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Umlingani wakho uthi kuwe, “Uma ungakwazi ukuza nezizathu ezi-3 zokuthi kungani ungithanda, awungithandi. Uthanda wonke umqondo wami. Noma uthanda indlela engikwenza uzizwe ngayo noma ngibukeka kanjani; uyakuthanda ukunakwa engikunikeza kona, kodwa awungithandi. ”
Wenzani?
Ungahlala uzungeze ucabange ngokwenzekayo, kungani oshade naye ekubuza yonke le mibuzo. Kepha iqiniso abantu namuhla banephutha kakhulu kulokho okuyikho ngempela uthando. Bavame ukucabanga ukuthi uthando luzwa noma ngabe alunjalo. Bakholelwa ukuthi ukuba sothandweni kusho izimvemvane nothingo; ucabanga ngalowo muntu oyedwa njalo kulo lonke usuku lwakho.
Yilapho abahamba khona kabi! Lezi zimvemvane nemicabango ehlala umlingani wakho akulona uthando. Kuwukuthatheka. Kuyajabulisa, kepha akuchazi uthando.
Luyini-ke uthando?
Luyini uthando?
Uthando lubuhlungu nokuzidela. Uthando luhlehla futhi luyahlonipha. Uthando luyinto enhle kunazo zonke futhi yangempela kulo mhlaba futhi lapho ukuphindiselwa kungenza uzizwe izinto owawungazi ukuthi zikhona.
Cabanga ngomuntu owazi konke ngawe njengangemuva kwesandla sakho. Ngisho nezinto ezingabalulekile ongafuni ukuthi umuntu azi ngazo; njengezinto ezikwenza ube namahloni.
Ake uzicabange udidekile futhi wehlisa lo muntu, bese bekuxolela.
Bahlakaniphe ngokwanele ukuthi bangafunda phakathi kwemigqa, baqonde isimo futhi bangakwahluleli. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bayakuthanda.
Babona izinto ezincane kunazo zonke njengesibazi emathangeni akho noma imvukuzane entanyeni yakho, ungazonda, kepha bacabanga ukuthi kuyakuchaza.
Bayabona ukuthi udidizela kanjani uma usegumbini eligcwele abantu noma ukuthi udabula kanjani lapho uzwa izifungo zomunye umuntu zomshado. Bazithola zizinhle lezi zinto noma ngabe uzithola zingavuthiwe.
Bayayithanda inhliziyo yakho nobubele obuphetheyo, bayazi ukuthi uthanda umhlane wesandla sakho. Yilokhu uthando oluyikho. Kuyaziwa ngokuphelele futhi ngokuphelele kepha kuyamukelwa.
Lapho othile enithanda, banithanda nonke hhayi nje izingxenye enibukeka nihle kuzo.
Uthando lungaba kanjani ukukhetha?
Umsebenzisi we-Tumblr oneminyaka engu-25, u-Taylor Myers ohamba ngegama lomsebenzisi lesbian cute wanquma ukwabelana ngemicabango yakhe ngothando nobudlelwano. Uthe wayehambele ubudlelwano besigaba sempilo futhi wathi ukwesaba kwakhe okukhulu akusekho ukwesaba ukuphakama noma izindawo ezivaliwe. Esikhundleni salokho, wesaba iqiniso lokuthi umuntu owake wabona zonke izinkanyezi emehlweni akho angawa othandweni ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile.
Uthe lowo muntu owake wathola inkani yakho inhle futhi izinyawo zakho zisezingeni eliphakeme kakhulu kungenzeka kamuva athole inkani yakho njengokwenqaba ukuyekethisa futhi izinyawo zakho zingavuthiwe.
Lokhu okuthunyelwe kwafinyelela kubantu abaningi, futhi bavumelana nalesi sisho sokuthi lapho amandla okushisa nokukhuleka kobuhlobo bakho sekuphelile, konke osenakho ngumlotha wokubhekana nawo. Kamuva kokunye okuthunyelwe, lapho wayenesimo esingesihle kakhulu ngokomzwelo, wengeza kokuthunyelwe kwakhe.
Uthe ingxenye enhle kakhulu yekilasi lapho uthisha wakhe ebuza abafundi bakhe ukuthi uthando luyazikhethela yini noma umuzwa. Noma iningi lezingane lathi kwakuwumuzwa, uthisha wacabanga ngenye indlela.
Uthi uthando ukuzibophezela okwenzayo ukuze uhlale uthembekile kumuntu oyedwa.
Ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa beshadile, umuzwa we-lovey-dovey uyanyamalala futhi konke osele nakho ukuzibophezela owake wakwenza.
Awungeke wakha ubudlelwano esisekelweni esingantengantengi njengemizwa. Lapho othile ekuthanda, nabo bonke bayakuthanda. Bayabona amaphuzu akho abuthakathaka futhi basakuthanda.
Abakwahluleli; bayakubekezelela, bayakuthemba futhi bagxile ohlangothini lwakho olungcono. Bayakholelwa kuwe, futhi uma bekucasula, bakhuluma nawe ngakho ngomoya ophansi. Bagxila ebudlelwaneni kakhulu kunokugxila ekulungeni. Uma uthanda othile, ukwamukela amaphutha akhe kuza ngokwemvelo.
Lapho imizwa iphela, nenjabulo yokubheka phambili ekubeni khona kwabo iyaphela, uhlala ekhaya ulinde owakwakho ukuthi eze ekhaya ngoba uyabathanda. Ngoba ukhetha ukuzibophezela kubo. Ngoba wenza ukukhetha futhi uhlose ukukuhlonipha.
Wenze ukukhetha. Akudingeki ukuthi uhlale uzizwa othandweni.
Ngezinye izinsuku uvuka nalo muntu owake wakudumaza, bese usadla isidlo sasekuseni naye bese ukhetha ukuba nomusa kubo. Yilokhu uthando oluyikho.