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- Ukuhlukumezeka nokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuthola ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo
- Ukwethemba ukwelulekwa ngokocansi
- I-rollercoaster engokomzwelo ekwelulekeni ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
Ukwelulekwa ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi imvamisa indawo yokuqala lapho isisulu siveza khona ukuthi kwenzekeni kubo. Kanjalo, futhi kuyindawo lapho yonke into idinga ukuya khona ngokuphelele ukuze ukuhlukumezeka kungabi kubhebhethekisa. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi ukhethe umelaphi ofanele noma iqembu lokusekela futhi uqonde ukuthi inqubo izobukeka kanjani. Le ndatshana izoveza lokho umuntu angakulindela ekwelulekeni ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi.
Ukuhlukumezeka nokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuthola ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo
Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi, okunganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuxhumana ngokobulili okungavumelani neze neze ngezocansi njengokulawula namandla. Okungukuthi, ingxenye enkulu, okwenza ukuhlukumezeka kube namandla futhi kube namandla. Kwabaningi bezisulu, ngeshwa, ukuqala kwendlela ende kakhulu eya ekwelapheni.
Ukwelulekwa ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kuvame ukuqala lapho osindile esondela kumelaphi nganoma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuvame ukuhambisana nezisulu kukho konke ukuphila kwabo. Lapho nje owelapha kanye neklayenti beqala ukuhlola ukuthi yini okungenzeka ukuthi ibangele lezi zinkinga, ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kuvela njengoyimbangela yazo zonke lezi zinto. Akuvamile ukuthi osindile aphile impilo enesiphithiphithi ngenxa yokwehluleka kwabo ukubhekana nokuhlukumezeka ngendlela efanele.
Noma ngabe isisulu sathola ukuhlukunyezwa esemncane noma njengomuntu omdala, yize umehluko wesipiliyoni ungahluka kakhulu, imiphumela ijwayele ukuzungeza ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuningana. Ngokuyinhloko, ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka kuveza ukusabela okuvamile ekuhlukumezeni futhi kuza nobubanzi bezithiyo ekusebenzeni kwansuku zonke.
Okuvame ukuhambisana nengcindezi yangemva kwenhlekelele (noma eyenzeka yodwa) ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Ukudana nokukhathazeka, kanye ne-phobia, yizikhalazo ezivame kakhulu ezenziwa yizisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ekwelulekeni. Mhlawumbe bezama ukubalekela izinkumbulo ezibuhlungu nokuhlehla emuva, abasindile bavame ukuba umlutha.
Lezi zinkinga zidinga ukubhekelwa zodwa ekwelulekeni. Kepha, bazobuya uma kungalashwa imbangela yabo bonke, okuwukuhlukumezeka kokuhlukunyezwa.
Ukwethemba ukwelulekwa ngokocansi
Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, ngaphezu kwezinkinga ezingokomzwelo esizibalulile phambilini, nazo zinodaba olulodwa olukhulu okufanele zibhekane nazo nsuku zonke - kunzima ukwakha okunamathiselwe. Noma ngabe isisulu sihlukunyezwe njengengane, umuntu osemusha noma umuntu omdala, ukwephula ukwethenjwa kanye nomuzwa wokuphepha kuzoba nomthelela nakanjani endleleni osindile enza ngayo okunamathiselwe okusha.
Imiphumela ingahlukahluka, kepha into esivumelana ngayo yikhono elithintekile lokwenza ubudlelwano obunempilo nokwethembana nabanye. Isisulu singakugwema ukuzihlanganisa ngokuphelele. Umuntu onjalo akaze ahlale isikhathi eside ebudlelwaneni obulodwa, akaze akhe ukuxhumana okujulile, futhi uzama ukuhlala njengempisi eyodwa. Ababagwemi abanye kepha banobudlelwano obunesiphithiphithi nokunamathiselwe okungaphephile. Abanye bathambekele ekubambeleleni lapho sebakhe ukuxhumana nomuntu futhi bangalokothi babonakale bethola isiqinisekiso esanele sothando lwalowo muntu.
Le ndlela yokunamathisela engenampilo ngokungenakugwenywa ibuthinta kakhulu ubuhlobo bezokwelapha. Kwisisulu, noma ngubani angaba ngumhlukumezi, noma ngabe ukwesaba okunjalo akutholwa ngokuqaphela. Yingakho nje isinyathelo sokuqala ekululekweni ngakunye ngokocansi kukhulisa ukwethembana nokwakha indawo ephephile lapho iklayenti lizokwazi khona ukuphinde lihlole ukuhlukumezeka ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa yimiphumela yalo.
I-rollercoaster engokomzwelo ekwelulekeni ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
Ukwelulekwa kuzoqondisa iklayenti kulokho okungachazwa njengenqubo yokuxokozela ngokomzwelo noma i-rollercoaster.Imiphumela yokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ayilula, futhi ukuphulukiswa nakho akunakuba. Ububanzi bokuphendula kwemizwa iklayenti elizodlula kukho bukhulu kakhulu, futhi osindile angalindela ukuzwa injabulo, ukuziqhenya, ubuhlungu nokwesaba konke ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Izisulu eziningi zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi zingazi zenza uhlobo oluthile lokuzikhohlisa. Bathola okuthile okubizwa ngokuthi yi-dissociation, isimo lapho izinkumbulo ezihlukumezayo zisuswa kukho konke okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu. Lezi zinkumbulo ezihlukanisiwe zizwakala sengathi ziyinto engajwayelekile kithina. Kodwa-ke, bathambekele ekutholeni indlela ebuyela ekuqapheleni ngohlobo lwe-intrusive flashbacks, izithombe, imicabango noma imizwa.
Owasinda ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi owenza umsebenzi wokwelulekwa kufanele azilungiselele kahle ukuthi lezi zinhlansana zamehlo ziyoba ngokoqobo impela. Ngesinye isikhathi, lonke uhla lokwesaba, ukwesaba, ukulimala, ubuhlungu, intukuthelo, amahloni nokuzizwa unecala konke kuzocaca kakhulu futhi kunzima ukubhekana nakho. Kodwa-ke, lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala nesingenakugwenywa sokuthi ekugcineni sikhululeke ekuhlukumezekeni futhi sikhululeke kumhlukumezi.