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- Kungani ukulingisa kunempilo ebudlelwaneni
- Kungani sikwenza?
- Wazi kanjani ukuthi indima yobudlelwano ikukhawulela
- Ingozi yokunciphisa izindima
- Ukugqashula ezindimeni zobudlelwano
Akukho okungavamile ngokulingisa indima ebudlelwaneni. Eqinisweni, kujwayelekile - iningi lethu liyashintshana ngokudlala izindima ezahlukahlukene eziguqukayo. Isibonelo, ungathola ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi nguwe okhulisayo futhi osekelayo, kanti kwezinye izikhathi nguwe odinga ukwesekwa. Kwesinye isikhathi uzojabula futhi ufane nengane, kwesinye isikhathi ube ngumuntu omdala othembekile.
Kungani ukulingisa kunempilo ebudlelwaneni
Ubuhle balolu hlobo lokulingisa ukuthi luvela endaweni eqondayo. Kukhona ukugeleza okungokwemvelo njengoba izithandani zihlangana ndawonye ngokukhetha ukuba yinoma yini edingekayo kubo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi esithile. Lapho isebenza, iyavumelana futhi ayisebenzi.
Kepha akuhlali kuqondile njalo, noma kuketshezi. Izinkinga zivela lapho oyedwa noma bobabili ababambekile ezindimeni ezithile zobudlelwano, noma lapho indima yamukelwa ngomqondo wesibopho noma isibopho. Engavunyelwe, umuntu angenza indima yobudlelwano iminyaka enganakile noma abuze ukuthi kungani.
Bangaba umnakekeli omkhulu, owondlayo, noma owenza izinqumo ebudlelwaneni babo ngoba becabanga ukuthi kufanele kube njalo.
Kungani sikwenza?
Ngamafuphi, siba nepulani yokwenza ubudlelwano busebenze kusuka emithonjeni ehlukahlukene: abazali bethu, abangane bethu, amafilimu nezinganekwane esizazi kahle, nomphakathi namasiko wonkana.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi lethu futhi ngokwemvelo linentshisekelo kulokho umlingani wethu akudingayo futhi lowo mqondo wokukhathalela ungaholela ekutheni sithathe izindima zobudlelwano nokuziphatha kube ngumuntu esicabanga ukuthi bayamfuna.
Sicela wazi ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile ekukhetheni ukuba ube umnakekeli, owondlayo, onomthwalo wemfanelo, noma ohlekisayo / oshisekayo / okhohlisayo. Igama eliyisihluthulelo lapha ukukhetha: indima inenkinga kuphela uma uyidlala ngoba ucabanga ukuthi yilokho okulindeleke kuwe.
Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungabuthuthukisa kanjani ubudlelwano bakho usebenzisa ukulingisa, khumbula ukuthi akumele uzilinganisele endimeni eyodwa, indima elindeleke kuwe.
Wazi kanjani ukuthi indima yobudlelwano ikukhawulela
Inkomba enkulu kunazo zonke ukuthi igama kufanele livele ekucabangeni kwakho - okuningi. Uma ukholwa ukuthi kufanele ube uhlobo oluthile lomuntu noma uziphathe ngendlela ethile, lokhu kuyindlela enkulu yokuthi wenza ngenxa yesibopho. Asikho isikhala sokuzikhethela - futhi asikho isikhala sakho - lapho usebenza kusuka 'kufanele'.
Omunye umkhondo ukuthi uma ucabanga ngezindima zobudlelwano osuzithathile ebudlelwaneni bakho, uzizwa uvalelekile. Ungase futhi ube nomuzwa wokusinda noma ukuncipha, futhi kungenzeka ukhathele ngendlela emangalisayo: ukuba umuntu ongeyena kuyakhathaza.
Ingozi yokunciphisa izindima
Ngokuthenga emcabangweni wokuthi kufanele sibe yindlela ethile yokwamukelwa, ukwaziswa, noma ukuthandwa, sizihlukanisa ngokweqiniso nobuntu nobukhulu bethu. Siyaziphoqa ukungena ebhokisini elincane kakhulu kithi, sizisika izingxenye zethu ngenkathi senza lokho.
Umphumela uba ukuthi siphila impilo engamahhafu kunokuphila okugcwele ebesingakwazi ukukufinyelela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, asinikezi abantu esibathandayo ithuba lokusazi, basazise futhi basijabulele.
Njengoba kulula njengokuphinda izindlela zokuziphatha ezinomkhawulo, futhi ngokuphepha njengeqhaza elingasenza sizizwe, impilo ilula ngokuphindwe kayinkulungwane futhi iyajabulisa kakhulu lapho nje siqala ngokuzimisela ukukhetha ukuthi siveza kanjani emhlabeni naku ubudlelwano bethu.
Ukugqashula ezindimeni zobudlelwano
Uma lokhu kuzwelana nawe, ungaqala ukuyeka ukukhawulela izindima zobudlelwano ngokuqala uthembe ukuthi unolwazi olujulile ngalokho okulungele wena kanye nawe. Impela, kuyesabisa ukuphuma ngemuva kwemaski - futhi kuyesabeka uma ungangithembi. Okubaluleke kakhulu, zithembe.
Thola ukuqonda kokuthi kungani kungenzeka ukuthi uthathe indima yobudlelwano kwasekuqaleni ngokunaka izifanekiso onikezwe zona mayelana nokuthi ubudlelwano kufanele bube kanjani. Futhi, phawula noma yiziphi izinkolelo onazo mayelana nezindima zobulili. Lezi zinkolelo ngezikabani?
Ngincoma ukuthi ubuze, lokhu kungokabani? kuwo wonke umqondo wesibopho noma 'kufanele' uqaphele ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezizayo. Lo mbuzo olula ungaqala ushintsho olukhulu njengoba uqala ukukhomba ukuthi izindima ezikhawulelayo obukade uzidlala akuzona ezakho. Ukusuka lapho, ungakhetha enye into - into ekufanele.
Cabanga ukuthi ungathanda ukuba kanjani ebudlelwaneni bakho - bese wabelana ngalokhu nomlingani wakho. Qhubeka futhi ufise ukwazi mayelana nezindima ezinomkhawulo okungenzeka bazidlala. Ungabasiza yini ukuba baphume ebhokisini labo lokulinganiselwa?
Ekugcineni, buka impilo yakho nobudlelwano bakho njengesidalwa kunesipiliyoni esinqunyiwe. Lapho ubakha ngobuhlakani ubudlelwano bakho nomunye wakho ojabulisayo endaweni evulekile, eneqiniso futhi enokwazisa, izibopho ziyaqina, amazinga wokuthula nenjabulo ayanda, futhi ngokubambisana nikhetha okudala kakhulu ikusasa lenu.