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- Izizathu zokulwa nobudlelwano bebanga elide
- Izeluleko eziyi-15 zokuphatha izimpi zobudlelwano bebanga elide
- 1. Yazi okufanele nixoxe ngakho
- 2. Bambana ngezandla
- 3. Thola isisombululo
- 4. Lalela
- 5. Indlela Yokungavumelani
- 6. Bhala imibhalo yothando
- 7. Qhubeka nokusebenza
- 8. Khetha isikhathi esifanele sokuxoxa ngezinkinga
- 9. Gcina incwadi ozibhale phansi
- 10. Thumela inkinga nesixazululo seshadi
- 11. Thuthukisa uzwela
- 12. Gcina imininingwane ebalulekile usizakala
- 13. Gwema ukungezwani
- 14. Chithani isikhathi ndawonye
- 15. Gubha imicimbi ebalulekile
- Ukudla okudlela endlini
Iningi lethu alikwazi ukukhetha ukuthi sithandana nobani, kuphi, kanjani futhi nobani. Futhi sivame ukuzimangaza!
Isibonelo, ungazithola usuthandana nomuntu omdala noma omncane kunalokho obukulindele. Noma, umangele ukuthi empeleni wahlangana nomuntu owayehlala eduze kwakho endizeni — futhi owaba ngumeshi ohlakaniphile kuwe!
Bonke ubudlelwano bunezinselelo ezihlukile, futhi esinye sezimo zobudlelwano esinzima kakhulu yibanga elide. Kodwa-ke, kweminye imibhangqwana, amabanga amade afanelana nezidingo zawo ezingokomzwelo nezomsebenzi.
Isibonelo, emibhangqwaneni lapho umuntu ngamunye kufanele ahambe kaningi emsebenzini futhi lapho ukuhlala ndawonye kungenzeki ngokwendawo, ubudlelwano bebanga elide ukuphela kwendlela yabo yokuba izithandani.
Izizathu zokulwa nobudlelwano bebanga elide
Enye yezinkinga ezinqala kakhulu zobudlelwano bamabanga amade ukubhekana nokulwa nokuphikisana. Yonke imibhangqwana inokungezwani, kepha imibhangqwana ye-LDR ivame ukuba nezinkinga zobudlelwano obude kakhulu.
Kungani kunjalo? Kufanele babhekane nalezi zinkinga ezibalulekile:
- Ukungakwazi ukubamba izandla ngenkathi kuxoxwa ngezihloko ezinzima
- Ukungakwazi uku "Kiss and Make Up" ngesikhathi esifanele
- Ukungakwazi ukufunda izilimi zomzimba zomunye nomunye ngokugcwele nangokuqondile
- Ukungabi nesikhathi esanele noma esifanele okwamanje sokukhuluma ngezinto.
Ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu, ezinye izihloko kunzima ukuzisingatha ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide ngoba unamahora okusebenza ahlukile, uhlala ezindaweni ezihlukene zesikhathi, awukwazi ukuphatha izingqinamba ezizwela isikhathi ezisebenzelana nobabili, futhi azenzi ube nayo yonke imibhalo, iposi, namanye amaphepha owadingayo.
Lezi zihloko ezishisayo zifaka:
- Ukuphikisa izikweletu zezindleko ezingalungile kumakhadi akho esikweletu
- Abafuni noma abakwazi ukubhuka indiza elandelayo noma umzila wesitimela ukuze babonane
- Ukungakwazi ukuhlela noma ukuhambela imicimbi ebalulekile yomndeni nabangane ndawonye
- Ukungavumelani ngokuthi nifuna ukusisebenzisa kanjani isikhathi senu esiyigugu ndawonye
- Ukungabi nesikhathi esanele noma esihle sokubhekana nomunye wenu ogulayo noma odinga izeluleko.
Izeluleko eziyi-15 zokuphatha izimpi zobudlelwano bebanga elide
Ngakho-ke, yini eningayenza ukuze nijabule ndawonye? Ungaziphatha kanjani izimpi zobudlelwano bebanga elide?
Nawa amanye amathiphu ahloliwe okudlula ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide.
Ungahle ungadingi yonke le mibono, futhi kuzodingeka futhi ukuthi uyivumelanise nesimo sakho esihlukile. Ngalezi zeluleko zokulwa nobudlelwano bebanga elide, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzoba yizixazululi zezinkinga ezinhle nabalingani!
1. Yazi okufanele nixoxe ngakho
Ungazisingatha kanjani izimpikiswano ebudlelwaneni?
Okokuqala, yenza uhlu ngokulandelana kokubaluleka kwezinto odinga ukuxoxa ngazo mathupha.
Kunezinto eziningi kakhulu ezingase zingangeni engqondweni uma nihlangana mathupha. Kungcono ukugcina uhlu lusebenza hleze ukhohlwe izinto ezibalulekile enjabulweni yokuhlangana ngemuva kwesikhathi eside.
2. Bambana ngezandla
Ikakhulukazi uma nindawonye futhi ninokungaboni ngaso linye, ngaso sonke isikhathi bambanani izandla noma nigona. Nobabili ngabe nihlangana ngemuva kwesikhathi eside. Akufanele kube khona indawo yezimpikiswano.
3. Thola isisombululo
AKUKHO ukukhononda ngaphandle kokunikeza isixazululo kuqala!
Izimpikiswano azipheli. Futhi ukulwa ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide kungathola inkinga enkulu ngoba nobabili anisondelene.
Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokugxila enkingeni nokudlala umdlalo wokusola, phatha izimpi zobudlelwano bebanga elide ngokufuna isixazululo.
4. Lalela
Enye yezeluleko zokuphikisana ngobuhlobo ukulalela umlingani wakho ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Ukuxhumana akusho kuphela ukukhuluma nokuveza uhlangothi lwakho endabeni. Kusho nokuzijwayeza ubuciko bokulalela.
Ngakho-ke, lalela, uqonde futhi uzwele.
5. Indlela Yokungavumelani
Esikhundleni sokumangalela noma ukusola umlingani wakho lapho uzama ukuxazulula inkinga, zijwayeze le Nqubo Yokungavumelani ukuxazulula izimpi zobudlelwano bebanga elide esikhundleni sokuchaza noma ukuphikisa amaphuzu akho ngokungavumelani.
Khuluma ngemizwa yakho nangezinkinga ngokungathi ubungumlingani wakho. Khuluma uqobo usebenzisa igama elithi "I." Le Mbono izozizwa ingakhululekile ekuqaleni, kepha uzothola ukuqonda okungcono ngophathina wakho-nesixazululo esingcono.
6. Bhala imibhalo yothando
Ungavumeli usuku ludlule ungathumelanga imibhalo yothando noma esinye salezi zithombe ezikhethekile kumlingani wakho. Inothi lakho lingaba lifushane.
Isibonelo, ungabhala izinto ezinjengalezi:
- Ngiyazi ukuthi uzokwenza kahle kwisethulo sakho!
- Ngiyakukhumbula futhi ngicabanga ngawe okokuqala ekuseni nokugcina ebusuku.
- Ngiyakuthanda ukuba nawe. Futhi lapho ucindezelwa, cabanga nje ngaleso sikhathi esikhethekile ebesisanda kuba naso ndawonye!
- Nasi isithombe sami ngigqoke ingubo yami entsha (noma leyo ongithengele yona.)
- Nazi ezinye zezinto ezikhethekile engizithandayo ngawe!
Lokhu kungasiza futhi ekukhumbuzeni ukuthi unenhlanhla kangakanani yokuba ndawonye.
7. Qhubeka nokusebenza
Ungavumeli izinto zikhule. Yenza ukusesha komphefumulo ukuthi kungani wena nomlingani wakho nenze ngaleyo ndlela.
Vumelanani ukuthi uma nindawonye, nizoxoxa ngezinto ezibalulekile.
Uma kungenzeka, xoxa ngazo lapho usendaweni yokudlela oyithandayo noma epaki noma kunoma yiziphi ezinye izindawo ezibalulekile kuwe. Ukukhuluma kwenye yezindawo ohlala kuzo kungahle kunganikezi isivikelo sokuba seqophelweni eliphezulu.
8. Khetha isikhathi esifanele sokuxoxa ngezinkinga
Kuzo zonke izimpi zobudlelwano bamabanga amade, ungazami ukulungisa izihloko ezishisayo lapho omunye wenu ekhathele, enosuku olunzima, noma esenomsebenzi okufanele awenze.
Uma nilwa kakhulu ebudlelwaneni, yiba nokuqonda okwanele ukufonela noma ubhalele umlingani wakho nixoxe ngenkinga lapho nobabili nizizwa nizolile futhi ninokuthula.
9. Gcina incwadi ozibhale phansi
Ukubhala kuyindlela enhle yokukusiza ukuthi uzicabange wena nobuhlobo bakho.
Faka noma yikuphi noma konke okulandelayo:
Kungani ngenze ngendlela engaphumeleli noma enomoya ophakeme kakhulu engiyenzile?
Ngicabanga ukuthi kungani umlingani wami ephethe lesi simo ngendlela abenze ngayo?
Yini engiyiphakamisayo njengendlela engcono?
10. Thumela inkinga nesixazululo seshadi
Yakha isixazululo ndawonye ngokushesha — esikhundleni sokuba nokungaboni ngaso linye kwebanga elide.
Yenza ishadi lezinkinga ezicindezela kakhulu okudingeka uxoxe ngazo. Bhala imibono yakho, izizathu, nezisombululo. Bachaze ngaphandle kokuthukuthela noma ukusola umlingani wakho.
Esikhundleni sokulwa nombhalo, ungakhetha ukuxoxa noma uthumele umlingani wakho umbono wakho.
11. Thuthukisa uzwela
Zixolele wena nomlingani wakho ngezinyathelo ezingezona.
Uma unenkinga enizoxoxa ngayo, cabanga ngokuthi uzophendula kanjani umlingani wakho. Yiziphi "izinkinobho" ezingahle zicindezelwe kumlingani wakho?.
Bamba izimpi zobudlelwano bebanga elide ngokwakha uhlelo lokuthi uzozisingatha kanjani lezi "zinkinobho" ngomusa nangokuqonda.
Bheka le vidiyo kaMary Jo Rapini ukuthi ungamnika kanjani amandla umlingani wakho ngokubonisa uzwela:
12. Gcina imininingwane ebalulekile usizakala
Qiniseka ukuthi unemininingwane ebalulekile yomunye nomunye, efana nezinombolo zokuphepha komphakathi, ama-akhawunti asebhange okwabelwana ngawo, nezinombolo zocingo zabangane abakhulu, izingane, umndeni, abaphathi kanye nalabo osebenza nabo, abameli, odokotela, kanye nabanye oxhumana nabo.
Into yokugcina ofuna ukuyenza ukubhekana nesimo lapho ungazi ukuthi wenzeni.
13. Gwema ukungezwani
Ukuba nokungaboni ngaso linye kunempilo, kepha okuningi kakhulu kusho ukuthi ubuhlobo bungaphenduka ubuthi. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kungalawulwa ngokuxoxa ngezinkinga ngomoya ophansi.
Icebo elibalulekile: Ungaqali isikhathi sakho kanye nokungavumelani, futhi ungaqedi ingxoxo ngokungavumelani.
14. Chithani isikhathi ndawonye
Kunezinhlelo zokusebenza eziningi namawebhusayithi angakunika umuzwa wokudlala ama-movie wesikhathi sangempela noma izingoma ndawonye, njengoba ubuyoba nakho uma nobabili benindawonye.
Lapho nje nichitha isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye, ningasusa izimpi eziningi zobudlelwano bebanga elide. Ngakho-ke, bukela ukukhishwa kwakamuva noma izingoma zakudala "ndawonye" uma nihlukene kalula.
15. Gubha imicimbi ebalulekile
Dala “isikhathi somndeni” ndawonye uma nindawonye futhi nihlukene. Isibonelo, ungenza ucingo lokusondeza ukubungaza okuthile nemindeni yomunye nomunye. Iqiniso lokuthi nobabili nihlukene akumele libe yisizathu sokugubha idrabi.
Lokhu kuzonqwabelana kuphela futhi kuqhubeke nokulwa.
Ukudla okudlela endlini
Kujwayelekile yini ukulwa ibanga elide nsuku zonke ebudlelwaneni? Kungaba nezinsuku lapho izimpi zakho zobudlelwano bamabanga amade zizoba nzima kakhulu kunezinye izinsuku. Kodwa-ke, uma bekulokhu kwenzeka kulo lonke ubudlelwano bakho, lokhu kudinga ukulungiswa.
Khumbula ukuthi ukungezwani, ukungaboni ngaso linye, namaphutha kuyenzeka kuyo yonke imibhangqwana. Ngakho-ke, khumbula ukulandela amathiphu ashiwo ngenhla ngezimpi zobudlelwano bamabanga amade.