Ungamthola Kanjani Uchwepheshe Wezocansi Ohamba Phambili - Isazi Roundup

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• Ukubhekana nezindaba zocansi emshadweni
• Umjikelezo wesazi - Ungamthola kanjani umelaphi wezocansi ohamba phambili?
• Ukwelashwa ngokocansi- Ukhiye wokuphila kocansi okwanelisayo, okungenazinkinga

Ukubhekana nezindaba zocansi emshadweni

Izinkinga zocansi emshadweni azivamile, kepha abantu abaningi banokwesaba ukukhuluma ngakho nabangane babo, imindeni kanye nabantu ababaziyo.

Impilo yocansi yinto yomuntu siqu, futhi akukho lutho olungahambi kahle uma umuntu efuna ukukugcina kusonga.

Futhi, ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi kuyinto engaba nomthelela omubi ekuzethembeni komuntu futhi ikwembule abanye abantu kungabizwa njengenselele.

Ngakho-ke, uma wena noshade naye nibhekene nezinkinga zocansi, kungaba ukulahleka kwe-libido, ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile, ukungafani kwezitho zobulili noma yini evimbela impilo yakho yezocansi, wenzani? Ngabe uyaqhubeka nokuhlala emshadweni ongenacansi, noma ubiza ubuhlobo bakho buyeke?

Awu, awudingi ukwenza noma yini efana naleyo. Ochwepheshe bezocansi bangakusiza. Hhayi kuphela ukuthi bazoxilonga futhi belaphe inkinga yakho, kodwa futhi bazobhekana nokwesaba kwakho ngokukhuluma ngakho.

Imvamisa, abelaphi bezocansi, ngokuya ngabashadikazi noma umuntu ababelaphayo, bathatha indlela engabakhululeka.

Ukungasho, empeleni abahluleli. Njengoba umsebenzi wabo ugxile ekusebenzelaneni nabantu abanezinkinga zocansi, akukho lutho olungabamangaza, kushiye kukodwa okuvusa ukwahlulela.

Umjikelezo wesazi - Ungamthola kanjani umelaphi wezocansi ohamba phambili?

Uma ungumuntu obhekene nezinkinga zocansi ebudlelwaneni babo, silungiselele isazi sokuthola ukuthi ungumelaphi wezocansi ongcono kanjani.

Ochwepheshe uqobo lwabo baveza izinyathelo okufanele uzilandele lapho ufuna umelaphi ofanele kakhulu kuwe.

UClinton Power Udokotela wezifo zengqondo

• Isici esibaluleke kakhulu lapho uzama ukuthola umelaphi wezocansi ongcono kakhulu ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umelaphi "une-sex". Igama elithi "ucansi-positive" lisho ukuthi umelaphi wakho unesimo sengqondo esihle ngezocansi futhi uzokuxhasa ekuzizweleni ngobunikazi bakho bobulili kanye nokuziphatha okuya ocansini ngokuvumelana.
• Uma usebenza nomelaphi wezocansi ocansini ungathembela ukuthi uzonikeza indawo engacabangi lapho ungaxoxa khona ngezinkinga zakho zocansi ngaphandle kwamahloni noma ukungabi namahloni.
• Indlela yokuthola ucansi ezindabeni zocansi ifaka phakathi izingxoxo zokuthi ungayilawula kanjani imvume, ukwethembeka, ukungasebenzisi abanye, izindinganiso okwabelwana ngazo, ukuvikelwa kwizifo zocansi / i-HIV kanye nokukhulelwa okungahlosiwe kanye nenjabulo ebudlelwaneni bakho bezocansi.

Bheka umelaphi “onohle ngokocansi” Tweet lokhu

UMike Umsebenzi wezingqondo zobungqingili

• Cacisa okufunayo emsebenzini, ngokwesibonelo, ngabe ufuna ukusebenza ngesimo, ukuqeqeshwa ngocansi, usizo olusebenzayo ngamasu, izingqinamba zobudlelwano noma ukuphulukiswa kwezindaba, njll.
• Thola uchwepheshe onerekhodi eliqinisekisiwe kulowo mkhakha.
• Ubufakazi bamakhasimende obuqinile bungaba buqinisekisa, kepha futhi kuhle ukubona ukuthi bake baba nakho yini ukusakazwa ngabezindaba. Ngabe banencwadi eshicilelwe ngomsebenzi wabo futhi? Zombili lezi yizimpawu ezinhle.

Thola owelapha onolwazi ekwelapheni inkinga onayo kuTwitter lokhu

UCyndi Darnell Umelaphi wezocansi nobudlelwano

• Yenza ucwaningo: Akubona bonke abelaphi abasebenza ngendlela efanayo. Umthombo wabo wewebhusayithi / wokudlulisela kufanele uveze amanani abo nolwazi lwabo. Ingabe babonakala bengeneka? Yini abanentshisekelo kuyo?
• Uma iwebhusayithi / incazelo yomelaphi ingakhulumi ngokuningiliziwe ngocansi, kepha i-add-on kuphela, cabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi abanalo ulwazi / ulwazi oluningi mayelana nobulili babantu ikakhulukazi. Yinkambu enkulu edinga ulwazi nekhono lobuchwepheshe.
• Uma bane-blog, yifunde. Funda okuningi ngabo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngokuvamile, abelaphi bezocansi abakutholi ukubuyekezwa okuningi okuku-inthanethi, ngoba ngokungafani nabalungisa izinwele, ngokwesibonelo, abantu bavame ukuzizwa benamahloni kakhulu okuthi babone umelaphi wezocansi - ngakho-ke ukubuyekeza kunzima ukukuthola.
• Ingabe basemithonjeni yezindaba? Funda ezinye izindatshana / izingcaphuno / bukela amavidiyo abo. Ingabe umyalezo wabo uyavumelana nawe?
• Uzizwa kanjani amathumbu akho ngabo?
• Ngabe ziyalondoloza noma zinenkululeko? Ingabe lokho kuthinta wena nomngane wakho womshado?
• Ingabe ingokomoya lingena emsebenzini wabo? Kanjani? Ingabe lokho kunendaba kuwe? Kanjani? Ukuqondanisa lapho kungasiza.
• Ukuqinisekisa kuyasiza kepha hhayi yonke into. Ukuba neziqu zobulili bomuntu noma ezempilo yezocansi kuyinkomba enhle yokuthi bafundele ubulili - hhayi nje ukwelashwa kwengqondo noma ukuqeqeshwa. Lokhu kwenza umehluko omkhulu kwikhwalithi yomsebenzi abawunikezayo
• Ekugcineni, cabanga ukuthi ufunani? Yini isitayela sabo? Ukuqeqesha? Ukwelashwa kokukhuluma? Ukwelashwa kwezobuciko? Okomzimba / Somatic? Konke? Akunjalo?

Chitha isikhathi ocwaningweni ngaphambi kokukhetha umelaphi wezocansi Tweet lokhu

URosara Torrisi Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• Iya ku-AASECT.org bese uthola ochwepheshe eduze kwakho. Umelaphi wezocansi kufanele abe yi-AASECT Certified noma abe ngaphansi kokuqondiswa ngqo.
• Ukuthola umelaphi wezocansi ongcono kakhulu, ungacinga ukubuyekezwa ku-inthanethi kepha ukuthunyelwa okuhle kakhulu isincomo esivela kumngane noma kudokotela, ikakhulukazi odokotela bengqondo, odokotela bezitho zomzimba, odokotela besifazane, abelaphi be-pelvic, kanye nama-endocrinologists.
• Uma uhlangana nomuntu oyedwa futhi bengachofozi nawe, kulungile, zama omunye umelaphi!

Ngaphambi kokuphothula umelaphi wezocansi qinisekisa ukuthi baqinisekisiwe Tweet this

Matty Isiliva Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• Uma ucabanga ukubona owelapha ngocansi, uwedwa noma nomlingani wakho, kubalulekile ukwenza ucwaningo oluthile futhi uhlole iziqu zakhe.
• Baningi abeluleki nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo abazibiza ngabelaphi bezocansi yize bengenakho ukuqeqeshwa okuqondile kokuthi babhekane kanjani nezindaba ezihlobene nezocansi noma nobulili.
• Enye yezinhlangano ezinkulu i-ASSER NSW i (Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers, and Therapists) inekhasi elithi 'Thola Abasebenza' lapho ungathola khona amagama abahlinzeka ngocansi abahlonishwa kakhulu.

Qiniseka ukuthi umelaphi wakho wezocansi uneziqu ezidingekayo Tweet lokhu

UKate Moyle Isazi sezengqondo nezobudlelwano

• Yenza ucwaningo lwakho. Ukwelashwa ngokwengqondo kuyigatsha lobuchwepheshe be-psychotherapy kepha abelaphi abaningi bangahle babhale ukuthi basebenza nezinkinga zocansi kanye nezinye izinkathazo noma izingcindezi.
• Bona ukuthi baqala yini ukuxoxa okokuqala. Abanye abelaphi bangakunika ukubonisana ngocingo ngaphambi kweseshini yokuqala, lokhu kuzokunikeza ithuba lokuchaza udaba lwakho futhi kukusize nganoma yimiphi imizwa yeseshini yokuqala uma usuyethule le ndaba.
• Cabanga nganoma yimiphi imibuzo onayo kusengaphambili futhi uma unemibono yokuthi kungani ucabanga ukuthi inkinga iyenzeka, bhala phansi.
• Qonda indlela abasebenza ngayo. Yize iTherapy Yokwelashwa Kobungqingili ngokwemvelo ididiyela futhi isebenza ngokuqonda ubuchopho, umzimba, imizwa, kanye ne-physiology esebenza ngokubambisana futhi kubhekelela nobulili bomuntu njengoba abelaphi abangabodwana kanye nabezomhlaba jikelele bencika endleleni ehlukile isb. i-psychodynamic lapho ukugxila okuyinhloko kumthelela wesikhathi esedlule njengamanje.
• Thola umuntu ozizwa ukhululekile ukukhuluma naye. Esigabeni sokuqala cabanga ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokukhuluma nalo muntu ngezocansi.

Cwaninga, thintana, uqonde indlela yezokwelapha ngaphambi kokuqhubekela phambili Tweet this

UJessa Zimmerman Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• Thola umuntu oqinisekisiwe ekwelashweni ngokocansi-Kubalulekile ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi umelaphi wakho ukufanelekela ngokuphelele ukukusiza ngezinkinga zocansi. Ukuqinisekiswa nge-AASECT kuqinisekisa ukuthi umelaphi unokuqeqeshwa, ulwazi, ukugadwa, kanye nekhono lokukusiza.
• Uma ungamtholi umuntu oqinisekisiwe, thola umuntu oqeqeshiwe nolwazi-Abanye abasebenza kancane basebenza ngenqubo yesitifiketi futhi basebenza ngaphansi kokuqondiswa; zingaba izinketho ezinhle kakhulu. Abanye banokuqeqeshwa nesipiliyoni kepha baqinisekiswa ngenye inhlangano noma banqume ukungatholi isitifiketi nhlobo. Qiniseka ukuthi ubuza ngoqeqesho oluthile abalutholile kwezocansi kanye nokwelashwa ngokocansi nokuthi umkhuba wabo ugxile kangakanani ekwelashweni ngocansi. Ungakhethi umuntu ngaphandle kokuqeqeshwa okunzulu kanye nesipiliyoni esiqondene nezinkinga zocansi.
• Buza imibuzo- Buza ukuthi basebenze isikhathi esingakanani. Buza ngemiphumela yabo nendlela abasebenza ngayo ezinkingeni zakho. Qiniseka ukuthi banobuchwepheshe ngokukhathazeka kwakho kokwethula.
• Thola ukuhanjiswa-Kungenzeka ukuthi uthole umelaphi omkhulu wezocansi usebenzisa usesho oluku-inthanethi, kepha uma unabangani, umndeni noma abahlinzeki bezokwelapha ungacela ukuthunyelwa, kungcono kakhulu.
• Khetha okulungele kahle-Funda iwebhusayithi yabo. Funda ibhulogi yabo futhi ubuke noma yimaphi amavidiyo. Iyini ithoni? Ingabe isitayela sabo siyavumelana nawe? Ingabe uthola umuzwa wenduduzo nokuqonda? Cabanga ukuhlela umhlangano omfushane noma iseshini yokuqala ukuze unqume ukuthi uzizwa ukhululeke kanjani nodokotela.

Thola umuntu oqeqeshiwe nesipiliyoni Tweet lokhu

UStephen Snyder Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• • Baqinisekiswe nge-AASECT, futhi banewebhusayithi ebukeka kahle.
  • Abashadile ngendlela ethile ethile noma isikole sokwelapha.
  • Bathanda kakhulu “lapha namanje” kunokuthi ubuntwana bakho babunjani.
  • Bakucela ukuthi uchaze ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi kwenzekani uma uya ocansini - embhedeni nasekhanda lakho!
  • Baxhumana ngokucacile. Bachaza ukuthi yini inkinga, futhi incazelo yabo inengqondo futhi iholela ohlelweni lokusebenza olunengqondo.
  • Uzizwa ungcono lapho ushiya ihhovisi labo kunangesikhathi uqala ukungena. Bakunikeza umuzwa wethemba.

Futhi, ungahle ube nentshisekelo ngevidiyo emfushane kakhulu.

Buza imibuzo bese ubheka umelaphi wezocansi ngaphambi kokuqala ukwelashwa Tweet this

UJocelyn KlugIsazi sezocansi

• Buza isazi sakho ngokujwayelekile noma uchwepheshe.
• Ukuthola umuntu ovunyelwe enhlanganweni kazwelonke.
• Ukuthola umuntu oke waqeqeshwa ngokuqeqeshelwa ukwelashwa / ukwelulekwa ngokobulili obufanayo.
• Bheka iziqinisekiso zokwelashwa. Iya ezinhlakeni ezibhalisiwe ezibaliwe. Umelaphi weGoogle
• Umuntu oneziqu ezifanele ze-undergraduate kwezempilo nempilo ehlangene, njengeMedicine, Nursing, Psychology, Counselling.
• Umuntu onomuzwa wokuthi ungakhululeka naye. Yiba nengxoxo emfushane yocingo nodokotela ngaphambi kokwenza i-aphoyintimenti, uma kungenzeka.

Izinto okufanele uzicabangele lapho ufuna umelaphi wezocansi Tweet lokhu

UMoushumi Ghose Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi akubona bonke abelaphi bezocansi abadalwe belingana.
• “Ochwepheshe bezocansi” abaningi abaqonde kahle, bangahlazisa abathengi ngokungaziphathi ngokuziphatha kwabo noma izinkolelo zabo ngoba imibono enganaki ubulili igxile kakhulu emphakathini wethu. Isibonelo esihle, ngabelaphi bemilutha yezocansi, umbono wabo onenkinga ngokwemvelo njengoba labo abasekela umsebenzi wabo kulokho okubhekwa njengokujwayelekile "noma okwejwayelekile, okubeka eceleni wonke umuntu ngenxa yezinguquko ezijwayelekile futhi ezenzakalelayo.
• Abelaphi abanesifiso sobulili basebenzela ukwephula umjikelezo wehlazo, ukusiza ukubhala kabusha izindaba ezenziwe umphakathi, nokulungisa umonakalo wale miyalezo.
• Kukhona i-niche engaphakathi kokwelashwa okubandakanya ezocansi: okungewona owesilisa oyedwa / i-polyamory / i-swinger, i-kink-friendly, i-BDSM, i-LGBTQ, njll.
• Ukwelashwa kwengqondo okuphathelene nocansi kuphatha wonke umuntu. Asibhekile ukwehlukanisa inkinga kumuntu. (ngokwesibonelo, ukwelapha izingqinamba ze-ED noma ze-Orgasm ngenkathi ubheka okuguqukayo kwezenhlalo namasiko.)

Funa umelaphi wezocansi ovumela "ubungqabavu kwezocansi" Tweet lokhu

UTom Murray Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• Bheka isitifiketi nge-American Association of Sex Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT). I-AASECT yinhlangano eqinisekisa uNdunankulu yochwepheshe bezempilo yezocansi.
• Buza imibuzo yakho yezokwelapha mayelana nendawo yakho yokukhathazeka. Uma usebudlelwaneni obuningi, ngokwesibonelo, buza mayelana nesipiliyoni sodokotela osebenza nobudlelwano be-poly. Okufanayo kuqinisile ngekink, i-BDSM, izinkinga zocansi, njalonjalo.
• Buza ngezimali. Yazi ukuthi intengo nekhwalithi azihlobene, noma kunjalo. Futhi, umuzwa wakho wokuzwa, uqondwe futhi uhlonishwe yizibikezelo ezinamandla kakhulu zenzuzo engaba khona.
• Buza ngomshwalense uma uwusebenzisa. Eminye imishwalense ngeke yamukele ukuxilongwa okuthile kokukhokha.
• Ochwepheshe bezocansi bavame ukuvuleka ngokungavamile, ukwamukela, ukukhululeka nokuzwela. Uma ungazizwa lezi, gijima! Ukwelashwa ngokocansi kufanele kube yindawo engenacala.

Yenza ucwaningo olunzulu ngaphambi kokukhetha umelaphi wezocansi Tweet lokhu

U-Isiah McKimmie Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• Qinisekisa ukuthi baneziqu ezanele.
• Qiniseka ukuthi uzizwa ukhululekile.
• Udokotela wakho kufanele anikeze 'umsebenzi wesikole'.
• Kufanele nabo babuze ngobudlelwano bakho.

Ukuthola umelaphi wezocansi ongcono kakhulu kumayelana nokuthola owelapha ngezocansi kuwe Tweet lokhu

UCarli Blau Ohlinzeka Ngocansi

• Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abantu abavami ukukhuluma ngokuya ekwelashweni, kepha lapho bebuzwa, abantu babonakala bezimisele ukuhlanganyela okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo - ikakhulukazi uma bebelusizo ohambweni lwabo / ekubambisaneni / ebudlelwaneni / emshadweni.
• Ngicabanga nokuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuxoxisana nodokotela. Ukwelashwa, ikakhulukazi ukwelashwa ngokocansi kungaba ubudlelwano obusondelene nobuchwepheshe obucabangayo ngalokho okuxoxwa ngakho futhi okusetshenzelwe kukho. Kubaluleke ngendlela emangalisayo ukuthi iklayenti (noma umbhangqwana) uzizwe ukhululekile ngomelaphi wawo, nokuthi umelaphi uzizwa sengathi angasiza iklayenti. Uma ungazizwa ukhululekile ukuvuleka, kulungile! Cabanga ngokuthola umelaphi onjengokuphola, kufanele uphole ukuze uthole umuntu okufunela wena, futhi okwaziyo ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho zobungcweti.

Thola umelaphi wezocansi okuqonda kahleTweet this

Ukwelashwa ngokocansi- Ukhiye wokuphila kocansi okwanelisayo, okungenazinkinga

I-crux yalokho ochwepheshe abakutusayo maqondana nokuthola umelaphi wezocansi ongcono kakhulu ukuthi ucwaningo olunzulu lubalulekile. Qiniseka ukuthi ukhetha owelapha onolwazi, umuntu okuqondayo futhi ozizwa ukhululekile ngaye. Okubaluleke kakhulu, umelaphi kufanele afanelekele ukwelashwa. Uma umelaphi wezocansi owuqedile ehlangabezana nalezi zindlela usuke usuya endleleni efanele.