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- Ukushintshwa kwendima
- Umshado udinga ukuyekethisa futhi usebenze ebudlelwaneni
- Abantu bakhetha ukuhlala bengashadile
Emashumini ambalwa edlule, sizibonele ngokwanda kwesehlukaniso nokwehla kwamanani emishado. E-US kuphela, inani eliphelele labantu abashadayo lehle ngesigamu sesigidi selokhu inani eliphakeme lango-1980, landa imishado eyizigidi ezi-2,5 ngonyaka.
Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi ukwehla kwamanani emishado kuyinto esezingeni lomhlaba erekhodwe emazweni angama-100 emhlabeni jikelele.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi noma ama-44% amaMelika angaphansi kweminyaka engama-30 akhombise ukuthi umshado usuphelelwa yisikhathi, amaphesenti ama-5 kuphela walesi sampula angafuni ukushada. Kubukeka sengathi abantu bakala umshado njengophelile, kepha noma kunjalo bawudubula. Ngakho-ke, umbuzo uyavela, ingabe umshado usuphelelwe yisikhathi?
Yini eyenza umshado ungasebenzi?
Ziningi izinto ezingenza umshado ungasebenzi.
Phakathi kwabo, siyayibona inkululeko yabesifazane yezezimali, ukukhuphuka okuvamile kwinkululeko yokuzikhethela, ukuhlehla kokushicilela, ukuguqulwa kobudlelwano, ithuba lokuya ocansini ungashadile kuqala, njll.
Owesifazane ozimele ngokwezimali kulezi zinsuku ujabulela inkululeko yokuzikhethela yena umyeni wakhe wesikhathi esizayo. Phambilini, bekuvame ukunqunywa ngumndeni wakhe, futhi bekufanele azinze ngendoda elungile engondla umndeni.
Noma kunjalo, namuhla. abesifazane bangasebenza futhi bazondle, benze umshado udaba lwesinqumo somuntu siqu esikhundleni senketho yokuphoqelelwa. Kepha, ekunqobeni kwalokhu kuzimela okusha nobudlelwano, bavame ukuzibuza, "Ingabe umshado awusasebenzi?"
Ngokungafani nesikhathi esedlule, lapho abesifazane beshada ukuphepha kwezezimali, namuhla, isizathu esiyinhloko uthando. Lokhu kusho nokuthi uma bekhetha ukungashadi nhlobo, bangakwenza lokho. Konke lokhu ndawonye kwenza umshado ungasebenzi.
Okungenani ezweni elithuthukile nelithuthukayo, abesifazane akudingeki bashade nowesilisa ukuze bathembele kuye ngokwezimali.
Ukushintshwa kwendima
Bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa, ngemuva kokukhula, banethuba lokuzimela ngokwezimali. Owesifazane angasebenza uma ethatha isinqumo futhi nendoda akusadingeki ithembele kumkakhe ukuze igcine indlu.
Lezi zindima manje zingaba ngendlela yokuthi indoda ingaba ukuhlala ekhaya ubaba, kanti umama ungumondli womndeni. Ngokwengeziwe, ukuzimela ngokwezezimali kuvumela abesifazane ukuthi bakhethe ukuthi bafuna ukuba omama abangabodwa ngoba akudingeki babe nomyeni ohlinzekayo ukuze abe ngumzali.
Umshado udinga ukuyekethisa futhi usebenze ebudlelwaneni
Imvamisa kuningi kokubili. Ukwazi ukuthi kuzodingeka senze izivumelwano emshadweni kwenza umshado ubonakale ungathandeki kangako. Kungani uyekethisa lapho kungadingeki, akunjalo?
Ingqondo yethu namasiko ethu kugxile kakhulu ekujabuleni nasekuzuzeni okusemandleni ethu empilweni. Uma kubonakala sengathi umshado awungezi ukubaluleka ezimpilweni zethu, mancane amathuba okuthi siwukhethe.
Kudala sasishadela ukuphepha kwezezimali nokuba nezingane, kepha ukukwazi lokho ngenkathi ungashadile kwenza umshado ungadingeki kulezi zinsuku.
Abantu bakhetha ukuhlala bengashadile
Namuhla thina, ikakhulukazi, sishada ngothando, futhi sizimisele ukulinda size sithole umuntu ofanele. Abantu bakhetha ukuhlala bengashadile baze bahlangane nomuntu okuzodingeka benze isivumelwano esincane kakhulu.
Ukungashadi ukuze ube nezingane kungenye yezinto ezibalulekile ezenza umshado ungasebenzi.
Ubulili buye baba esinye sezizathu ezibalulekile zokushada. Kodwa-ke, ukuya ocansini ngaphambi komshado kwamukeleke kakhulu kunakuqala. Akusadingeki ukuthi sibe ebudlelwaneni ukuze siye ocansini. Ngabe le nhlonipho, kwabanye, umbuzo othi “Ingabe umshado awusasebenzi” inguyebo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubudlelwano bokuhlala buye bathola isimo esisemthethweni ezindaweni eziningi. Ukukwazi ukwenza ngokusemthethweni izinto ngokubambisana bukhoma ngokubhala isivumelwano esisemthethweni kwenza umshado ubonakale ungathandeki kangako.
Kufanele sinake ukuthi isikhathi lapho sijoyina imishado engcwele sishintshe kakhulu. Abantu babeshada besanda kweva eminyakeni engama-20 ubudala, kepha manje iningi labantu liyashada futhi libe nezingane selineminyaka engama-30. Intsha ayijahi ukuba ngabantu abadala futhi ingena emshadweni. Kunamathuba amaningi nenkululeko ababengenayo ngaphambili nokuthi bafisa ukuyihlola ngaphambi kokuzivalela emshadweni.
Okokugcina, abaningi abashadi ngoba nje bebona umshado “njengephepha” elingachazi ubudlelwano babo nomlingani omkhethile. Ngakho-ke, kubo, impendulo yombuzo othi, "Ingabe umshado awusasebenzi" isekuvumeleni.
Kungani umuntu angafuna ukushada?
Ngabe umshado uzophelelwa yisikhathi? Akunakwenzeka neze. Izinga lomshado lingehla, futhi nakanjani lizodlula ezinguquko eziningi, kepha lizoqhubeka likhona.
Umshado ungabonakala njengesikhungo esidlulelwe yisikhathi, kepha kubantu abaningi, kuyindlela ebalulekile yokubonisa ukuzinikezela kwabo komunye nomunye.
Abaningi bathola lokhu kuyindlela yokugcina yokuqinisa ukuzibophezela nokumemezela uthando lwabo komunye nomunye.
Ingabe umshado awusasebenzi? Hhayi, kulabo abenza i-premium ekuzibophezeleni. Umshado umayelana nokuzibophezela, futhi lokho kwenza kube lula ukutshala imali ekuxazululeni izinkinga zobudlelwano. Ngesikhathi sisebudlelwaneni, kungaba lula ukuyeka ukwenza ngcono ubudlelwane nokuhlukana, kepha umshado umayelana nokuzibophezela.
Ukwazi okuthile kufanele kuhlale isikhathi eside, futhi umuntu akayi ndawo kungenza kube lula ukufaka imali ekuthuthukiseni ubuhlobo.
Ukusimama komshado kunikeza ukuphepha nokwamukelwa esikufunayo sonke.
Umshado uqinisa izibopho futhi wandise ukuthembela ekuzinikeleni kothile nasekuthembekeni kwakhe.
Umshado uyindlela yokwakha umndeni ozinzile lapho izingane zingachuma futhi zizizwe zivikelekile. Umshado wenza kube lula ukwakha umndeni kwazise kukhona ozokwabelana naye ngalo mthwalo. Ikakhulu njengoba wena nalomuntu nabelana ngokuxhumana okuqinile kwemizwa.
Ekugcineni, kunezinzuzo eziningi zezezimali emshadweni. Intela yemali eyehliswayo, ukuvikeleka komphakathi, izimali zempesheni kungezinye nje zezinzuzo zemali ezilethwa umshado. Uma ushadile, umlingani wakho uyakwazi ukukwenzela izinqumo zomthetho futhi lokhu kuyinto engatholakali emibhangqwaneni ehlala ndawonye.
Ukushada noma ukungashadi
Kulezi zinsuku, abantu banenkululeko eyengeziwe, futhi enye yazo ukuchaza ubudlelwano babo ngendlela abafuna ngayo. Ukukhetha ukungashadi, ebudlelwaneni obuvulekile, oshadile noma okunye kungenye yezinqumo esizikhethele zona.
Ngayinye yalezi zinketho inezinzuzo nezingozi zayo futhi iyisinqumo esisemthethweni sokwenza. Ingabe umshado awusasebenzi? Cha, futhi mhlawumbe akusoze kwaba njalo. Kuyindlela esenengqondo kubantu abaningi ngezizathu ezingokomzwelo, ezenkolo, ezezimali namasiko.