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- Okomuntu omdala onobudlelwano buka-Asperger banikela ngezibopho zabo ezingokomzwelo
- Abesilisa bavame ukutholakala ngaphezu kwabesifazane abane-Asperger's
- Ukuhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers kudinga ukwamukelwa
- Bonke ubuhlobo buhlukile
- Iseluleko sobudlelwano be-Aspergers
Sifuna uthando lwezithandani kakhulu emasikweni ethu kungakhathalekile ukuthi sihlukene ngani. Ebudlelwaneni, sivame ukubheka impendulo evumelanisiwe evela kozakwethu ukuze sizizwe sisebenza, sinamathele futhi sigcinwe ebudlelwaneni. UJohn Bowlby waqamba ibinzana elithi "okunamathiselwe". Abantu abadala banezidingo ezihlukile zokunamathiselwe ezinikezwe kusuka ekuzivumelaniseni kwabo kusukela ebuntwaneni. Sinentambo yokuxhuma kusukela ekuzalweni futhi sifune lolo xhumano ezimpilweni zethu zonke. Lezi zinguquko ezidingekayo njengoba ingane isalokhu inethonya elinamandla ebudaleni. Ngokuhambisana nalezi zinto ezishintshashintshayo, imvamisa sifuna ozakwethu abasincomayo, futhi esilingisa nabo futhi amaphethini ajwayelekile okuba semhlabeni ekuphomeni kwethu, ebudlelwaneni nasemshadweni wethu.
I-Asperger yisifo se-neurodevelopmental disorder. Abashade nabakwa-Asperger bangaqala bahlangabezane nesidingo ebudlelwaneni futhi lezi zimfanelo zivame ukubonakala zikhanga. Kepha kunezinselelo ezithile okufanele wazi ngazo uma ucabanga ukuhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers.
Nakhu okudingeka ukwazi lapho uhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers-
Okomuntu omdala onobudlelwano buka-Asperger banikela ngezibopho zabo ezingokomzwelo
Ingxenye yokuhlukaniswa ebhekene nobunzima bokusebenzisana kusho ukungabi wedwa. Yize izindlela zabo zokuziphatha zingase zilulaze ubumbano lobambiswano lwabo. Abantu abane-Asperger basafuna ukuxhumana ezimpilweni zabo nasemshadweni wabo we-Aspergers. Ukukhanga kobambiswano kuqala kunikeza ukuphepha, ukuzinza, nokuxhumeka; izinto ezithenjiswe emshadweni ezivikela umuzwa wokuthi ungubani. Abanye abantu abaphila nabakwa-Asperger, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bangafuna impilo lapho bangashiywa khona ezindaweni zabo zokulandela izinto.
Ukuhlala nabakwa-Asperger oshade naye kungaba yinselele kakhulu kozakwethu.
Abesilisa bavame ukutholakala ngaphezu kwabesifazane abane-Asperger's
Abesilisa be-Asperger nobunzima ebudlelwaneni - Emphakathini ophethe okulindelwe okwehlukile kwezenhlalo kwabesilisa nabesifazane emshadweni, amandla okusebenzisana angaba nezethulo zawo. Ngokwengeziwe, ngezinye izingqimba zezinyunyana ezibandakanya, ubuzwe, ubulili obufanayo, amakhono omzimba noma engqondo azoletha izingqimba zazo zezinselelo namandla.Okunye ukungezwani emshadweni njengezezimali kanye nezingane kungangeza ezinye izingqimba zengcindezi ngaphezulu kokuhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers.
Ukuhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers kudinga ukwamukelwa
Sonke silindele okulindelekile kumagugu ethu njengabantu ngabanye kanye nengxenye yobunye bomshado. Lapho umlingani eno-Asperger owaziwa nangokuthi yi-High Functioning Autism lokhu kungaveza ngamandla angabonakali ebudlelwaneni acindezele ngaphandle nangaphandle noma aphikisane nabalingani ngabanye abembethe ifu lamahloni nokufihla. Ukusebenzisana phakathi kwe-Aspergers oshade naye nomunye umlingani kungaba nomthelela wesikhathi eside okuholela kumijikelezo yengcindezi eqhubekayo, udlame lwasekhaya, izindaba, ukugula ngengqondo, impilo ebuthaka emzimbeni, imizwa yokucwaswa, amahloni, usizi nokulahlekelwa. Lapho uhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers, ukwenza indawo yokukhuluma ngezingqinamba: ukuthola ukuxilongwa, ukuqonda nokwamukela ukuxilongwa, ukudala izikhala eziphephile zokwamukela izimo zenhlalo kanye nomthelela womuntu ngaphakathi kwalobu budlelwane kuvame ukungabikho ezindaweni ezinqamulelayo zempilo yangasese neyomphakathi lobudlelwano.
Bonke ubuhlobo buhlukile
Kungabuye kube nobubanzi bezinga lokuqina kwezimpawu. Wonke umuntu oshade naye nomshado bazohluka. Kepha izindawo ezijwayelekile zemicabango, imizwa, kanye nokuziphatha okuthinta umndeni, umsebenzi kanye nomphakathi yilezi: izimo ezi-hyperarousal ezingokomzwelo, ubunzima phakathi kwabantu, ukungakhululeki kwezenhlalo, uzwela, ukusondelana ngokomzimba, inhlanzeko, ukuzilungisa, izingozi eziphakeme ze-OCD, ADHD nokukhathazeka.
Izindawo ezibheke phambili ekugxilwe kuzo zisendaweni yezintshisekelo ezikhethekile. Bangakwazi ukugxila amahora amaningi bezama ukuqonda amakhono abo. Lesi sipho singaholela ekubeni babe ngongoti emkhakheni wabo wokufunda. Kepha kungaholela ekubeni abashadile bazizwe benesizungu futhi bengaphephile emshadweni. Ukuhlala ne-Aspergers oshade naye kuthatha ukuyekethisa okuningi kozakwabo.
Bangakuthokozela ukukhuluma ngezintshisakalo zabo ngaphandle kokubheka ama-nuances wokuxhumana okuguqukayo; izinkomba zomphakathi, izinkomba zobuso, ulimi lomzimba. Ukuqonda amakhono wengqondo aphathekayo kukhethwa kunokuqondwa okungacacile kwemizwelo: ulimi lokuxhumana. Izidingo nokusondelana kuka-Asperger nakho kuyinkinga komunye umlingani. Phakathi kwazo zonke izinkinga zomshado ka-Asperger, lena iyinselele enkulu kunazo zonke.
Ukuntuleka kokusondelana nezimpendulo ezingavumelekile emshadweni kungazizwa njengokunqanyulwa kwezikhala ezidinga ukugcwaliswa. Ukukhungatheka lapho oshade naye engakwazi ukuthola izidingo zabo ezingokomzwelo, mhlawumbe ukukhungatheka kokuthola indima yokunakekela, kungaholela ekwesabeni okukhulu futhi kubangele izingxabano nokukhungatheka kwabo bobabili ababaphuca injabulo yabo. Ukuhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers ngaphandle kwesikhala sokudalula amandla aphilayo futhi uxhumane nabanye abashadayo abanokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo, kungazizwa njengolwazi lothando oluphazamisekile.
Ukuzimisela ukwabelana ngomlando wakho ongokomzwelo nowakho weqiniso lokuthi ushade nomuntu one-Asperger kubaluleke kakhulu ekwehliseni imbandezelo yokwehlukaniswa. Uma ukuvezwa kwemizwa yakho kungabelwanga ngakho kuwukuhlakanipha ukwenza njalo endaweni enokwesekwa lapho ungathola khona ukuphindana nokuxhumeka kwemizwelo yakho.
Awuwedwa futhi amandla okuphila nabalingani be-Aspergers angokoqobo. Izinhlobo zokwesekwa zingaba yiqembu labanye abashadile, ukwelulekwa ngawodwana noma ukululekwa kwezithandani. Ukuphepha kumele njalo kube yindawo yokuqala yokuhlola ekwelashweni. Uma izinto zikhuphuke zaze zafika ezingeni lokuthi kufunwa usizo lochwepheshe, ukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikole ukuthola umelaphi ofanele kubalulekile. Angikwazi ukusho okwanele ngaleli phuzu. Ukuba nomeluleki ogxile ekunikezeni ukuxhasa imibhangqwana lapho oshade naye ehlonza ukuxilongwa ngu-Asperger, naye obekelwe phansi wenza umehluko wokuthi amandla asevele akhona akhiwe kanjani phezu kwawo nezinselelo ezisebenze ngendlela ehlelekile nebambekayo. Ukuhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers kunzima futhi usizo oluncane oluvela kuchwepheshe kungaletha ushintsho oluphawulekayo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Iseluleko sobudlelwano be-Aspergers
Uma ubudlelwano bungakafiki ezingeni lokuthi ube nomuzwa wokuthi ukuhlala nomlingani we-Aspergers akunakwenzeka lapho kukhona usizo olukhona. Ukwenza isikhala sokuzwa ukuthi ungaphinde utholane kanjani futhi niqonde umhlaba wangaphakathi womlingani ngamunye futhi kusho ukubeka okulindelwe okukhonondekayo, ukuthola izindlela zokwenza izinqubo, imithwalo yemfanelo yomuntu ngamunye yokuphila kwansuku zonke, imisebenzi yokugcina ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo, ukuzikhethela, ukulawula izingxabano , ukuqonda izithiyo ekuxhumaneni no-Asperger, zenzele ukuzithokozisa nokuzinakekela kwakho, thola izindlela zokubhekelana futhi wenze izindlela zokudala. Ukuxhumana okuqinisekisa umuzwa ophilayo kusho ukuthi zombili izinhlangothi kufanele zizimisele ukuthola izindlela zokuxhasana.