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- Abantu bashada ngenxa yezizathu eziningi
- Ikhukhi lidilika kuphi?
- Indlela ebesiyiyo
- Isincomo sethu sokuthi "Ungangishada?"
Ngolunye usuku ngibe nengxoxo ethokozisayo nendodana yami eneminyaka eyishumi, osanda kuthakazeliswa kakhulu yizikhali ngenxa yazo zonke izinhlamvu zamaqhawe abona bezithwele. Ungibuze umbuzo omuhle kakhulu obekuthi "mama zimbi izibhamu" engaphendula ngaphendula ngathi izibhamu azizimbi ngokwazo, kepha zibeke ezandleni ezingafanele, futhi kukhona iresiphi yenhlekelele. Konke okudingayo ilayisense yokuphatha isikhali. Futhi njengoba kufakazelwe kabuhlungu kaningi esikhathini esedlule, ilayisense iyilayisense nje yokubulala, futhi ayisona isiqondiso sokuphatha ucezu lwensimbi olubulala ngokushesha. Kuyafana, kepha impela ngokomfanekiso ngikholelwa ukuthi ngumqondo womshado. Lapho umuntu engangena eCity Hall bese eshada ngemizuzu eyi-10 eminyakeni embalwa edlule, manje sebenenqubo eku-inthanethi lapho ngokukhokha imali ethile, ungathola ilayisensi yomshado ngokushesha; kulula! Hhayi-ke, lapho kufanele uguqule inqubo ....
Abantu bashada ngenxa yezizathu eziningi
Ziningi izizathu ezenza abantu bashade. Abanye bashada ngenxa yothando, abanye bashadela imali, abanye bashadela isikhundla, abanye bashada ngokukhula kwemisebenzi, abanye bashada ukuze babe nomndeni abebengenawo, abanye bashada ngoba bebona kufanele, njll. Ngemuva kokuxazulula izingxabano cishe Iminyaka engama-20, ngibone umshado wezimo eziningi namafomu, futhi angihluleli.
Ikhukhi lidilika kuphi?
Kodwa-ke, kungakhathalekile isikhathi, isiko, noma ubudala, into eyodwa yonke imishado okufanele ifane ngayo ukuze ihlale iqinile, ubuhlobo obulinganiselayo. Ukuqonda ukuthi uma ngikunikeza u-A, ngingalindela ukuthola B. Kuzwakala kulula, kepha akunjalo. Imishado eminingi iyahluleka ngoba abashadikazi abakwazi ukufika ekhasini elilodwa. Ngamanye amagama, omunye umlingani angeke abe ngaphansi kokuqonda ukuthi oshade naye ushade naye ngoba emthanda, kanti omunye ngaphansi kokuqonda ukuthi uzokwamukelwa ngumndeni ngoba wenza ikhaya elihle, uthembekile, futhi muhle izingane futhi angaba ne-flings eceleni. Noma ngokwesibonelo, ucabanga ukuthi bashadile ngoba ethandwa yilokho ayikho, kepha unezinhlelo ngemali yakhe futhi wamshada ngoba ungumondli omuhle.
Indlela ebesiyiyo
Emakhulwini eminyaka adlule, emhlabeni jikelele, kufaka phakathi i-Asia, Middle East kanye ne-Europe lapho bekukhona umuntu omangalelayo, izizathu zomshado zazimenyezelwa njengesiphakamiso sebhizinisi. Isibonelo, mhlawumbe lo mshado wawuzoletha ukuthula kula mazwe womabili, noma wavumela igama lomndeni ukuthi liqhubeke nemiphumela, noma waletha ukufana kwamasiko nokuphepha edolobheni njll.
Akusho ukuthi ngingumgqugquzeli wanoma yiziphi zalezo zizathu noma ngiyazikhuthaza. Kodwa-ke, iqiniso liwukuthi, manje izinsuku, imishado eminingi kanye nobudlelwano obuphendukela emishadweni kuyinto ehlekisayo kakhulu. Bayifu elididekile lokusondela, liphuthume langena ngaphandle komqondo onengqondo; Inkanuko ididaniswe nothando, nesibopho esingenakufaneleka noma isisekelo esiqinile esiyisisekelo. Ngezinhlelo ezithandwayo ze-TV, ezinjengendlela yokushada noMillionaire, The Bachelor, Married at First Sight, Wife Swap, iqoqo leDesperate Housewives, The Ninety Day Fiancé njll. Futhi, angizile ukuzokwahlulela. Uma umuntu ekholelwa othandweni lapho eqala ukumbona futhi efuna ukushada nalowo amthandayo zisuka nje ebhuthini, futhi ulungile ngokuba nonkosikazi wendondo, kulungile ngazo zonke izindlela. Kepha sthandwa ngeke umangale lapho uthola lokho okutholayo, ngemuva kokuthi umnyango uvuleke ebhokisini likaPandora noma lapho kucishiwe amalambu.
Abanye bangasho ukuthi eminyakeni engama-50 noma ngaphezulu edlule, lapho izingane zisanda kushada, zazingenabo ubudlelwano besikhathi eside bokuphola futhi namanani edivosi ayephansi kakhulu. Yebo, iqiniso liwukuthi, ngoba abantu bahlala ndawonye, akusho ukuthi izinto zisebenza ngokujabula.
Isincomo sethu sokuthi "Ungangishada?"
Kulokhu okuthunyelwe, ngikumema ukuthi ucabangele inkontileka yoMshado uma ucabanga ukuthatha ubuhlobo bakho bube sesinyathelweni esilandelayo noma uma uke wahlangana nalolo thando lapho ubona umuntu wokuqala futhi ufuna ukubopha ifindo. Ubuwazi ukuthi eminyakeni eyikhulu noma edlule, ngaphambi kokuba uhulumeni angene emishadweni, futhi kube nezincwadi zokushada, kwakukhona izinkontileka zomshado? Yilapho-ke umqondo welobolo uvela khona. Izinkolo ezehlukene nezizinda zobuzwe, zinamagama ahlukile kubo. I-Katuba ngesiJuda, noma i-Katb-el-Ketab e-Islam, noma ama-Hindu Sacraments yizo zonke izinhlobo ezindala zezimemezelo zomshado kunelayisense lomshado futhi zinezidingo ezihlukile. Yize bekukhathalelwe kakhulu ezezimali futhi kubukela phansi ngokungagunci ikhono lowesifazane lokuthola imali, izinkolo eziningi ikakhulukazi zinqume ukuthi kufakwe inkontileka yomshado ngabefundisi bezenkolo, lapho bobabili amaqembu evumelene ngemigomo ngaphambi kokuya ephaseji ngayinye.
Angiphakamisi inkontileka yezezimali; yize ngikholelwa impela ukuthi leyo ndawo idinga ukumbozwa ngenkontileka kubhekwa ukuthi iyimbangela ejwayelekile kakhulu yesehlukaniso. Kodwa bewazi yini ukuthi ngokungafani nalokho abaningi abakucabangayo, izindaba zokuya ngaphandle komshado azisona isizathu sokuqala sezehlukaniso? Yebo, izindaba ezingaphandle komshado, izindaba zezimali ziyizimpawu kodwa hhayi imbangela yangempela. Ngokuya ngamapholi amaningi, imbangela eyodwa eyisisekelo ukucabanga okungamanga ngenxa yokuxhumana okungalungile. Ngakho-ke, engikuphakamisayo kuyinkontileka enenhloso, lapho zombili izinhlangothi zisho ngokusobala ukuthi ziyini izinhloso zazo zomshado, yingakho zilindele kumlingani wazo womshado. Isivumelwano ngokusobala sizohlongozwa ngaphambi komshado hhayi ngemuva ngoba ngaleso sikhathi, noma yikuphi okulindelwe kuzophuma emingceleni.
Nazi izindawo ezinkulu eziyi-11 okufanele zifakwe kusivumelwano Somshado esiqinile:
1. Amalungiselelo omsebenzi
- Ngabe kuzoba khona owondla ngokuyinhloko noma bobabili ababambe iqhaza ngokulingana ezindlekweni zokuphila
- Ngabe kuzoba ne-akhawunti ehlanganyelwe, i-akhawunti ehlanganyelwe kanye ne-akhawunti yomnikelo yomuntu ngamunye, noma ama-akhawunti ahlukene kuphela?
- Amahora okusebenza. Mangaki amahora ngesonto aqokelwe ukusebenza amukelekile. Le ndawo izofaka nokuhamba nokuthi ngabe bobabili abalingani bayavumelana yini nohlelo lokuhamba.
- Uma kwenzeka kunokugula ngokomzimba, ukudilizwa noma ukunqanyulwa, izingane, izinkinga zomndeni, ukugula kwengqondo, lapho omunye umlingani engakwazi ukusebenza, yini okulindelwe?
2. Izindaba zasekhaya
- Ngubani ophethe ukupheka
- Ngubani ophethe ukuhlanza
- Ngubani ophethe ilondolo
- Ngubani ophethe ezitolo
- Ngubani ophethe isondlo
- Ngubani ophethe ukukhokha izikweletu
3. Ukuzilibazisa
- Yikuphi ukuzilibazisa umuntu ngamunye anakho angathanda ukuchitha isikhathi yedwa ekwenza
- Yiziphi izinto zokuzilibazisa abashadikazi abanazo ndawonye abangathanda ukuchitha isikhathi bazenza ndawonye
- Yimaphi amaphesenti emali engenayo abangayisebenzisa ezintweni abazithandayo
- Bangaki amahora ngeviki / ngenyanga abazobe bechitha ezintweni abazithandayo
- Yini ezonquma ukuthi lo msebenzi wokuzilibazisa usube ngokweqile futhi uphazamisa ezinye izingxenye zempilo
4. Ucansi
- Kukangaki ngesonto kubhekwa impilo yezocansi enempilo
- Yiziphi izindlela zokuziphatha zocansi ezamukelekayo nezingamukeleki kwabashadikazi ndawonye futhi ngabodwana
- Ingabe ukushada nomuntu oyedwa kufanele noma mhlawumbe
- Ungalugcina kanjani uthando luphila futhi ugweme ukuthatha olunye kalula (ex Hygiene, isisindo, imikhuba, ukukhathala, njll.)
5. Imikhuba yokusebenzisa imali
- Izinqumo zemali zizokwenziwa kanjani? Ngabe zombili izinhlangothi zizobandakanyeka ngokulinganayo kusabelomali noma ngabe kuzoba ne-budgeter ekhethiwe?
- Kuthiwani uma ngabe amaphesenti athile emali engenayo yanyanga zonke ezosetshenziswa ekuthambekeleni kokuthengwayo ithenga ngokuthenga kwe- "Ngifuna"
- Lo mbhangqwana uzokuqoka kanjani okuphuthumayo kuqhathaniswa nalokho okungekhona ukuthenga okuphuthumayo?
6. Ingabe lezi zithandani zifuna izingane
- Uma kunjalo zingaki futhi nini
- Ngubani ozoba ngumnakekeli oyinhloko wezingane futhi uma zombili zikhona, iyohlukaniswa kanjani imisebenzi ehlukahlukene efana nokondla, ukuhlanza, ukujezisa, ukufundisa, imicimbi, ukuvakasha kodokotela, izinsuku zokudlala, njll.
- Uma kunesifo esingavumeli ukuthi abashadayo babe nezingane, iyiphi inkambo yesenzo okuvunyelwene ngayo. '
7. Ukuhamba
- Iyiphi ingxenye yemali engenayo ezokhethelwa ukuhamba
- Kuzohanjwa kangaki ngonyaka
- Ngabe ukuhamba kuzohlanganisa zombili noma eyodwa kuphela yemibhangqwana?
- Izindawo ziqokwa kanjani
8. Ubumfihlo
- Yini ezokwabiwa mayelana nezimpilo zabo ndawonye noma ngawodwana
- Bazophendukela kubani ngezikhathi zobunzima
9. Umndeni Nesihlobo
- Umbhangqwana ngamunye uzosebenzisa isikhathi esingakanani kanye / noma ndawonye nezihlobo ngenyanga noma ngesonto
- Bazokwenzani noma bazokwenzani nezihlobo noma
10. Impilo Yomphakathi
- Ohlela ubusuku bosuku
- Ohlela imicimbi yomphakathi yalaba abashadayo
- Umuntu ngamunye udinga isikhathi esingakanani ngeviki ukuchitha isikhathi sokuzijabulisa nabangane, inethiwekhi, umphakathi webhizinisi, njll.
- Lezi zithandani zizobe zisebenzisa malini emicimbini yokuzijabulisa ngenyanga
- Ukuthi sekwephuzile kuthathwa njengokuphuzile ukuhlala ekuzijabuliseni kwethu
11. Ngezikhathi zengxabano
- Ungasinquma kanjani uma sekuyisikhathi sokubuza umuntu wesithathu
- Ngubani umeluleki (ochwepheshe noma cha) abashadile abangaya kuye uma kudingeka
- Okufanele ukwenze ngezikhathi zentukuthelo
- Ungakhuluma kanjani nokuthi uthini ukuze ugweme ukushiya umuntu noma isimo
Yebo, kufanele kube nento emangazayo emshadweni. Yebo, kufanele kube nokuvuleleka kokuhlangenwe nakho, futhi yebo uthando lusho ukwamukela. Kepha awukwazi ukwamukela ongakwazi. Futhi akukhona ukwamukela kepha kunalokho ukuphoqa noma ukuzizwa uphoqelelwe uma ubhekene neqiniso hhayi ngaphambili kepha ngemuva kokuthi uthi "Ngiyakwenza".