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- 1. Yazi ukuthi kungani nikhethe omunye nomunye
- 2. Chaza imingcele yobudlelwano kusuka ekuhambeni
- 3. Thembani
- 4. Gwema ukubambelela
- 5. Gcina izinto zinamandla
- 6. Yenza ubuhlobo buhambe phambili
Usebudlelwaneni obunothando, nobugcwalisayo ekugcineni! Ufunde okuningi emaphutheni obudlelwano bakho bangaphambilini futhi ufuna ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lobu budlelwane buhlala bujabulile nobabili. Yiziphi ezinye zezindlela ongagcina ngazo ubudlelwano bakho bobungqingili buthuthukisa, bunelisa futhi buphumelela?
1. Yazi ukuthi kungani nikhethe omunye nomunye
Zikhumbuze ngezizathu ubudlelwano obudlule behlulekile. Wathandana nalowo mfana ngoba wayenemali futhi wayethanda ukuyisebenzisa kuwe, kepha wakushaya indiva ukuthi wayeyinduna futhi engathembekile njalo. Enye yamasoka akho edlule yayiyinhle; inkinga bekukhona nina nobabili aninalutho eningaxoxa ngalo uma nisegumbini lokulala.
Lesi sikhathi, nokho, uzwa ukuthi yonke into ikhona ngebhalansi elungile. Awudingi ukuba "nomunye" nganoma yisiphi esinye isizathu kodwa uthando. Ukuheha kwakho akususwanga ku-akhawunti yakhe yasebhange noma ekubukekeni komzimba. Uyazi ukuthi umthanda ngazo zonke izizathu ezifanele. Lesi yisiqalo esihle kakhulu sokuqinisekisa ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buzoba yimpumelelo yesikhathi eside.
2. Chaza imingcele yobudlelwano kusuka ekuhambeni
Lokhu kuyinto ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuphumelelayo bezitabane ngoba kudinga ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho ukuze niqiniseke ukuthi nobabili nifuna uhlobo olufanayo lobudlelwano. Uma omunye wenu edinga izinto ukuthi zivuleke futhi omunye afune ukuhlelwa okukhethekile, kusobala ukuthi nobabili anihloselwe omunye nomunye ngomqondo wothando.
Akunandaba ukuthi ubucabanga kangakanani ukuthi le ndoda bekungokwakho, uma ingabuboni ubudlelwano ngendlela obubheka ngayo, uzibeka ekudumazekeni. Le yingxoxo ekufanele uyivuselele njalo ezinyangeni eziyisithupha noma kunjalo, ngoba njengoba ubudlelwano bakho buthuthuka, okulindelekile nakho kungenzeka. Eminye imibhangqwana eyizitabane eqale nge-premium ekushadeni nomuntu oyedwa, emva kweminyaka bendawonye, inquma ukuthi ukuvula ubudlelwano yinto abafisa ukuyihlola bobabili. Noma ngabe amapharamitha abukeka kanjani, kubalulekile ukuthi nobabili nivumelane ngawo ndawonye.
3. Thembani
Akukho okungabeka isikhubekiso ebudlelwaneni obusafufusa ngokushesha kunomhawu. Ngokuphikisana nalokho abanye abantu abakucabangayo, ukubonisa umona lapho ubona isoka lakho lihlangana nabanye abantu akuyona inkomba yothando. (Hhayi uthando olunempilo, noma ngabe ikuphi.) Uma ungumuntu onomona ngokwemvelo, cabanga ukukhipha izizathu zalokhu kungazethembi nomeluleki onguchwepheshe ukuze kungaholeli ekuhlukaneni nomlingani wakho. Abukho ubuhlobo obulinganiselayo obungasinda uma kungekho zinga eliqinile lokuthembana phakathi kwabahlanganyeli ababili.
4. Gwema ukubambelela
Kungaba nokuthambekela ikakhulukazi ezinsukwini zokuqala zendaba yakho yothando yokufuna ukuba nesoka lakho ubusuku nemini. Leli iphutha elejwayelekile ukwenza futhi kungaba yisizathu sokuthi ubudlelwano obusha bushe ngokushesha. Qiniseka ukuthi nishiyela omunye nomunye isikhala sokuphefumula. Noma kungezi ngokwemvelo kuwe, ziphoqe ukuthi uphume futhi uhlanganyele emisebenzini obuyithanda ngaphambi kokuba nithandane. Imidlalo yakho, iworkshop yakho yokubhala, umsebenzi wakho wokuzithandela neqembu le-LGBT — noma yini obukade ubandakanyeka nayo ngaphambi kokuhlangana noMnu. Right, qhubeka ukwenze. Kugcina ukuthakazelisa futhi kuzogcina umfana wakho ekuthakasela.
5. Gcina izinto zinamandla
Akukho okunciphisa amalangabi othando ngokushesha kunokujwayelekile. Uma usuqede igxathu lobudlelwano bakho, kulula ukuwela ogibeni lwenjwayelo. Yize kukuhle ukuzizwa uvikelekile futhi uzinzile, kuyabhoreka uma ungaphumi ezindala ezifanayo ezindala ngezikhathi ezithile. Buza noma imuphi umbhangqwana ophumelelayo ukuthi ugcina kanjani umlilo uvutha, futhi bazokutshela ukuthi kumayelana nokuwunyakazisa ngezikhathi ezithile. Ukuhamba ngempelasonto okumangazayo, iholide eliyingqayizivele, umdlalo omusha, ukuzama okuhlukile egumbini lokulala ... phuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka ubone ukuthi lokhu kukuthathaphi wena nomlingani wakho.
6. Yenza ubuhlobo buhambe phambili
Qiniseka ukuthi isikhathi osithathayo ukukhombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ubeka phambili ubuhlobo bakho. Yiziphi ezinye zezindlela ongakwenza ngazo lokhu? Iya emicimbini naye, noma ngabe awunantshisekelo ephathini lakhe likaKhisimusi. Nikezela ubusuku obubodwa isonto ngalinye kuze kube manje ebusuku, lapho uzama khona indawo yokudlela entsha, iya kumculo we-symphony, ulalele inkulumo eyunivesithi yangakini ... noma yini lapho nenza okuthile ndawonye. Zinike isikhathi sokugxila komunye nomunye futhi nikhulume ... ngesonto lenu, umsebenzi wenu, izingcindezi zenu nempumelelo yenu. Futhi ungayinaki impilo yakho yobulili! Kujwayelekile ukuthola ukuthi ucansi lwakho lwehlisiwe ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi sindawonye, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele wamukele “okujwayelekile.” Ukuthinta kuyingxenye yokukhombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ubalulekile. Khumbula amandla okuqabulana nokwangana okude. Noma omunye wenu ekhathele kakhulu ukuya ocansini, ukubhucungwa umzimba okude nokuphumuzayo kuyindlela enhle yokuxhumana nokuthi umazisa kangakanani umlingani wakho.
Uma unomuntu ofanele, ufuna ukwenza okudingekayo ukwenza ubuhlobo bube yimpumelelo. Ngenhlanhla, ngoba ukhethe umuntu ofanele, lezi zinto ngeke zibonakale njengemisebenzi yasekhaya! Uma ubudlelwano bakho bobungqingili bujabulile futhi bucebisa ngokubambisana, ukubeka lezi zeluleko kuzobukeka kungokwemvelo. Uthando oluhle luyisipho esingenakuqhathaniswa, futhi ukusebenzela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi luhlala lufanelekile.