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- Amahlaya ahlekisayo ngomshado
- Amahlaya ngemishado akuwona amahlaya ngempela umuntu ngamunye
- Amadoda angashadile namahlaya ngomshado
- Nayi enye
- Umshado akuyona into yokudlala
Wonke umuntu uyawathanda amahlaya.
Kukhona isisho esithi ukuhleka umuthi ongcono kunayo yonke. Umshado nobudlelwano ngezinye zezihloko ezithandwayo zamahlaya. Amahlaya ngomshado ashaya asondelene nasekhaya kangangokuthi awukwazi ukuzibamba kodwa uhleke.
Ukuqaphela ukungahleki kakhulu noma isiliphu sikaFreudian kungadala ukuthi ulale ngaphandle kusihlwa.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ngabesilisa kuphela abajeziswa ngaleyo ndlela. Akufani nokuthi asifuni ukuhlala ebusuku kakhulu, kepha uma singaphumela ngaphandle silale ubusuku kwenye indawo, kungaba yimpi yesithathu yomhlaba.
Yonke le nto ihlaya ngomshado uqobo.
Amahlaya ahlekisayo ngomshado
Isizathu esenza ukuba izingqwembe zomshado zihlekise uma kuqhathaniswa namanye amahlaya afana nalawo aphathelene nosopolitiki nabameli ukuthi kusondela kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu, lokho ngaphandle kokuthi ungusopolitiki noma ummeli. Uma kunjalo, khona-ke impilo yakho ihlaya.
Amahlaya ngemishado akuwona amahlaya ngempela umuntu ngamunye
Kuyizindaba ezimfishane nezindatshana abantu abashadile abahlangabezana nazo nsuku zonke. Kukhona i-anecdote eyodwa eya:
"Indoda ingachitha ngokweqile ukuthenga okuthile ekudingayo, kanti owesifazane uzokhokha uhhafu wentengo yento angayidingi."
Kuyahlekisa lokho ngoba kuyinto abantu abasebudlelwaneni, ikakhulukazi abashadile abahlangana nayo njalo. Ngoba kuyiqiniso, kushaya kanzima. Amahlaya amnandi kakhulu ngomshado awahlekisi ngoba yindaba emnandi leyo. Kuyahlekisa ngoba kuliqiniso.
Elinye iqeqebana lamahlaya ahlekisayo ngomshado kulapho inkosikazi iphethe umyeni. Emndenini wendabuko, inzalamizi noma umyeni ubusa kakhulu. Kepha wonke umuntu wesilisa ojabule emshadweni uyazi ukuthi lokho akulona iqiniso njengale ndaba.
Indoda esanda kushada ibuze umkhulu wayo imfihlo yomshado wabo ohlala isikhathi eside. Kuphendula umkhulu. “Kulula mfana. Ugogo wakho wenza akuthandayo. ”
Kubuza lensizwa. "Kuthiwani ngawe?" "Nami ngenza lokho akufunayo."
Kuyahlekisa ukuzwa ukuthi uma ungashadile, kepha kuyahlekisa futhi kuhlakaniphe kubantu besilisa abashadile abalazi iqiniso ngempilo yomshado.
Amadoda angashadile namahlaya ngomshado
Kunganikeza isithombe sokuthi amahlaya ahlekisayo ngomshado asabisa amadoda angashadile ukuthi angaveli embuzweni ngoba amaningi alawo mahlaya agxile eqinisweni.
Kungabukeka sengathi umshado uyimpilo enzima kangako ukuthi ukuzivikela komuntu kuphela ukuhleka.
Kukhona i-anecdote ehamba kanjena:
“Ngenze inqubo ebizayo futhi ebuhlungu izolo. Ngakhishwa umgogodla namasende womabili. Noma kunjalo, ezinye zezipho zomshado bezimnandi. ”
Lowo wayenomqondo ofanayo nendaba kaBabamkhulu, kodwa wethusa kakhulu umuntu ongashadile. Lokho akulona iqiniso ngempela, kithina, lapha ku-marriage.com, bakholelwa ukuthi amadoda avula umbuzo bese ehlangabezana nawo anama-cojones amakhulu. Kukhona ama-anecdotes amabili ngalokho.
Esokuqala ngesomuntu nendodana yakhe bekhuluma ngomshado.
Indodana: “Baba, ngizwe kwezinye izindawo ukuthi indoda ayimazi umkayo ize imshade.” Ubaba: “Ndodana, lokho kuyiqiniso kuyo yonke indawo.”
Nayi enye
Umbhangqwana ububuke umbiko wezindaba ze-TV ngabacimi bomlilo abasiza izisulu ezivaleleke esakhiweni esivuthayo. Unkosikazi: "Kuyamangaza ukuthi amanye amadoda aya kanjani endlini eshayo afake impilo yawo engozini ngenxa yomuntu angamazi nhlobo." Myeni: "Yebo, kufana nokushada."
Kulungile, mhlawumbe akusabisi kangako, ngiqonde ukuthi impilo imayelana nokuxhumana nabantu ongabazi futhi amahlaya asetshenziswa lapha njengesixwayiso kwabesilisa abangashadile ukuthi bangenephi kulokho kuphela onesibindi sokunyathela.
Lapho isoka lothile lihlekisa ngomshado, kusho ukuthi bazama ukuthola isibindi sokungena kulo.
Iningi lamasoka lizokhipha inkukhu ngenkathi abanye bezothatha baziphonse ezinyaweni. Kunemihlomulo yokuthenga inkomo, yingakho amadoda esashada. Bathi abesifazane bangabafel 'ukholo uma kukhulunywa ngothando. Empeleni, le ndaba izosiza wonke umuntu ukuthi aqonde okuphindayo nayo iyiqiniso.
Umfana omncane nomkhulu wakhe baya emshadweni, umfana wabuza umkhulu wakhe “Mkhulu, kungani le ntombazane igqoke okumhlophe?”
“Mfana, ngumakoti lowo. Ugqoke okumhlophe ngoba uzoshada, futhi lolu usuku olujabulisa kakhulu empilweni yakhe. ” Kuphendula umdala.
Umfana omncane wabheka umakoti wabe esebuza: “Kungani umfana egqoke okumnyama?”
Ngakho-ke abesilisa abashadile abawona amagwala, empeleni banesibindi kakhulu sokuhlala endlini evuthayo bathole umamezala ngobisi lwamahhala nje.
Inkinga kuba lapho ubusha bensimbi engenamkhawulo buba ngumsebenzi. Ukuyiqonda kangcono nansi enye indaba ekhuluma ngoBabamkhulu nomfana omncane.
Umfana omncane: “Mkhulu, yini le?”
Umkhulu: “Yikhondomu leyo mfana, amadoda ayisebenzisela ukujabulisa abesifazane.”
Umfana omncane: "Kungani iza ngamathathu?"
Umkhulu: “Eyabafana abafunda esikoleni samabanga aphakeme, bayisebenzisa kabili ngoMgqibelo ebusuku nangenye iSonto.” Umfana omncane: “Kanjani ngalena, ethi iphakethe lesithupha?”
Umkhulu: “Okwezitudiyo zasekolishi, bakusebenzisa kabili ngoLwesihlanu kabili ngoMgqibelo, futhi kabili ngeSonto.”
Umfana omncane: "Uthini ngale phakethe labayishumi nambili."
Umkhulu: “Leyo yamadoda ashadile, eyodwa ngoJanuwari, eyodwa ngoFebhuwari ...”
Umshado akuyona into yokudlala
Noma ngabe kunamahlaya amaningi ngomshado, inyunyana uqobo lwayo akuyona ihlaya, kudinga ukuzibophezela okukhulu kowesilisa ukuthi athathe owesifazane amvumele amenzele zonke izinqumo zakhe.
Umshado nawo ungcwele, yingakho imishado eminingi yenziwa endaweni yezenkolo njengesonto noma ithempeli. Ezinye izinkolo ziyekela abapristi bazo ukuba bashade ukuze banambithe isihlanzo. Amahlaya obuKristu ahlekisayo ngomshado nawo akhona, umuntu uhamba kanjena, u-Adam no-Eva banomshado ophelele.
U-Eve akakwazi ukukhononda ngokuthi amanye amadoda angcono kanjani kunaye, akanamamezala, futhi ukuthenga akukasungulwa okwamanje.
Izinkolo zesintu ezindala akusizo zodwa eziphuma namahlaya ahlekisayo ngomshado. Ubuchwepheshe besimanjemanje budlulisa isandla esisizayo, njengendaba yokubuza iSat Nav GPS yemoto yakho ukuthi iye esihogweni. Izokunikeza izinkomba zokuya endlini kamamezala wakho.
Kungaba okujabulisayo. Leli yihlaya lethu esilithandayo ngomshado.
Indoda ifike ekhaya idakiwe, izikhukhula phansi egumbini lokuphumula, yephula isitsha, idlule. Avuke embhedeni egqoke izingubo zokulala enombhalo ovela kumkakhe.
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Umyeni wamangala, wayelindele ukuthola isihogo salokho okufakwe ekhaya, wafike wabuza indodana yakhe ukuthi kwenzekeni izolo ebusuku. Kusho indodana. “Umama uzame ukushintsha izingubo zakho ngoba ushaye yonke indawo bese usho. Suka kimi, ngishadile! ”