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- 1. Bhala incwadi noma inkondlo
- 2. Mhlelele usuku olukhethekile
- 3. Mnike usuku lokuphumula
- 4. Mhambise ukuyothenga
- 5. Yibethele ngobusuku bosuku
Abesifazane banakekela buthule. Lokhu akusho ukuthi banomthwalo wemfanelo wokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya kuphela, kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yokukhulisa izingane. Bangabanakekeli ngoba bayazwela ngaphakathi futhi banobubele. Yize lokhu kungaba yinto evamile, iningi labesifazane, ngisho nalabo abasebenza ngaphandle kwamakhaya abo, banesithakazelo esikhulu ekugcineni ikhaya lisesimweni esihle kunabesilisa.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu akusho ukuthi amadoda azama ukwehlisa isabelo sawo semisebenzi kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yokuba ngumzali. Bamane badinga ukunxusa okuncane. Badinga izikhumbuzo ngezikhathi ezithile zokukhipha udoti, ukondla ikati, ukukhipha izingane esikoleni nokuthatha izingubo kwabahlanza izingubo ezomile. Yilapho owesifazane wasendlini akhuphuka khona athathe izintambo. Uqinisekisa ukuthi konke kuhlala endaweni, uqinisekisa ukuthi awupheli ubisi, uqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zenza umsebenzi wasekhaya, uqinisekisa ukuthi oweplamba ulungisa usinki wekhishi ovalekile, nokunye okuningi.
Abesifazane bahamba ibanga elengeziwe ukuqinisekisa okuhle kakhulu kubo bonke abantu ababathandayo. Bafanele usuku olukhethekile olunikezelwe ukukhumbula imizamo yabo kanye nezinhlelo zabo. Lolu suku lwabesifazane, khombisa intokazi yakho ithanda lokho ekushoyo kuwe.
Nazi ezinye izenzo ezisuka enhliziyweni zokwenza owesifazane wakho azizwe ekhethekile ngosuku lwabesifazane-
1. Bhala incwadi noma inkondlo
USaraKay Smullens oyi-Certified group psychotherapist kanye nomfundisi wempilo yomndeni uthi, “bhalela owesifazane wakho incwadi noma mhlawumbe inkondlo (ngoyinki, eyodwa ozibhalela yona) uchaze konke okwenzekayo ubona owesifazane wakho akwenzayo ukwenza impilo yakho ibe nenjongo, isebenze, futhi ikhetheke. Yethule kuye ngembali eyodwa enhle oyikhethayo wena. Uma kunezingane, mazikubone uletha isipho sakho - kuzoba isifundo esihle kakhulu sokwazisa nothando. ”
Izinkulumo zomlomo zokuncoma nokwazisa ziyesabeka kepha ukubhala phansi kuyindlela ekhethekile yokuxhumana nendlela ozizwa ngayo. "Kuyinto azokwazi ukuyigcina futhi ayifunde kaningi ngendlela afuna ngayo", kusho umeluleki onguchwepheshe, uKerriAnne Brown.
Ngokuhambisana nokumenza azizwe ekhethekile, ungasebenzisa leli thuba ukumazisa ngazo zonke izinto akwenzela zona. Encwadini noma enkondlweni oyibhalele yena, chaza ngokusobala izinto ombonge ngazo, lokho kwenza umehluko impela. Umeluleki onguchwepheshe uDkt LaWanda N Evans uthi, “umbhalo obhalwe ukuthi‘ Ngiyakwazisa ’, uthi ngiyakubona, ngiyakwazisa, ngiyakwazisa, futhi ngiyakwazisa ngakho konke okwenzayo. "
2. Mhlelele usuku olukhethekile
Ukuhlelela usuku olukhethekile kuyisimanga esihle, kusho uchwepheshe wezobudlelwano uSaraKay. Tshela unkosikazi noma intombi yakho ukuthi ikhethe impelasonto lapho kusuka ngoLwesihlanu kusihlwa kuye ngeSonto ebusuku, isikhathi lapho wenza yonke imizamo yokufeza imicabango nezifiso zakhe ezincane. Konke okudingeka akwenze ukugxila ezintweni ezimjabulisayo, futhi uzokwenza konke okusemandleni ukufeza amaphupho akhe. Lokhu kufanele kufaka isikhathi sakhe, impahla eyigugu.
3. Mnike usuku lokuphumula
Imisebenzi yejuggling nomsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele kungakhathaza izinzwa. Usuku lokuphumula okungenani komunye wemithwalo yemfanelo lungaba ukukhululeka okukhulu kuye. Lolu suku lwabesifazane, thatha yonke imisebenzi futhi umvumele abeke izinyawo phezulu aphumule. Izintokazi, ezingabaninikhaya futhi ezihlala emakhaya omama, nazo zidinga usuku lokuzitotosa. Leli kungaba yithuba elihle lokuthi wenze leso sifiso sibe yiqiniso.
4. Mhambise ukuyothenga
Ayikho into engaphakamisa imizwa yowesifazane njengokuthenga. Njengokudla kuyindlela eya enhliziyweni yendoda, ukuthenga kuyindlela eya enhliziyweni yowesifazane. Lokhu akusho ukuthi abesifazane bafuna kuphela injabulo yezinto ezibonakalayo, kepha ukuzitika ngezikhathi ezithile kwamukelekile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Awudingi ukukhwehlela inani elikhulu kakhulu lemali ngalokho, isipho esincane esicabangayo singenza usuku lwakhe. Akunjalo nje, ukuvakasha ngezikhathi ezithile nakho kunomphumela wokuphalaza kwabesifazane. I-whammy ephindwe kabili kuwe! Uzohlala ejabule futhi ejabule ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezilandelayo ngemuva kokuthenga.
5. Yibethele ngobusuku bosuku
Hlela idina lokudla kwamakhandlela lomkakho noma intombi yakho, lokhu kuyindlela enhle yokuqeda usuku. Pheka, noma oda okuthile akuthandayo. Shintsha ukuhlobisa nokukhanyisa ukuze wenze i-ambiance ibe yothando oluthile. Usuku luzokunika ithuba lokuxhuma futhi wakhe i-quotient yokusondelana ebudlelwaneni bakho. Umelaphi womshado nomndeni uMary Kay Cocharo uthi, “umsondeze, umbheke emehlweni bese ummema ukuthi akutshele okubalulekile kuye. Njengoba ekhuluma, lalela ngokujulile ngobukhona obugcwele. Cabanga ngalokho okuzwayo bese umumema ukuthi akutshele kabanzi.Hlala ngamehlo akhe futhi vumela ubuso bakho bukhululeke futhi bube nelukuluku. Owesifazane uthanda ukwazi ukuthi ulalele ngokweqiniso, uqinisekisa imibono yakhe futhi uzwela ngaye. ”
Usuku lwalesi Sifazane, lumenze azizwe ebalulekile futhi aziswa. Vuma iminikelo yakhe futhi umenze azizwe enamandla. Izenzo zomzimba ezincane ezisuka enhliziyweni zingenza usuku lwakhe, futhi zingenza nomehluko ebudlelwaneni bakho.