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Ngabe ungathanda ukwazi kabanzi ngokuya ocansini oshisayo, oshisayo, oshisekayo, ongashadile nowakwakho?
Ngisebenze nemibhangqwana iminyaka manje futhi sengibonile ukuthi izindaba zokusondelana ngezinye zezinselelo ezinkulu ebudlelwaneni. Wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani kunjalo? Sihlelelwe ubudlelwano nokusondelana, ngakho kungani kunzima kangaka?
Uyakhumbula ukuthi ubusenkundleni yokudlala esikoleni samabanga aphansi lapho useyingane futhi uzwa iculo elalicula, elithi “John noSusie behleli esihlahleni, beqabulana”? Ubulili buvezwa ezicini eziningi zezimpilo zethu futhi buyisipho esimangalisayo esivela kuNkulunkulu, esimeni esifanele.
Ngizoxoxa ngezinkinga ezi-3 ezijwayelekile ezibonakala zibulala imizwa futhi ngiphinde nginikeze iziphakamiso zokuvuselela uthando:
1. Ulindeleni?
Lapho sisebancane futhi sicabanga ngomshado, ubulili, umndeni, njll.
Manje kwenzekani lapho lokho okulindelwe kungafinyelelwanga? Ngokuqinisekile ingaqhuba isigaxa ebudlelwaneni.
Yini ikhambi lamathemba angafinyelelwanga? Kuyinto ukuxhumana. Lokhu kungaba lula ukukusho kunokukwenza ngokoqobo.
Nakhu ukuvivinya umzimba ukuzama.
Ngokwehlukana, wena noshade naye uthola iphepha bese ubhala phansi izinto ozifuna kakhulu kumlingani wakho. Yinike usuku noma ezimbili bese uhlela isikhathi sokubuyela ndawonye ukuxoxa ngohlu lwakho. Ngiyakugqugquzela ukuthi uhwebe uhlu futhi ubone ukuthi kukhona yini okumangazayo okubonayo. Manje, isexwayiso nje.
Uma kunezindawo eziningi ohlwini lozakwenu ezingafinyelelwa njengamanje, ungadikibali. Iba nengxoxo evulekile nethembekile mayelana nezinto ezi-1 noma ezi-2 okuyizinto eziseqhulwini kakhulu kwezinguquko.
Ushintsho alwenzeki ngobusuku obubodwa. Kudinga ukukhuthala nokubekezela.
2. Ngabe uyangazi?
Umazi kangakanani umlingani wakho, imicabango yakhe, izidingo zakhe, imizwa yabo, amathemba abo, kanye nezifiso zabo?
Noma ngubani angaya ocansini, kepha kugcwalisa kakhulu uma nazana ngendlela esondelene, futhi ubudlelwano bungobunye.
Uma uke waba semibuthanweni eminingi yezithandani, kungenzeka ukuthi uke wezwa ngezilimi ezinhlanu zothando lukaDkt Gary Chapman. Ngendlela, lokhu kufundwa okunconywe kakhulu, uma ungajwayele.
Uthando yigama lesenzo.
Besivele sikhulume ngokuxhumana, kepha manje sekuyisikhathi sokuthi sikusebenzise. Izilimi ezinhlanu zothando uChapman azivezayo yilezi: Amagama Okuqinisekisa, Isikhathi Esisezingeni, Ukupha Nokuthola Izipho, Izenzo Zokusebenza, kanye Nokuthintwa Komzimba (hhayi ezocansi). Ngiyakukhuthaza ukuthi ukhulume ngobuqotho nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi yiziphi lezi zenzo ezidlulisa uthando, inhlonipho nokucabangela kubo.
Futhi, zinike isikhathi sokukhomba umlingani wakho kuzidingo zakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, kufake esenzweni lokho. Kumkami, umama ohlala ekhaya ofundela ekhaya, ezinye zezinto ezimnandi kakhulu engingamenzela zona, ukugeza izitsha, ukuphonsa izingubo eziningi emshinini wokuwasha izingubo, nokwenza ukudla komndeni wethu ukuze athole ikhefu.
Futhi, ukuthandaza naye nokuhola umndeni wethu ngokomoya kungukuvula okuhle kakhulu. Ngingakuthembisa ukuthi imizwa yothando nesifiso somunye nomunye kuzokwanda lapho nisebenza futhi nikhombisa uthando njalo kumlingani wakho ngolimi lwabo isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ufike ekamelweni.
Ukusondelana ss mayelana nokutshala kwakho isikhathi, ukucabanga, nezinsizakusebenza kumlingani wakho. Ubulili obukhulu kumane kuyingxenye yenzalo oyitholayo evela ekutshalweni kwakho.
3. Ezothando? Yini romance?
Imibhangqwana eminingi engisebenze nayo ifaka lo mqondo ezingqondweni zayo, “Yebo, senginaye umlingani wami. Asikho isidingo sokujola manje. ” Omunye umcabango engihlala ngiwuzwa njalo uthi, "Kufanele sithandane nini uma sinazo zonke lezi _______?" Ungagcwalisa okungenalutho nganoma iyiphi inombolo yezinto, izibopho, izingane, isikweletu.
Ukuthi nina nobabili manje akusho ukuthi ukuqomisana kufanele kuphele.
Wena nozakwenu nihlala nikhula, nikhula, futhi nishintsha njalo. Ukuqomisana kumayelana nesikhathi sokuxhuma kabusha lapho impilo imatasa futhi uhlala uxhumekile endleleni. Imayelana nokubekela eceleni isikhathi ukuze ningagxili kokunye kuphela. Manje, izinsuku zisho izinto ezihlukile emibhangqwaneni eyehlukene.
Kimina, angicabangi ukuya endaweni yokudlela enezingane ezi-3 ukuze ngithole ukondleka kosuku. Mina nomkami siyavuma ukuthi ukuhlela kuyingxenye yalokho okwakha usuku.
Futhi okokugcina, khumbula ukuthi ukugxila kukodwa
Futhi, khumbula ukuthi ukugxila kukodwa, ngakho-ke azikho izingane ezimenywayo. Ngezinye izikhathi ezezimali ziba nzima kakhulu, kepha izinsuku akudingeki zibize. Yiba nobuciko nomlingani wakho. Yenza uhlu lwezintshisekelo zomlingani wakho nokuthi yini edala usuku lwazo. Ngemuva kwalokho, ungaqala ukuhlela.
Zama lawa macebiso!