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- Ukuqonda ukuthi abesifazane bafunani ebudlelwaneni
- 1. Abesifazane balangazelela ukuthandana kuphela
- 2. Abesifazane bayakuthokozela ukuthintana kwabesilisa nabesifazane
- 3. Shesha ukucela intethelelo
- 4. Yiba nozwelo ezidingweni zomunye nomunye
- 5. Nikeza usizo ngaphandle kokulinda ukucelwa
- 6. Yamukela ukugxekwa ubulale intukuthelo, hhayi imizwa
- Zimbalwa izeluleko zobudlelwano kwabesifazane
- 1. Amakhosikazi kufanele ahloniphe amadoda
- 2. Kufanele uhlangabezane nesidingo sakhe esikhulu - ucansi
- 1. Ucansi ludedela ukungezwani, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo
- 2. Gcina ezinye izinsiza ezingokoqobo eziseduze
- 3. Inhlanzeko yomuntu siqu
- 4. Abesifazane abaningi badinga ubumfihlo
- 5. Gcina ifoni yakho kude
- 6. Gcina imfihlakalo iphila
- 7. Izinsiza ezikhona zingasiza
- 8. Yamukela okuhlangenwe nakho okungaphelele
- 9. Hlela izinsuku zokuthokozisana
- 10. Khulumisanani
- 11. Hlela ukubaleka kwezothando
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uDkt Kevin Leman sithi, “Ubulili buqala ekhishini.” Udinga ukusebenza usuku lonke ekugcineni imfihlakalo nezothando ziphila emshadweni wakho futhi uthole izindlela zokwenza umlingani wakho ajabule.
Uma abesilisa behluleka ukubona noma ukwazisa imizamo efakwa ngabafazi babo ikakhulukazi lapho esesezindlebeni zakhe ezincwadini nasezitsheni ezingcolile, khona-ke uyobe engaphansi kokuphendula intuthuko yakho yokubonisana ngesikhathi sokulala.
Ngakho-ke, kufanele ufunde ukwenza umlingani wakho ajabule ngazo zonke izindlela.
Ukuqonda ukuthi abesifazane bafunani ebudlelwaneni
Owesifazane ufuna ubudlelwano bonke, hhayi ucansi kuphela.
Inoveli ne-movie ka-1995 ethi The Bridges of Madison County iveze owesifazane ozibona ecacile futhi engathandwa kuze kube yilapho umuntu ongamazi embula ubuhlakani, ubuhlakani nobufazi bakhe. Uvuka abe yilowo muhle ophilayo ngokuphelele ngokuthandana naye okuncane ayigcina ngasese impilo yakhe yonke.
Madoda, yelulekeni, nani, ninamandla wokukhipha lobu buhle obufihlekile noma bokuwukhipha (njengoba kwenza umyeni wakhe) kumkakho.
1. Abesifazane balangazelela ukuthandana kuphela
Abesifazane balangazelela ukuthandana ngenxa yabo hhayi njengezindlela zokufeza okuthile.
Abesilisa akufanele balindele ukuthi ngokushesha nje lapho amakhosikazi abo eletha izimbali zasekhaya, akhanyise amakhandlela ambalwa, noma egeza i-bubble bath, omkabo bangafuna ukusheshe bagxume baye ocansini nabo.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, angahle afise ukujabulela isikhashana esithule samakhandlela nomlingani wakhe futhi akhulume ngosuku lwakhe noma ezwe ngolwakho. Ngakho-ke, mbuze ukuthi yini ayithatha njengeyothando, bese ufaka lezo zinto ebudlelwaneni bakho bese wenza umlingani wakho ajabule.
2. Abesifazane bayakuthokozela ukuthintana kwabesilisa nabesifazane
Abesifazane bakhetha ukuthinta abesilisa nabesifazane.
Bathanda ukubanjwa, ukushaywa futhi bagonwe ngaphandle kokuzizwa bephoqelekile ukunikela nganoma yini. Ngaphandle kwalokho, bangagcina bezizwe njengezinto zocansi, izithako nje zesidoda sabayeni babo.
Ngeshwa kwabesilisa, kepha leyo yindlela umfazi azizwa ngayo futhi alindele ngayo kumlingani wakhe. Njengendoda, uma wehluleka ukukhombisa lokho kuziphatha, ungahle ulahlekelwe unomphela.
Ngakho-ke, jabulisa umlingani wakho ngokumazisa ngezinye izimfanelo zakhe kanye neminikelo yakhe emshadweni wakho,
3. Shesha ukucela intethelelo
Gcina ama-akhawunti amafushane, okungukuthi, shesha ukucela intethelelo nganoma yikuphi ukulimala nokungaqondi kahle ukuze ugcine ubunye bomzwelo.
4. Yiba nozwelo ezidingweni zomunye nomunye
Buza noma imuphi umuntu wesifazane imibuzo efana nokuthi 'ungayenza kanjani indoda yakho ijabule, ngokomzwelo noma ngokocansi ebudlelwaneni?' Bayazi ngamasu ahlukene namathiphu wokuthi bangawagcina kanjani amadoda abo ajabule, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.
Ngokunjalo, kungumsebenzi wenu njengabayeni abanomthwalo wemfanelo ukufunda izindlela zokwenza umlingani wakho ajabule. Isidingo somyeni esiqhutshwa yi-testosterone sobulili sisebenza kahle njengesidingo somfazi sokukhala noma siveze imizwa yakhe phakathi nosuku olukhokhiswe nge-estrogen, nosuku olunenselelo yamahomoni.
5. Nikeza usizo ngaphandle kokulinda ukucelwa
Futhi njengamadoda anokwethenjelwa, kufanele nazi lapho unkosikazi wakho esindwa yimisebenzi yasekhaya ukuze unikeze ukusiza ngaphandle kokulinda ukucelwa.
Uma kwenzeka ubona ingane ekhalayo idonsa umlenze wephenti likaMama ngenkathi izama ukusiza uJunior ngezibalo zakhe noSissie omncane ngesipelingi sakhe, nezitsha ezingcolile zedina zisenqwabelene kusinki, ngiyethemba awucabangi futhi , "Kazi uzolungela ukuthatha isenzo esincane namhlanje ebusuku."
Khumbula nje! Kwesinye isikhathi ukugeza izitsha nokubeka ingane embhedeni yizinto ezijabulisa kakhulu ongazenza.
6. Yamukela ukugxekwa ubulale intukuthelo, hhayi imizwa
Qonda ukugxekwa nentukuthelo kubulala ubunye obungokomzwelo.
Uma ufisa ukwenza umlingani wakho ajabule, vele ulinganise amagama akho bese wazi ngemiyalezo ecashile (noma engeyona-ecashile) engaphansi kwethoni yakho yezwi nasebusweni.
Konke okudingeka ukwenze ukubulala nje intukuthelo yakho kepha ungabuqedi ubunye obungokomzwelo naye.
Zimbalwa izeluleko zobudlelwano kwabesifazane
Abesifazane namantombazane amancane banekhono lokugcina abalingani babo bejabule. Ngakho-ke, lapho ubuzwa ngezihloko ezihlobene nokuthi 'Umenza kanjani umuntu wakho ajabule ebudlelwaneni?', Kungenzeka ubusiswe ngezimpendulo eziningi ezithokozisayo.
Kepha, abesifazane besimanje kufanele balahle imibono embalwa engemihle efana nokuthi -
1. Amakhosikazi kufanele ahloniphe amadoda
Sicabanga ukuthi thina njengabafazi asinakho ukukhetha kulokhu, kepha siyalwa ukuba si-R-E-S-P-E-C-T abayeni bethu noma ngabe yini, khona-ke lokho kucabanga KULUNGILE impela.
Yeka lokhu okwenzayo njengamanje bese uphefumula kanzima, uvale amehlo akho, futhi ubonge iNkosi ngokunikeza le ndoda ukuthi ibe yisithandwa sakho, iqhawe, umhlinzeki, nomvikeli wekhaya lakho.
Cabanga ngazo zonke izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle bese uhlela izindlela zokumazisa ukuthi umazisa kangakanani ngalezi zinto.
2. Kufanele uhlangabezane nesidingo sakhe esikhulu - ucansi
Njengabafazi, khumbulani ukuthi uma ulala nomyeni wakho, nihlangabezana nesidingo sakhe sokuqala.
Imicabango efana nalena iyimbi impela. Ungabaphathi kalula. Esikhundleni salokho, cabanga ukuthi le ngenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokwenza umlingani wakho ajabule. Lapha, wenza ukuxhumana naye okungenakwenziwa ngenye indlela.
Ukhulisa ukukhanga kazibuthe okumgcina ebuyela kokunye futhi kuvimbele iso lakhe ekuzulazuleni kwenye indawo ukuthola leso sidingo.
Zimbalwa ezinye izeluleko zombhangqwana zokujabulela impilo yasemshadweni enenjabulo
1. Ucansi ludedela ukungezwani, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo
Ezocansi zininikeza nobabili ukukhululeka kwezingqinamba, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, ngenkathi zininikeza indlela yokuzwelana omunye nomunye njengoba nifunda ukuzidela kanye nokunikela nokwamukela injabulo.
2. Gcina ezinye izinsiza ezingokoqobo eziseduze
Izithambisi zomuntu siqu, i-Kleenex noma indwangu yokuwasha, imishini yokuphefumula noma inhlaka, amafutha okugcoba noma okubhucunga ama-backrub noma izinyawo ezinyaweni, umculo wothando, amakhandlela, nomentshisi kungezinye zezinto ezingasiza uma kudingeka.
3. Inhlanzeko yomuntu siqu
Uma ufisa ukujabulisa umlingani wakho, khumbula njalo ukunakekela inhlanzeko yakho.
Inhlanzeko iseduze nobunkulunkulu.
4. Abesifazane abaningi badinga ubumfihlo
Ingabe umnyango wakho wekamelo uyakhiya? Ngabe izingane zihlala yini ukuze zingakuphazamisi?
Abanye ophathina bavame "ukushintshana ngokuya ocansini" futhi bashintshane ngokugada izingane zomunye nomunye ukuqinisekisa isikhathi esingaphazanyiswa sobudlelwano.
5. Gcina ifoni yakho kude
Futhi, uma ufisa ukwenza umlingani wakho ajabule futhi ajabulele ukuthula ekhaya, vuma ukungaluphenduli ucingo uma beseduze kwakho.
Amafoni namanye amagajethi afana nama-laptops namathebulethi angaba umthombo omkhulu wokuphazamiseka nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni. Setha umthetho - vumela izwi lakho leposi noma umshini wokuphendula akwenzele lo msebenzi.
6. Gcina imfihlakalo iphila
Njalo zama izinto ezintsha ukugcina enye yemfihlakalo iphila. Izinto ezifana nokucisha phansi izibani nokudansa okungatheni ngazo zonke izingubo zakho ukuze uzwe imizimba yakho ihamba ndawonye. Kokunye, ukuphakelana ama-strawberry acwiliswe kushokoledi, bese ukhotha ushokoledi eminweni yomunye nomunye njalo njalo.
Noma yini ezosebenza njengesandulelo socansi kunokukhumula nje izingubo zakho ungene embhedeni, izosebenza kahle ukugcina ilangabi lothando luvutha.
7. Izinsiza ezikhona zingasiza
Sebenzisa izinsiza ongazithola ezinjengezincwadi, ama-CD namateyipu, ama-DVD nama-tape evidiyo ukuthola imibono.
Gxila Emndenini (UDkt James Dobson), i-FamilyLife (uDennis Rainey), Ukubambisana Komshado umagazini, i-Association of Marriage and Family Ministries (AMFM — Eric noJennifer Garcia), iReal Relations (uDkt. Les noLeslie Parrot), iSmalley Relationship Center (uDkt. Gary noGreg Smalley), neNational Association of Marriage Enhancement (IGAMA —Leo noMolly Godzich), ingasaphathwa eyethu iWalk & Talk Ministries abambalwa abanikeza izeluleko ngomakoti ngezingqungquthela, i-Intanethi nezitolo zezincwadi.
8. Yamukela okuhlangenwe nakho okungaphelele
Yazi ukuthi akukhona konke okuhlangenwe nakho okufanele kube "ngu-10" ophelele, okungukuthi, umbono wakho wokuqhuma okuhlangene, ama-orgasms ngasikhathi sinye.
Kwesinye isikhathi owesifazane uzimisele ngokuthola "i-quickie" yokujabulisa indoda yakhe futhi adlulele kokulandelayo empilweni yakhe ematasa. Kepha qiniseka ukuthi unokuxhumana okunengqondo, lapho nigxile enjabulweni yomunye nomunye, okungenani kanye ngesonto.
9. Hlela izinsuku zokuthokozisana
Yenza izinsuku zalezi zikhathi ezikhethekile zokuthokozisana, ikakhulukazi uma wazi ukuthi oshade naye "unesikhathi sokuqala".
10. Khulumisanani
Zimisele ukukhuluma ngezintandokazi zakho komunye nomunye.
Ngabe owakwakho uthanda ukugcotshwa izinyawo noma ukugcotshwa emhlane noma ukugcotshwa intamo? Ukukitaza noma ukuklwebheka emuva? Izikhundla ezahlukahlukene? Sibukane emehlweni?
Lezi zinto kuxoxwa ngazo kangcono endaweni ekhululekile lapho unesikhathi esiningi futhi kungekho ziphazamiso.
11. Hlela ukubaleka kwezothando
Okusiletha kuthiphu yethu yokugcina engaphezulu ukuze wenze umlingani wakho ajabule.
Bekela eceleni izinsuku ezimbalwa kanye noma kabili ngonyaka ukuze ubalekele omunye nomunye — NGAPHANDLE KWEZINGANE — ukugxila ebudlelwaneni bakho kuphela. Lezi zinsuku zokubalekela noma "Izimpelasonto ze-Triple-R" zezothando, ezokuNgcebeleka, kanye nokuvuselela zilungele ukwenza umlingani wakho ajabule.