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- 1. Ubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi aqambe amanga ngazo
- 2. Unemikhuba engajwayelekile ye-intanethi
- 3. Akazimisele ngocansi nawe
- 4. Uyi-homophobe
- 1. Ubukeka ngempela
- 2. Uthanda izinto zamantombazane noma ezabesifazane
- 3. Ufuna ukuzama "izinto zempundu"
Akujwayelekile ukuthi abesifazane bazibuze ukuthi “Ingabe umyeni wami uyisitabane?” Izinto eziningi zingenza owesifazane abuze ubulili bendoda yakhe, futhi kungakhathaza ukucabanga ukuthi umuntu omthandayo futhi omethembayo kakhulu ugcina imfihlo enkulu kuwe.
Ngenkathi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi umyeni wakho uyisitabane noma uyabathanda abesilisa nabesifazane ukuthi akutshele, kunezimpawu ezithile ongazifuna ezikwazisa ukuthi ingxoxo mayelana nokuziphatha kwezocansi iyadingeka.
Kukhona futhi, noma kunjalo, izinto eziningi umphakathi ongakutshela ukuthi zisho ukuthi umyeni wakho uyisitabane empeleni awanandaba nokuthambekela kwakhe kwezocansi.
Funda ezinye izinganekwane ezilahliwe nezimpawu zangempela ongazibheka uma uzithola ubuza ukuthi, "Ingabe umyeni wami uyisitabane?"
Umyeni wakho angaba yisitabane uma:
1. Ubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi aqambe amanga ngazo
Okokuqala, ukubuka nokujabulela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile akusho ukuthi umyeni wakho uyisitabane.
Amadoda amaningi aqondile ajabulela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zobulili ngezikhathi ezithile. Kepha uma indoda yakho ifihla ukusebenzisa kwayo i-porn, noma iphika ukuthi noma iyiphi i-porn yama-gay oyithola endlini noma kwikhompyutha yayo ingeyakhe, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi ibuze ubulili bayo.
Uma uthola izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zobungqingili kukhompyutha yakhe noma amanye amadivayisi noma uthola izithombe ezingcolile zobungqingili ezigcwele endlini, yisikhathi sokuba nengxoxo.
2. Unemikhuba engajwayelekile ye-intanethi
Ukusula umlando wesiphequluli sakho kungaba yinhlanzeko enhle yedijithali, kepha futhi kungabonisa ukuthi othile ugcina imfihlo.
Ikakhulukazi uma eqala ukwenza isilondolozi esivamile ngemuva kokuhlangana naye mayelana nezocansi zobulili obufanayo noma okunye ukuziphatha okusolisayo ku-intanethi, kufanele uqale ukubuza imibuzo ethile. Kungenzeka angabi yisitabane, kepha kungenzeka ukuthi kunokuthile angakutsheli.
Ngokunjalo, ukuba ne-akhawunti yemidiya yokuxhumana ehlukile lapho ukuxhumana kwakhe okuningi kungamadoda ongawazi, evula futhi enamaphrofayli kumasayithi wokuphola abathandana nabobulili obufanayo noma izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuxhumana nabantu, kanye neGoogling yemibuzo efana nokuthi “ungazi kanjani ukuthi ungungqingili” kungaba amafulegi abomvu.
3. Akazimisele ngocansi nawe
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi umuntu angabi nentshisekelo kwezocansi, futhi imishado eminingi iyehla futhi igeleze kwezocansi.
Kepha uma umyeni wakho engathandeki ngokuphelele ocansini nawe isikhathi eside, futhi engathandi ukuxoxa ngodaba noma ukuthola ukuthi ngabe kukhona yini inkinga yezempilo (ngokwengqondo noma ngokomzimba) ebulala i-libido yakhe, angahle abe isitabane noma ukubuza ubulili bakhe.
Akukho sithakazelo sokuya ocansini nawe ikakhulukazi uphawu oluyisixwayiso uma uye ocansini oluningi ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho, kepha luye lwehla ngokushesha futhi aluzange lubuye.
4. Uyi-homophobe
Ngokumangazayo, lesi yisibikezeli sokuqala lapho umuntu othile eyindoda eyisitabane noma eyingqingili.
Uma indoda yakho iyi-homophobe engagunci, iphatha izitabane ngendlela ehlukile noma embi, yenza amahlaya amaningi “angongqingili”, noma ikhuluma ngabantu abayizitabane ngendlela ehlambalazayo, kungenzeka ukuthi izama ukugomela ngokuthi “iqonde” ngoba inamahloni ukuba yisitabane (noma ukutholakala).
Lokhu kuqinisile noma ngabe elungile nabathandana nabobulili obufanayo kepha abathandana nobungqingili kubantu besilisa nabesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane.
Kunezinto eziningi umphakathi otshela ngazo abesifazane ukuthi ziyizimpawu zokuthi abayeni babo bayizitabane, kodwa okungasho lutho ngempela.
Ezinye izinto ezingasayini ukuthi umyeni wakho uyisitabane zihlanganisa:
1. Ubukeka ngempela
Kukhona inkolelo-mbono eyingozi yokuthi indoda ikhathalela ukubukeka kwayo kuphela uma iyisitabane.
Akunjalo!
Ukuthi umyeni wakho usemfashinini, uthanda ukugcina izinwele nezinzipho zakhe zilungisiwe (noma ethola umuthi wokugcoba), noma kungenjalo kuthatha isikhathi ukuzihlanganisa akusho ukuthi uyisitabane.
2. Uthanda izinto zamantombazane noma ezabesifazane
Imisebenzi nezintshisekelo akunabo ubulili, kepha umphakathi wethu uthanda ukuzenza sengathi unabo.
Uma ushade nowesilisa othanda imisebenzi ejwayelekile “njengowesifazane” njengokupheka, ukubhaka, ukuhlanza, ukuhlobisa, ukunitha, noma i-yoga, abantu bangase bazame ukukwenza uzibuze ukuthi “Ingabe umyeni wami uyisitabane?”
Kepha izintshisekelo zakhe azihlobene nakancane nokuziphatha kwakhe ngokobulili. Ukubhaka amakhukhi noma ukudlala enkundleni yemidlalo yomphakathi ngeke “kumenze” isitabane, futhi.
3. Ufuna ukuzama "izinto zempundu"
Kuyethusa kubantu abaningi, kepha imibhangqwana eminingi eqondile yenza ucansi lwendunu noma ukudlala ezocansi.
Futhi lokho kufaka phakathi amadoda amaningi aqondile athanda ukungena ngaphakathi noma ukuvuselelwa kwe-prostate nge-anus noma i-perineum. Ihlazo lomphakathi ligcina abesilisa abaningi ukuthi bangaceli lolu hlobo lokudlala noma bavume ukuthi bayalwenza.
Uma umyeni wakho ezwakalisa intshisekelo yakhe yokuhlola "izinto zezinqe," yiba nengxoxo. Uma ungekho kuwo, akudingeki uhlanganyele kuwo, kodwa futhi wazi ukuthi ukuba nentshisekelo nge-anal akusho ukuthi indoda yakho iyisitabane.