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- Yini eyenza ubudlelwano bube 'nempilo'?
- Izinto eziningi zingalahla ibhalansi ebuhlotsheni
- Ukuzimela nokuncika izinhlangothi ezimbili zemali eyodwa
Cishe usibonile isithombe se-Instagram esihlelwe kabusha sobudlelwano obusha — bobabili abalingani banamathele ndawonye, abazi indawo ebazungezile, abanaki abangani babo, bakhuluma kuphela ngezimfanelo ezinhle zomunye nomunye. Lokho kungumbono wokunamathiselwe ngokweqile komunye nomunye, nokuzimela okuncane kakhulu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isifinyezo sobudlelwano besikhathi eside yiso esihlukaniswe ngokuphelele, sihleli ndawonye endaweni yokudlela ngaphandle kokukhuluma, sinyonyoba ebusuku ukuze sihleke nabangane bese sibuya ekhaya sizobukelana. Lokho kungumbono wokuzimela ngokweqile, ibanga elide kakhulu.
Zombili zizwakala kabi ngendlela yazo, akunjalo?
Yini eyenza ubudlelwano bube 'nempilo'?
Ngakho-ke ungamangala ukwazi ukuthi ubudlelwano obunempilo buqukethe okuncane kwakho kokubili. Ngezinye izikhathi, sidinga ukuphendukela komunye nomunye futhi sithole i-sappy encane, eswele kancane. Bese kuthi ngezinye izikhathi, sidinge ukuthi sikwazi ukubuyela emuva, sinakekele izidingo zethu kwenye indawo. Ibhalansi yemilingo yalezi zifundazwe zombili idala ubudlelwano obuzizwa buxhunyiwe futhi busondelene, kepha futhi buhleleke kahle futhi busebenza.
Sonke siyazi ukuthi akekho noyedwa umuntu ongaba yikho konke kithi — yize besizizwa kanjani ngalezo zinsuku zokuqala zothando. Ngenxa yalokhu, sidinga ukukwazi ukuzenza sizizwe silondekile futhi sijabule, ngaphandle kokulindela umlingani ukuthi asinikeze lawo mandla angaphakathi. Ngenkathi ngiqala ukusebenza nemibhangqwana, ngangibacindezela kakhulu ukuthola inkululeko.
Lapho bethi, “Ngibhekise kuwe ubungekho,” ngiphikise ngazibuza ukuthi bangaziphendukela kanjani ngokwabo ngaphezulu.
Ngokuhlangenwe nakho okwengeziwe, ngabona ukuthi lokho kwakunganele. Imibhangqwana eminingi iyaqhubeka nokwelashwa ibuza ukuthi “Kungani ngibona sengathi umlingani wami akanalo iqolo?” Ubudlelwano obuyisisekelo kufanele bube itheku lethu eliphephile, indawo esiphendukela kuyo ukuthola ukuthula nokusekelwa kanye nesisekelo sezingcindezi zempilo. Futhi sinelungelo lokucela ikhaya lethu ukuba libe yindawo yethu engokomzwelo. Kunengqondo ngokuphelele ukuthi udinga. Ngakho-ke manje ngisebenza kakhulu nemibhangqwana ekuhambeni naphambili phakathi kokujikela komunye nomunye nokufulathela. Futhi sisebenzela ukulunga ngezikhathi lapho sesaba khona, futhi sehluleka ukuthola ukulingana okulungile.
Izinto eziningi zingalahla ibhalansi ebuhlotsheni
Mhlawumbe umlingani wethu ukhohlisile, waqamba amanga, akalaleli, noma ubonakala ebeka phambili eminye imisebenzi ngesikhathi sethu sindawonye. Lapho kwenzeka ukuqhekeka futhi singazizwa siphephile futhi sivikelekile, sithambekele ekubambeleleni noma kude. Ukunamathela kubukeka njengokuphikisana, ucela kaningi isikhathi ndawonye, uzizwa ulimele kaningi futhi kalula, uba nomona. Ibanga liphawulwa ngokuvala, kwesinye isikhathi kunqabe ukukhuluma, ukuphuma kaningi, ukuba nobudlelwano, uzizwe ungenathemba futhi ungenalusizo. Kepha ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi zalezo zenzo umuzwa wokukhishwa inyumbazana nokuphelelwa yithemba. Ekugcineni, lapho indawo eyodwa esingaphendukela kuyo kuthando nothando izwa isengozini, kuyadabukisa.
Ukwelulekwa ngemishado kulezi zinsuku kuvame ukukholelwa ekutheni umuthi wokuzwa ubuhlungu kumlingani wakho ukuxhumana nawo — kunzima. Imibhangqwana iyanxuswa ukuba yehlise ulaka lomunye nomunye, ibhekane emehlweni, yenze imisebenzi eminingi ukuze izizwe isondelene. Futhi zonke lezo zinto zibalulekile — inqobo nje uma ziphikiswa impilo ephelele, ephelele ngaphandle komshado. Lokhu kuvumela umlingani ngamunye ukuthi azi ukubaluleka kwabo. Ukwazi ukuthi bafunani komunye. Ukwazi ukuthi abahlali ngenxa yokwesaba noma ngoba abacabangi ukuthi bangaphila ngaphandle komshado.
Ukuzimela nokuncika izinhlangothi ezimbili zemali eyodwa
Amanye amaklayenti ayesaba ukuthi uma enza uhlangothi olulodwa lwesikali azolahlekelwa ukubambelela kolunye. "Uma ngiqala ukuzenzela ukudla kwasekuseni futhi ngingabheki kuye ukuthi anginakekele, ngizoyeka ukudinga noma yini kuye." Noma "Uma ngimbuza ukuthi angincome, ngizothembela kakhulu kumfanekiso wakhe ngami."
Kepha iqiniso ukuthi kungenzeka, mhlawumbe noma kube lula, ukuthola ibhalansi. Sidinga okuncane kwalokhu, okuncane kwalokhu, nokunyakaza okuningi kuye emuva naphambili phakathi kwalokhu okubili. Kuwumdanso ongapheli. Kuhlala kunendawo yethu yokuthi sivale phansi, noma sisuke kude nabalingani bethu ukuze sizinakekele kangcono. Inqobo nje uma sikhumbula ukuthi kulungile ukubuya, futhi kulungile ukubadinga.