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- Izinto zokuqala kuqala - suka kuzo zombili
- 2.Foster ingxoxo eqotho uma usukwazi ukubhekana nomyeni wakho
- 3.Buyela emuva uphinde ubuyekeze izindlela zakho zobudlelwano
- Funa ukungenelela kochwepheshe, nganoma yiluphi uhlobo
- 5. Manje yisikhathi sokubhekana nobungani
- Qedani
Umyeni wami wangikhohlisa ngomngani wami omkhulu!
Umsindo walesi sitatimende ngokwawo uyacindezela kangangokuthi ngisho nabeluleki abaqinisekisiwe bemishado noma izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ngokuvamile bayakwesaba ukusingathwa kwamacala anjalo. Isizathu sokuba-
Ukungathembeki kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo kuyalimaza kakhulu.
Kuba kubi ngokungenakuqhathaniswa kunoma imuphi umfazi ukuthola ukuthi lo omunye wesifazane ungumngani wakhe omkhulu. Lokhu kunjalo ukukhashelwa kabili futhi kubuhlungu kakhulu. Eqinisweni, ngemuva kokutholwa kwendaba, kukhona inhlanganisela yemizwa ehambisana nobuhlungu nokukhaphela.
Kukhona intukuthelo futhi kwezinye izimo, ukuba ndikindiki kubo bobabili umngani wakho omkhulu nomyeni wakho.
Kodwa-ke, noma ubhekene nalokhu kukhashelwa okukhulu ngabantu ababili abasondele kuwe, kubalulekile ukuthi ungalahli imizwa yakho. Ukwenza kanjalo kungaba futhi kuzolimaza kakhulu ukululama kwakho (ngokungakwazi ukuba nengxoxo eyakhayo) kanye nenhlalakahle.
Ngalesi sikhathi, kunezigidi zemibuzo egijima emqondweni wakho, futhi iba yimbi nakakhulu lapho kunezingane ezihilelekile. Uqala ukubuza ukubaluleka kwakho, ukuzethemba kwakho kuyehla futhi izinkulungwane zamafulegi abomvu okungenzeka ukuthi awuzinakanga ziqala ukukhukhula ikhanda lakho.
Kepha, noma uzizwa ukuthi into enhle kakhulu ongayenza ukwehlukanisa nomyeni wakho bese umlahla, kuhlale kunethemba. Futhi ngokuya ngokuqina kobukhulu bokukopela- imvamisa, ubude bokukopela, ukuthi ubani omunye obandakanyekayo njll.
Ngezansi kunezeluleko ezinhlanu nezinkomba ezinconyelwe wonke umyeni wami ongikhohlisile ngamacala ami omngani omkhulu.
Izinto zokuqala kuqala - suka kuzo zombili
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ngoba ukushaqeka nentukuthelo ehlasela owesifazane kulokhu kutholakala kukhulu kakhulu, kungenzeka bakushiye usesimweni esibi kakhulu futhi eshajiwe ngokomzwelo okwenza ungafaneleki ukubamba izingxoxo khona lapho.
Kungaba wusizo uma uziqhelelanisa nobabili nomyeni wakho nomngani wakho omkhulu, ikakhulukazi emahoreni noma ezinsukwini zokuqala ngemuva kokutholwa kwendaba.
Lokhu kubalulekile njengoba kuzokunika okungenani isikhathi esithile sokucubungula yonke imizwa yakho bese ucabanga ukuthi ungaqala kuphi.
Ukulala ubusuku endaweni yesihlobo noma kwenye indawo wedwa kungabonakala kufanelekile uze uzizwe ukwazi ukuya kumyeni wakho ngomoya ophansi.
2.Foster ingxoxo eqotho uma usukwazi ukubhekana nomyeni wakho
Uma usuthathe isikhathi sakho ukwehlisa umoya futhi manje usukwazi ukuya kumyeni wakho, qiniseka ukuthi uqala inkulumo ekholekile ngokungathembeki kwakhe.
Chaza ngesibindi nangokusobala ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakhe kukuthinte kanjani futhi ufune incazelo eqondile yalokho okuholele kulolu daba. Futhi, ngokwazi konke ubuhlanya bokuthi indaba yaqala kanjani nokuthi yini eholele kuyo kungenzeka kungabunciphisi ubuhlungu obuzwayo noma obuzwayo, ukuqonda kahle ukuthi kungani ekhohlisa kunganikeza ukuqonda okungcono isimo sonke.
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ekubekeni wena endleleni elungile yokuphulukiswa nokuxolelwa, kukuvumela ukuthi wenze izinqumo ezinengqondo nezinqumo.
3.Buyela emuva uphinde ubuyekeze izindlela zakho zobudlelwano
Manje njengoba unemininingwane ethile mayelana nalolu daba, sekuyisikhathi sokubuyekeza izindlela zakho zobudlelwano.
Ezimweni eziningi, ezinye izindaba zomuntu ongaphandle komshado kungenzeka ukuthi azenzeki futhi azihlelwanga ngendlela umuntu angafuna ukukholelwa ngayo. Lokhu mhlawumbe kungukubonakaliswa kwenkinga yomshado enkulu, engakhulunywanga ebilokhu idla ebudlelwaneni bezempilo iminyaka.
Njengoba ufaka imininingwane yalolu daba, kuphephile ukuskena umshado wakho bese uzibuza imibuzo embalwa.
Ingabe nobabili nijabule emshadweni? Ngabe umshado ubuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho zombili? Ingabe nobabili niyakwazi ukuxhumana ngempumelelo? Kuthiwani ngokusondelana ngokomzimba?
Ngandlela thile noma enye, le mibuzo ingahle ikukhombise okuthile okungasiza ekuqhubekeni phambili kunoma yiziphi izinqumo ozozenza.
Funa ukungenelela kochwepheshe, nganoma yiluphi uhlobo
Noma ngabe umyeni wakho uthwala wonke umthwalo wezenzo zakhe, kunesidingo sokuqonda ukuthi ukusola, ukubiza ngamagama noma ama-ttacks njalo kuzothela okuncane kakhulu maqondana nawe okwenza izinqumo ezinolwazi.
Noma ngabe unquma ukuhlala uzama ukulungisa izinto noma ubona kungcono ukuthi uhlukane, noma imuphi umsebenzi ongakusizi ukuyisa phambili ngamandla amabi nje.
Kuwukuhlakanipha ukufuna usizo kumeluleki oqeqeshiwe noma kumholi wezenkolo nobabili enikujwayele futhi nikhululekile ukukhuluma naye, ikakhulukazi uma uzizwa ungakwazi ukwehluleka ukulawula imizwa yakho.
Umeluleki oqeqeshiwe angakusiza ufunde izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana nezokuphumula. Ngokufanayo, umeluleki wobungcweti kwezemishado usesimweni esihle kakhulu sokukusiza ukuthi uhlolisise futhi uhlole izingqinamba ezingaba khona eziholela ekungathembekeni komyeni wakho.
5. Manje yisikhathi sokubhekana nobungani
Yonke imizwa yokukhaphela, intukuthelo, nosizi onayo ngomyeni wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uzizwe ngendlela efanayo ngomngani wakho omkhulu.
Okusho ukuthi yinto okumele kubhekwane nayo.
Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlala emshadweni futhi ulungise izinto nomyeni wakho, into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukukhawulela ukuxhumana phakathi kwalaba bantu ababili kuze kube yileso sikhathi lapho nikwazi ukuxoxa ngezinto nomngane wakho ngomoya ophansi.
Ngasikhathi sinye, usungakwazi manje ukuthatha isinqumo sokulungisa ubudlelwano bakho nomngani wakho noma cha.
Kungakhathalekile ukuthi uthathe isinqumo sini, kunempilo ukuhlala phansi nomngane wakho umtshele ukuthi ukuphathe kabi kangakanani nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngaye. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ungasebenzisa futhi izimpendulo zakhe ukunquma ukuthi ufanele yini ukugcina manje noma ukusika ubuhlobo naye.
Qedani
Ukulalela ezinye zalezi zinto umyeni wami angikhohlise ngazo ngezindaba zomngani wami omkhulu kungadala ukuthi ukhale izinyembezi noma kukwenze uthukuthele ngolaka olungalawuleki.
Kunoma ikuphi, lapho sekuyithuba lakho, futhi ungakwazi ukukusiza noma ukuthola ukuthi yini elandelayo, lezi zicucu ezinhlanu eziwusizo zizoqhubeka ziqondise kokulandelayo.