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- 1. Thola indaba yakho ngaphambi kokufuna ugqozi
- Xoxani ngokuncamelayo kwezifungo zenu zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo
- 3. Qhathanisa bese uqhathanisa
- 4. Thola ugqozi noma ucwaninge ngezinye izifungo
- 4. Bhala uhlaka lwakho lokuqala
Okuthandekayo ngezifungo zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo ukuthi noma yini iyahamba. Ungenza izifungo zakho zenziwe ngezifiso ngokuphelele ezintweni ozithandayo njengezithandani, nasendabeni yakho ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngamalungelo nokungalungi, noma okulindelwe okufanele ukusho noma ukwenze.
Uma kushiwo lokho, noma ngabe kukhona okuhambayo, udinga ukugcina eminye imingcele yezifungo zakho zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo. Uzofuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi awubhebhezeli, ungadina izivakashi zakho, ungabeki ngaphezulu, noma ucasule noma ubani osondelene nawe, kufaka phakathi isoka lakho! (singacabanga ukuthi ngeke ufune ukwenza lokhu - kepha ngumshado wakho!).
Nayi inkomba yethu esheshayo yokuqalisa ngokubhala izifungo zakho zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo.
1. Thola indaba yakho ngaphambi kokufuna ugqozi
Enye yezingqikithi ezingathathwa kalula, ngezifungo zakho zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo ukuthi kufanele ube ngumbhangqwana ozimele futhi ocabanga ngokukhululeka ukukhetha ukuba nomshado ongahlangene nenkolo kwasekuqaleni. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukwamukela lokho ongakucabangi?
Ukwamukela ukuzimela kwenu njengabantu abashadile - ngaphambi kokuthi niqale ukufuna ugqozi lwezifungo zenu. Thatha isikhathi sokuqala ukubhala phansi ongathanda ukukufaka (uma imingcele, inhlonipho nokulindela umphakathi bekungeyona inkinga).
Ukwenza lokhu ubhale phansi amanothi ngobudlelwano bakho, izinkumbulo zakho ndawonye, izikhathi lapho ubucabanga ukuthi ngeke umthande lo muntu kakhulu, izikhathi lapho bekusize khona ngesikhathi esinzima, izingoma zakho ozithandayo, izindawo, namahlaya ndawonye.
Nobabili nomlingani wakho kufanele nibhale phansi imibono yenu ngokuzimela (ngesethembiso sokungakhungatheki noma ukucasulwa imibono yomunye nomunye!).
Xoxani ngokuncamelayo kwezifungo zenu zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo
Ngaphambi kokudalulana komunye nomunye ngombono wakho ongahluziwe, qala ukuxoxa futhi ninqume, nesoka lakho ukuthi ningathanda ukuveza kanjani izethembiso zenu komunye nomunye. Ngokungavezi amanothi akho aluhlaza okwamanje, uzovumela ukwethembeka futhi unciphise ukuvinjelwa esingahle sikusebenzise kwabanye abantu abasondelene nathi.
Imibuzo okufanele icatshangwe yile:
- Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi izifungo zakho zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo zizohlekisa, zithandane, zome, zibe yizinkondlo, noma zikhuthaze?
- Ungayibhala kanjani ndawonye, noma ngokuhlukile?
- Ngabe ufuna ukuthi zehluke futhi zihluke kumuntu ngamunye noma ezifanayo?
- Ngabe nifuna ukwenza izithembiso ezifanayo komunye nomunye, noma niyajabula ukufaka izethembiso ezihlukile?
- Ngabe nizohlanganyela izethembiso omunye komunye ngaphambi kokushada, noma nizigcine ziyimfihlo kuze kufike usuku olukhulu?
3. Qhathanisa bese uqhathanisa
Lapho usubhalile amanothi akho futhi uxoxa ngombono wakho ngesakhiwo nangendlela okwakhiwe ngayo izifungo zakho, ungaqhathanisa uhlu lwakho ubone ukuthi kukhona yini ukufana, noma ezinye izindaba ezifanayo, noma izingqikithi enizikhethele nina nobabili ngokuzimela.
Futhi naka imibono eye yashiwo ngumlingani wakho, okungenzeka ukuthi uphuthelwe yona kodwa ufisa sengathi ngabe ubuyikhumbulile. Qiniseka ukuthi utshela isoka lakho uma eminye yemibono yabo ingakwenza uzizwe ungakhululekile uma befakwa kwizifungo, bese nixoxa ngezingxenye enizithandayo futhi ngokufanayo. Ngale ndlela nobabili niyacacelwa ukuthi yini omunye nomunye ayithandayo nokuthi yini okufanele ayigweme. Ingani izifungo zibhalelwene.
Uma ungabhalanga lutho olufanayo, noma omunye wenu akazange abhale noma yini omunye ayithandayo, noma angayihlobanisa nayo, kulungile futhi. Mhlawumbe niyizinto eziphikisanayo. Lokhu kungaba yinto okhetha ukuyigqamisa ezifungweni zakho zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo ngokwenza izithembiso ezihluke ngokuphelele komunye nomunye. Okuzokwenza izifungo zakho kube ngezakho, futhi kwamukele isitayela sakho njengezithandani.
Ngokulinganayo, ungahle ube nomuzwa wokuthi ufuna ukuthola okuthile kwezothando, enikuthandayo nobabili, futhi akukho okubhalile okunikhuthazile. Okusiholela kahle ephuzwini elilandelayo.
4. Thola ugqozi noma ucwaninge ngezinye izifungo
Ukuthola ugqozi lwezifungo zakho kuzosiza ekuxazululeni inkinga ongaba nayo uma ningavumelani nobabili kunoma yiziphi izinto enizikhethile ngokuzimela. Futhi uma usuvele unemibono ethile, ungathola ugqozi ekulethweni noma kwifomethi yezifungo, noma okuthile okungavele nje kudonse izifungo zakho zomshado ezingezona ezenkolo ndawonye ngokuqinile futhi wakhe okuthile okuhle impela!
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4. Bhala uhlaka lwakho lokuqala
Isinyathelo sokugcina ukubhala okusalungiswa kwakho, uma nenza lokhu ndawonye njengezithandani, ningazinika nesikhathi sokufundana futhi nenze noma yiziphi izinguquko. Khumbula ukuthi okusalungiswa kwakho kokuqala kungenzeka kungapheleli, akudingeki ukuthi kube njalo ngoba uzoyihlela.
Thatha isikhathi sokubhala, bese usishiya izinsuku ezimbalwa, ukuze ubuyele kuso ngomqondo omusha. Uzobona noma yini ongayithandi kangako uma uyiyeka isikhashana futhi ungayigcina uyixhumanise uze waneliseke ngokuphelele. Awudingi ukwenza okusalungiswa kwakho kube uhlobo lokugcina!