-Delile
- 1. Khulumisanani
- 2. Nikezanani isikhala
- 3. Yakha ukwethembana
- 4. Ukuhloniphana
- 5. Chitha isikhathi sekhwalithi nomunye
- 6. Uthando
- 7. Yiba nesineke futhi uhlehle
Umshado ubumbano oluhle lwabantu ababili abanquma ukuthi bafuna ukuchitha izimpilo zabo ndawonye ngokuzwana. Kodwa-ke, umgwaqo ongezansi kwalomugqa akuwona wonke ama-rose.
Uma usuzoshada, kubalulekile ukuthi ulivume leli qiniso futhi uhlale ukulungele ngokomqondo lokho ikusasa elikuphethe.
Uma usuvele ushadile, mhlawumbe usuvele uyazi ukuthi umshado usebenza kanzima ngempela.
Nazi izimiso eziyisikhombisa okufanele uhlale ubambelele kuzo ukwenza izinto zisebenze
1. Khulumisanani
Kunoma yibaphi abantu ababili ebudlelwaneni, ukubaluleka kokuxhumana akunakugcizelelwa ngokwanele. Imvamisa ukuxhumana okungafanele noma ukungabikho kwengxoxo efanele okonakalisa ubudlelwano.
Isenzo esilula kepha esinamandla kakhulu sokuxhumana kahle singenza izimangaliso ebudlelwaneni bakho. Isikhathi esiningi, abantu bavame ukungazinaki izingqinamba abasuke bezitholile ngokungakhulumi ngazo.
Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuzokwenza izinto zibonakale zingcono okwesikhashana kuphela kubo ukuthi zibe zimbi kamuva. Imvamisa kuyalulekwa ukuxazulula izingqinamba ngaphambi kokuba ziphume ngokulingana.
Ukwenza ngcono ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho kubalulekile futhi ukubona ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zokuziphatha eziholela ekuxhumaneni okuvulekile.
Ukwenza lokhu, yenza uhlu lokwenza nokungafanele ukwenze. Ngemuva kwalokho, qiniseka ukuthi wenza izinto ezizosiza umlingani wakho avuleke kuwe.
2. Nikezanani isikhala
Umqondo wokunikezana isikhala ebudlelwaneni ungabonakala uxakile kubantu abaningi. Kepha, kubantu abaningana, isikhala somuntu siqu sibaluleke kakhulu ngakho-ke siyinto abangakwazi ukuyekethisa kuyo.
Isikhala somuntu uqobo akuyona into embi.
Futhi akufanele ukubeke enhliziyweni uma umlingani wakho ekucela. Kuyilungelo labo futhi, njengawo wonke umuntu. Ukunikeza umlingani wakho isikhathi esincane kude nawe kuzoba kuhle kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ngeke kusize wena nomlingani wakho niphumule kuphela kepha kuzonikeza nobabili isikhathi sokuphuthelana.
Ukwenza lokhu, hlela usuku lwakho bese utshela umlingani wakho ukuthi aphume nabangane babo. Uzomangala ukubona amandla abuya nawo.
3. Yakha ukwethembana
Ukwethemba mhlawumbe kufanele kube yisisekelo sabo bonke ubuhlobo empilweni yakho futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ubudlelwano bomshado. Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ngaphandle kokwethembana, ubudlelwano abunasizathu sokuqhubeka. Ngokunjalo, ukwethembana kuyinsika ebaluleke kakhulu engenza noma yokugqashula izibopho.
Ukwethenjwa kuvame ukwakhiwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi kungaphulwa ngendaba yemizuzwana.
Kubalulekile ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nixoxe ngemingcele yobudlelwano ukuze niqonde ukuthi yini engekho futhi engavinjelwe imingcele.
Lapho nobabili nisekhasini elilodwa, kuba lula ukunquma ukuthi kufanele niziphathe kanjani.
4. Ukuhloniphana
Ukuhlonipha umlingani wakho kuyadingeka impela. Ukuntuleka kokuhloniphana kungaholela ebudlelwaneni obunenkinga obungagcina sebuphela ngendlela ebuhlungu.
Inhlonipho yilungelo eliyisisekelo lawo wonke umuntu. Ngakho-ke kunoma imuphi umshado, abalingani kufanele baqiniseke ukuthi banikezana leli lungelo eliyisisekelo. Imvamisa kungenxa yokuba khona kokuhloniphana lapho abalingani abaningi bekwazi ukugcina isheke lokuthi baziphatha kanjani ngesikhathi sezimpikiswano.
5. Chitha isikhathi sekhwalithi nomunye
Bona ukuthi sibhale kanjani isikhathi esezingeni hhayi isikhathi nje?
Ingxoxo ezuzisayo ngenkomishi yetiye izokwenzela wena nobudlelwano bakho okuhle kunehora olichithe ubuka izindaba kuthelevishini nomlingani wakho, ngaphandle kokwenza ingxoxo.
Ukuthatha isikhathi sobudlelwano bakho kubalulekile njengokuthatha isikhathi sakho. Uma unika umuntu ingxenye yesikhathi sakho, kuyakhombisa ukuthi uyamthanda futhi uyamkhathalela.
Ngakho-ke, nsuku zonke lapho ubuya emsebenzini, zama ukuhlala phansi noshade naye nixoxe ngemicimbi yosuku kunokuba niphenye ucingo lwenu.
Lo mkhuba omncane uzokusiza ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho futhi kuzobenza bazizwe bebalulekile.
6. Uthando
Uthando mhlawumbe yisona sizathu esenza abantu banqume ukuthi bafuna ukushada kwasekuqaleni. Uthando lwenza abantu benze izinto ezingajwayelekile futhi luthando olwenza abantu bafune ukuhlala ndawonye kungakhathalekile ukuthi banganomahluko onjani.
Kodwa-ke, njengakho konke okunye emhlabeni, uthando nalo lungaphela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi uqhubeke nokusebenza ukugcina inhlansi iphila.
Izimpawu zomzimba ezincane zingahamba ibanga elide.
Uyomangala ukubona ukuthi umlayezo wombhalo oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka othi, 'Ngiyakuthanda', ungenza kanjani umlingani wakho agxume ngenjabulo.
7. Yiba nesineke futhi uhlehle
Uma ushada futhi ucabanga ukuthi uzohlala wenza izinto ngendlela yakho nokuthi awusoze wahlehla, ngicela ucabange futhi.
Abukho ubudlelwano obuhle futhi yingakho bobabili abalingani kufanele basebenzele ukubenza bube ngcono.
Ukuyekethisa, ngakho-ke, akunakugwemeka.
Awukwazi futhi ngeke uhlale uthola okufunayo. Ngakho-ke, kwesinye isikhathi kuzodingeka ubekezele ngokuguquka kwemicimbi futhi ezimweni eziningi, ukuyekethisa, ngenxa yomlingani wakho noma ngenxa yobuhlobo bakho. Ukubekezela okuncane kuzokusa kude.
Uma udonsa kanzima empilweni yakho yomshado, kepha usafuna ukuyiphinda, sicela uqonde ukuthi umshado usebenza kanzima. Izodinga imizamo eminingi engaguquguquki evela kubo bobabili abalingani futhi le mizamo ivame ukuthatha isikhathi ukuletha imiphumela yabo.
Ungalindeli imiphumela esheshayo. Vele ubekezele uzinikele ngakho konke.