekile?
Umndeni oxubekile noma ozimele bomndeni wokutholwa lapho wena nomunye wakho obalulekile nenza umndeni omusha nezingane ezivela ebudlelwaneni bakho obudlule. Inqubo yokwakha umndeni omusha futhi ohlangene ingaba isipiliyoni esanelisayo nokuhlola.
Ukulindela ukuthi imindeni yakho ihlangane ndawonye ngaphandle kwezingxabano ezishubile kungumqondo ongenampilo, okokuqala.
Ngenkathi wena, njengabaqaphi mhlawumbe uzobuyela ekushadweni futhi nomunye umndeni ngenjabulo enkulu nesifiso, izingane zakho noma izingane zomngane wakho omusha kungenzeka zingabi namandla kangako.
Kungenzeka bazizwe bengaqiniseki ngezinguquko ezizayo nokuthi bazokuthonya kanjani ukuzihlanganisa nabaqaphi babo begazi. Bazobuye babe nengcindezi ngokuhlala nezingane zakubo zakamuva, okungenzeka ukuthi abazazi kahle, noma ngokudabukisayo, yibo okungenzeka ukuthi abakwazi, noma kunjalo.
Awukwazi ukuqhubeka ngaphandle kwecebo
Ukuhlela kubalulekile uma kukhulunywa ngokwakha ubudlelwano obusha. Awukwazi ukuvele ungene kuwo ngokuxhamazela.
Ngemuva kokubekezelela ukwehlukaniswa okubuhlungu noma iqembu futhi ngemuva kwalokho ukuthola ukuthi bangabuthola kanjani obunye ubuhlobo obuthandayo, isifiso sokugxumela ekushadweni futhi nomndeni oxubekile ngaphandle kokuqala ukusungula isisekelo esiqinile sedwala kungenzeka singabi nempilo.
Ngokuthatha isikhathi esiningi ngokwesidingo, uvumela wonke umuntu ukuba ajwayelane, futhi nethuba lokushada nokwakha omunye umndeni.
Ungabekezelela kanjani lezo ziqalo ezinzima?
Ukulindela ukudala ikona elithambile lezingane zomlingani wakho ngeke kukuthinte kabi. Thatha isikhala sakho, uthathe isikhathi sakho, uhambe nje nokugeleza. Jwayelana kakhudlwana nabo. Uthando nothando kuzothatha isikhathi ukukhula.
Inani elikhulu lezinguquko ngokuzenzekelayo lingaphazamisa izingane.
Imindeni exubekile inezinga lokuphumelela eliphawuleka kakhulu uma umbhangqwana uphatha iminyaka emibili noma ngaphezulu ngemuva kokwehlukana ukuze uphinde ushade kunokuba uqoqele ushintsho lomndeni ohlukile kolunye.
Nciphisa okulindele. Unganikeza isikhathi esiningi, amandla, uthando, nokuthanda izingane zomlingani wakho omusha ukuthi ngeke zibuye ngokushesha. Cabanga ukwenza izenzo ezincane ezingahle zikhiqize intshisekelo kanye nokunakwa ngelinye ilanga.
Funa inhlonipho. Awukwazi ukufuna abantu bathandane. Kodwa-ke, ungacela ukuthi basondelane ngenhlonipho.
Ukwakha isibopho nomndeni wakho
Uzokwazi ukwakha isibopho esihle nezingane zakho zokutholwa ngokuzindla ngalokho ezikudingayo. Ubudala, ukuthanda ezocansi, kanye nobunikazi akukhona okweqile, kepha zonke izingane zinezidingo ezithile ezibalulekile, futhi uma sezihlangatsheziwe, zingakunika amandla okwakha ubudlelwano obusha obukhokhelayo. Yenza izingane zizizwe:
- Abathandekayo: Izingane ziyathanda ukubona futhi zizwe uthando lwakho yize kufanele lukhule ngokuqhubeka kancane kancane.
- Kwamukelwa futhi kwaziswa: Izingane zivame ukuzizwa zingabalulekile uma kukhulunywa ngokuthatha izinqumo emndenini omusha ohlanganisiwe. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uqaphele indima yabo emndenini omusha lapho wenza izinqumo.
- Ukwaziswa nokukhuthazwa: Izingane zanoma imuphi unyaka zizosabela kumazwi okukhuthaza nawokudumisa futhi zithanda ukuzizwa ziqinisekisiwe futhi zizwakala, ngakho-ke zenzeni zona.
Ukudabuka kwenhliziyo akunakugwenywa. Ukwakha umndeni omusha nomunye womndeni womlingani ngeke kube lula. Ukulwa nokungaboni ngaso linye kuzoqubuka, futhi kuzoba kubi, kepha ekugcineni kosuku, kufanele kukufanele.
Ukwakha ukwethembana kubalulekile ekwenzeni umndeni ozinzile noqinile oxubekile. Ekuqaleni, izingane zingazizwa zingaqiniseki ngomndeni wazo omusha futhi ziphikisane nemizamo yakho yokuzijwayeza kodwa yini ingozi ekuzameni?