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- Ama-Partner's eziguli ezingapheli zezempilo yengqondo anokuningi emapuletini awo
- 1. Khuluma nothile ngokulahlekelwa kwakho
- 2. Zibekele izinto eziza kuqala uze unamathele kuzo
- 3. Yazi imingcele yakho
- 4. Yiba nohlelo lwakho lokuthi uzokwenzenjani uma izimpawu ziba nzima kakhulu ukulawulwa
- 5. Yiba nomelaphi wezithandani enikhululeke nobabili
Izifungo zomshado zivame ukufaka ibinzana elithi, “kokuhle noma kokubi.” Uma umlingani wakho elwa nezinkinga ezingapheli zempilo yengqondo, okubi kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi kungazizwa kungenakunqotshwa.
Izimo zezempilo yengqondo ezingalapheki ezifana neMajor Depression Disorder, i-Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, neBi-Polar Disorder, ukubala ezimbalwa, zingadala izikhathi zokukhubazeka kwezimpawu ezivimbela abantu ukuthi basebenze ezimpilweni zabo zansuku zonke.
Ozakwethu babantu abalawula izimpawu ezihambisana nalezi zinkinga bavame ukuthembela kubo ukwenza umsebenzi owengeziwe ukugcina ubudlelwane buqhubeka kanye nempilo yabo isebenza.
Ama-Partner's eziguli ezingapheli zezempilo yengqondo anokuningi emapuletini awo
Abantu abaphila nezinkinga ezingapheli zempilo yengqondo bazohlangabezana nezikhathi lapho izimpawu ziba nzima kakhulu, zidle amandla kangako ukuthi banamandla anele okusebenza endaweni eyodwa yempilo.
Babhekene nesinqumo sokuthi bangagxilisa kuphi amandla abo alinganiselwe; uma begxila emandleni abo ekufinyeleleni emsebenzini ngeke babe namandla okusala okwezingane, okondla ikhaya noma ukuxhumana nabantu nabangani nomndeni.
Lokhu kushiya umlingani wabo esesimweni somnakekeli, okuyisimo esibuhlungu nesikhathaza kakhulu ukuba kusona.
Ngokwengeziwe, eminye yemiphumela ejwayelekile yokukhathazeka kwezempilo yengqondo njengokuxakaniseka, ukucasuka kanye nokulahla ithemba okugcwele, kuvame ukuqondiswa kuzakwethu odala umonakalo empilweni yomzwelo yomlingani nasebudlelwaneni.
Lezi zikhathi zikhathaza wonke umuntu othintekayo. Yize kunzima ukukhumbula uma ukuyo, ukwelashwa okufanele nokuqapha lezi zimpawu kuzodlula futhi izingxenye ezinakekelayo zomlingani wakho zizobuya.
Lapho wena nomlingani wakho nidlula komunye wale mijikelezo ephansi, kunezinto ezimbalwa ezingakusiza ukuthi ugibele igagasi ngenkathi ugcina impilo yakho engokomzwelo nengokwengqondo iqinile.
1. Khuluma nothile ngokulahlekelwa kwakho
Iningi lethu lihlelwe ngesifiso sokuthanda nokuthandwa, ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa yilowo esimthandayo. Zinike ububele nomusa wokuzwa ukulahleka kokungabi naye umaqondana ngalesi sikhathi okwazi ukunikeza uthando nokunakekela okudingayo. Nweba lowo musa nomusa ofanayo kumlingani wakho, wazi ukuthi nabo baphuthelwa yingxenye ebalulekile yobudlelwano.
Thola umuntu ongumngane wobudlelwano bakho ongaxoxa naye ngokulahlekelwa ozizwayo.
Kungasiza futhi ukubhala phansi ngemizwa yakho bese ucabanga ukuyabelana nomlingani wakho lapho besendaweni enempilo.
2. Zibekele izinto eziza kuqala uze unamathele kuzo
Khetha into eyodwa noma ezimbili ozenzela zona ezingenakuxoxiswana ngazo. Mhlawumbe uya esitolo sekhofi njalo ngoMgqibelo ekuseni ihora lonke, ubuke uhlelo lwakho oluthandayo olungaphazanyiswa masonto onke, lelo kilasi le-yoga lamasonto onke noma ingxoxo yasebusuku nomngani.
Noma ngabe kuyini, kubeke ohlwini lwakho okufanele ukwenze njengokubaluleke kakhulu bese unamathela kukho.
Lapho umlingani wethu wempilo engakwazi ukubeka phambili inhlalakahle yakho, ukuphela komuntu ozothanda wena.
3. Yazi imingcele yakho
Kulula ukuwela ogibeni lokucabanga ukuthi uyakwazi futhi kufanele ukwenze konke. Iqiniso akekho umuntu ongenza konke ngaphandle kokuba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakhe engokomzwelo nengqondo.
Esikhundleni salokho, nquma ukuthi imaphi amabhola ongavumela awe.
Mhlawumbe ilondolo idinga ukuwashwa kodwa ingigoqiwe. Mhlawumbe kulungile ukweqa leso sidlo nabasekhweni lakho, noma ukunikeza izingane zakho isikhathi esengeziwe sesikrini kuleli sonto. Uma umlingani wakho enesifo somkhuhlane, kungenzeka ukuthi uzinikeze ezinye zezinto ezenziwa lapho seniphilile nobabili.
Ngesikhathi sesiqephu sokucindezeleka noma ezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo, imithetho efanayo ingasebenza. Ukugula ngengqondo kusemthethweni njenganoma yikuphi okunye ukugula.
4. Yiba nohlelo lwakho lokuthi uzokwenzenjani uma izimpawu ziba nzima kakhulu ukulawulwa
Ukwenza uhlelo nomlingani wakho lapho bephilile kwenza kube lula ukusebenzisa uhlelo lapho bengekho. Uhlelo lungahlanganisa ukuthi yibaphi abangani, umndeni kanye nabahlinzeki bezempilo oyofinyelela kubo lapho udinga khona kanye nohlelo lokuphepha uma inhloso yokuzibulala noma iziqephu ze-manic ziyingxenye yenkinga.
Khumbula, awunabo obangela izimpawu zempilo yengqondo yomlingani wakho futhi awunacala ngezenzo zabo.
5. Yiba nomelaphi wezithandani enikhululeke nobabili
Umelaphi wombhangqwana owazi kahle ukukhathazeka okungapheli kwengqondo angakusiza uxoxe ngezinkinga ezihlukile eza ebudlelwaneni bakho, futhi akusize usebenzise amandla ayingqayizivele ubuhlobo bakho anabo.
Umelaphi angakusiza nokuthi uhlelele futhi usebenzise lezi zinyathelo ezingenhla ukuze wena nomlingani wakho nimunye ekulweni nezimpawu zokukhathazeka ngempilo yengqondo ndawonye.
Izinkinga zokukhathazeka okungapheli kwezempilo yengqondo ebudlelwaneni akudingeki ukuthi zisho ukuphela kobudlelwano noma ukuphela kwempilo nokuphila komuntu ngamunye. Ukuba necebo lokulawula izimpawu, ukusebenzisa ukuzinakekela nokuqhubeka nezingxoxo mayelana nenkinga kungasiza ukubuyisa ithemba nokulinganisela empilweni.