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Izikhathi zokuqala zokuthandana nothile, ngasikhathi sinye, ziphakeme kakhulu futhi zikhohlisa ngokuphelele. Uyawazi impela lowo muzwa lapho uqiniseka ukuthi umhlaba wakho ekugcineni uthole incazelo yokugcina, futhi ufuna kuphela ukuthi lo muzwa uhlale kuze kube phakade (yize ngemuva kokuhlangenwe nakho okumbalwa okunjalo, ungalizwa lelo zwi elincane likutshela ukuthi liyedlula ). Yile njabulo ekuholela esifisweni sokwenza lo muntu abe eceleni kwakho kuze kube usuku lokufa kwakho. Futhi manje uhlangothi olukhohlisayo kukho konke - yize ukusanda kusothandweni kuphakathi kwemizwa ejulile umuntu angaba nayo, ngeke nje ihlale unomphela - imvamisa kungabi ngaphezu kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, njengoba izifundo zibonisa.
Ukuthatheka kuqhathaniswa nothando emshadweni
Ukujaha okutholayo lapho uthandana nothile kuvusa zonke izinzwa zakho, futhi kubangele ukuqhuma kwemizwelo, imicabango, futhi, ungakhohlwa, ukuthinteka kwamakhemikhali - konke lokhu okungenze ukuthi nakanjani kukwenza ulangazelele ngokwengeziwe. Abaningi banquma ngaleso sikhathi futhi ukuzama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lokhu ngeke kuphele, futhi bavame ukwenza kanjalo ngokwenza izibopho zabo zisemthethweni ebusweni bomthetho nakuNkulunkulu, uma bengabantu bokholo. Kodwa-ke, ngeshwa, yize kungezothando, leso sinyathelo sivame ukukhombisa ukuthi siyindlela eya enkingeni. Uthando emshadweni lwehlukile kunalokho okwenze washada kwasekuqaleni, ikakhulukazi uma usushayeke ngokushesha. Ungawutholi umqondo ongafanele, uthando nomshado zikhona ndawonye, kepha akusilo uhlobo lokuthatheka ngokocansi nangothando oqale ukuluzwa ngenkathi uqala ukubheka manje umyeni noma unkosikazi wakho ngendlela ethile.
Ngaphandle kwamakhemikhali agugile (kanye nososayensi bezengqondo abaziphendukela ezingeni elithile bathi inhloso yalomlingo onothando ukuqinisekisa ukuzala, ngakho-ke akudingeki ukuthi kuhlale isikhathi eside kunezinyanga ezimbalwa), uma isikhathi sokusondelana sisanda kuphela, ulindele isimanga. Bathi uthando aluboni, futhi lokhu kungaba yiqiniso ezinyangeni zalo zokuqala. Kepha ngemuva kokuqala kobudlelwano bakho lapho nazana khona futhi nizwe injabulo njalo yokuthola othandekayo, iqiniso liyangena. Futhi lokhu akuyona into embi ngempela. Umhlaba ugcwele imibhangqwana ehlala emshadweni onothando. Ukuthi nje imvelo yemizwa yakho nobudlelwano bakho bebonke buyashintsha.
Lapho ushada, maduzane i-honeymoon isiphelile futhi awudingi ukuqala ukucabanga ngekusasa lakho, kodwa futhi usondele kulo ngendlela eyimpumelelo. Izibopho, umsebenzi, amacebo, ezezimali, izibopho, izinhloso, nokukhumbula ukuthi wawukade unjani, konke lokho kuxubana nempilo yakho yomshado manje. Futhi, ngaleso sikhathi, ukuthi uzoqhubeka yini nokuthanda umlingani wakho (nokuthi kungakanani) noma uzozithola nisemshadweni onobungane (noma cha) kuzoxhomeka ekutheni ufaneleke kangakanani. Lokhu kusebenza hhayi kuphela kulabo ababophe ifindo phakathi kwalolu suku lokuthandana okuthandekayo kepha nakulabo ababenobudlelwano obubucayi futhi abazibophezele ngaphambi kokuzwa izinsimbi zomshado. Umshado namanje, ngisho nakulezi zikhathi zanamuhla, wenza umehluko endleleni abantu ababukana ngayo kanye nezimpilo zabo. Imibhangqwana eminingi eyayithandane iminyaka futhi yayihlala ndawonye ngaphambi kokushada isabika ukuthi ukuba nguMnu noNkk kwaletha ushintsho ekuzicabangeni kwabo futhi, okubalulekile, ebudlelwaneni babo.
Okusilindele emgwaqeni ongaphambili
Izigaba zokuqala zothando zihlala, ngokusho kochwepheshe, kuze kufike eminyakeni emithathu. Ukuthatheka akunakuhlala isikhathi eside ukwedlula lokho ngaphandle kokuthi kugcinwa ngobuhlobo bobudlelwano bebanga elide noma, okulimaza kakhulu, ukungaqiniseki nokungavikeleki koyedwa noma bobabili abalingani. Noma kunjalo, kwesinye isikhathi, le mizwa idinga ukuzivumelanisa nokujula kakhulu, yize kungenzeka kungathandeki kangako emshadweni. Lolu thando lususelwa kuzindinganiso ezabiwe, ezinhlelweni zokubambisana nasekuzimiseleni ukuzibophezela ekusaseni ndawonye, ukwethembana nokusondelana kwangempela, lapho sibonakala siyikho ngempela, kunokudlala imidlalo yokuyenga nokuziphakamisa, njengoba thina okuvame ukwenziwa ngesikhathi sokuqomisana. Emshadweni, uthando luvame ukuzidela, futhi luvame ukuvimba ubuthakathaka bomlingani wethu wempilo, sibuqonde noma ngabe kungasilimaza abakwenzayo. Emshadweni, uthando luwumuzwa ophelele futhi ophelele osebenza njengesisekelo sakho nezimpilo zezizukulwane ezizayo. Ngakho-ke, ayijabulisi kangako kunokuthatheka, kepha lokho kubaluleke kakhulu.