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- Yiba nentshisekelo ezinkanukweni zabo
- Xhumana njalo ngokungena kwezithandani
- Khuluma ngempilo yomlingani wakho
- Ungakhonondi
- Yiba nomusa
- Ungayeki “ukuphola”
- Khombisa uthando lwakho
- Bungaza okufeziwe
Ezothando kuyisici esibalulekile sobuhlobo obude nobumnandi. Lokho kusho, uthando akusho njalo ukunikeza izimbali, ushokoledi nokudla kwamakhandlela. Ezothando zimayelana nokubeka umlingani wakho phambili kwakho futhi ubazise ukuthi imicabango nemizwa yabo ibalulekile kuwe. Ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi kufanele ukwenze umsebenzi wakho wesikhathi esigcwele? Vele akunjalo! Kunezindlela eziningi zokuthandana nomlingani wakho ngenkathi ugcina impilo yakho yezenhlalo. Nazi ezinye izindlela ezinhle zokubonisa oshade naye ukuthi banesikhathi sakho, ukunakwa nothando lwakho.
Yiba nentshisekelo ezinkanukweni zabo
Ungazizwa sengathi ubaluleke kakhulu kumlingani wakho uma bengakaze babe nentshisekelo ezintweni ozithandayo noma ezintweni ozithandayo? Cishe cha. Oshade naye uzizwa ngendlela efanayo. Ukubeka umlingani wakho phambili kwakho kuqala kusho ukuthatha isithakazelo ezintweni abazijabulela ukuzenza.
Khombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uyakukhathalela ukuthi bathanda ini ngokubuza ngezinto abazithandayo. Ibhola kungenzeka lingabi yindebe yakho yetiye, kepha uma lokhu kuyisikhathi ozithandayo somlingani wakho bese ubaphonsa ithambo ngokubuka imidlalo embalwa nabo noma ubabuze ukuthi bakufundise ukuthi udlala kanjani. Noma ungakwenzi kube “ukuthandwa yizithandani” okungaguquguquki, ukubamba iqhaza entweni othandana nayo kuyokwenza bazizwe bethandwa.
Xhumana njalo ngokungena kwezithandani
Enye yezinto ezinkulu kakhulu imibhangqwana edinga ukuzizwa ngathi ibaluleke kakhulu komunye nomunye ukuzwakala. Ukwenza oshade naye kuqala kwakho kuqala kusho ukuthatha isikhathi sokuxhumana nabo nsuku zonke nokubalalela. Ukwenza "ukungena kwezithandani" masonto onke kuyindlela enhle yokuvumela oshade naye azizwe ezwa.Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukubuzana ukuthi yini eningayenza kangcono njengomlingani kanye nokubazisa ngazo zonke izinto ozithandayo ngobudlelwano bakho. Ukwenza umkhuba wokuzwa ngenhlonipho umlingani wakho kuzoqinisekisa ukuthi niyakhula ndawonye kunokuba nihlukane.
Khuluma ngempilo yomlingani wakho
Abantu bayathanda ukukhuluma ngabo, futhi akuyona imfihlo ukuthi imibhangqwana iyasondelana lapho izwana. Noma ngabe ubusuhlale nomlingani wakho iminyaka eminingi, kusamele uzame ukubazi. Buza ngempilo yabo, ukuqhubeka komsebenzi, izinkumbulo zabo zobuntwana, nezinhloso zabo zesikhathi esizayo. Noma ngabe uke wakhuluma ngalezi zinto phambilini, ukuba nentshisekelo empilweni yomlingani wakho kuzobenza bazizwe sengathi imicabango nemizwa yabo kuyinto eza kuqala kuwe.
Njengoba kulula njengoba kuzwakala, ukudlala imidlalo emnandi yokuthi “ungathanda yini ...” noma “ungenzenjani uma ...” kungenza izimangaliso ukuvula iminyango yezokuxhumana futhi kwenze umlingani wakho azizwe ezwa futhi ezwakaliswa.
Ungakhonondi
Yonke imibhangqwana inezinto efisa sengathi enye ibingazenzi. Imikhuba nemikhuba engahle ibonakale imnandi ekuqaleni kobudlelwano manje ibukeka icasukile. Kepha kukhona okuthandanayo ngokukhononda? Impendulo ithi 'Cha!' Impela, wonke umuntu oshade naye uzobhekana nezinzwa zomunye nomunye njalo, kepha kuhlale kunendlela engcono yokubhekana nezikhalazo kunokucindezela oshade naye.
Ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa unesidingo sokukhononda noma ugxeke izici zobuntu bomlingani wakho noma imikhuba yasekhaya, zibuze: “Ngabe ngisazokukhathalela lokhu kusasa?” Uma kungenjalo, funda ukuvumela izinto zihambe, njengoba kungenzeka umlingani wakho uma ecasulwa nguwe.
Yiba nomusa
Ukubonga kuyingxenye enkulu yokuzizwa ubalulekile ebudlelwaneni. Ngeshwa, lokhu futhi kungenye yezinto zokuqala ukukhula kancane lapho usunomuntu ofanayo iminyaka eminingana. Ngabe umlingani wakho ukwenzela izinto zomusa njengokukwenzela ukudla kwasemini, ukukuvulela iminyango, noma ukwenza umsebenzi wezandla endlini? Khombisa ukubonga kwakho ngombhalo omnandi, ngokugona, nangokwanga, noma ngo 'ngiyacela' nokuthi 'ngiyabonga'. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuzwakalisa ukuthi uyazazisa zonke izinto ezimangazayo umlingani wakho akwenzela zona kungenza bazizwe bethandwa futhi bethandwa nguwe.
Ungayeki “ukuphola”
Ngesikhathi niqala ukuthandana kungenzeka wenze umzamo owengeziwe wokujabulisa umlingani wakho. Amadina, ukudlala ngothando, uhambo losuku, kanye ne- “wooing” ejwayelekile bekuvame ukuba yindawo evamile yobusuku benu niphume ndawonye. Lokhu kuziphatha bekuyikho okwenza ukuthi bobabili babuyele okunye, ngakho-ke ungayeki!
Imibhangqwana eyodwa, yesikhathi eside izuza ngobusuku bobusuku ngisho nangaphezu kwemibhangqwana emisha. Ukuzinika isikhathi omunye komunye njengalokhu kusiza ukugcina ubudlelwano bakho buzizwa bubusha futhi bujabulisa. Ukuba nobusuku bosuku njalo ngesonto kuyisinyathelo esihle sokubeka umlingani wakho njengeyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Lokhu kusiza kakhulu uma niqale umndeni ndawonye futhi kunqabile ukuthi nithole ithuba lokuba nodwa njengabantu abashadile.
Khombisa uthando lwakho
Imibhangqwana esanda kuphola ihlale igcwele uthando; ukuqabula nokugona, ukubamba izandla okunamahloni, ukuhamba izingalo. Uma lo mkhuba uphumile esimisweni sakho sobudlelwano, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uphinde ubuye. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi abantu abashadile abathandanayo ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala bazizwa bephephile ebudlelwaneni babo futhi bakhiqize amazinga aphezulu we-hormone ezwa i-oxytocin. Ukuthandana omunye nomunye kuyindlela enhle yokwehlisa umfutho wegazi nokukhuthaza ukwethembana.
Bungaza okufeziwe
Uma umlingani wakho esebenzela inhloso yokwehlisa isisindo noma ukudla ukudla okunempilo, kungani ungathumeli umbhalo othukayo oveza ukuziqhenya kwakho ngezinhloso zabo nangalokho abakufezile kulowo mkhakha? Khombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi impumelelo yabo iza kuqala ngokugubha lapho befeza enye yezinhloso zabo. Lokhu kungaba yinto enkulu njengokuphonsa idina lokuzijabulisa ngemuva kokukhuthazwa komsebenzi omusha noma njengokulula njengokufaka inothi ekudleni kwabo kwasemini ubatshela ukuthi ujabule kangakanani ngabo ngempumelelo yabo yakamuva.
Akudingi mzamo omkhulu ukutshela oshade naye ukuthi benza izinto ezimangazayo, ukuthi uyaziqhenya, noma ukuthi uzimisele ngabo. Kodwa-ke, ukusabela okungokomzwelo ozokuthola kulezi zitatimende ezilula kukhulu kakhulu!