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- 1. Ukukhetha kuyisihluthulelo
- 2. Yiba umlingani ongcono
- 3. Ungafaki umbukiso
- 4. Yiba ngumlaleli ongcono: Ukuxhumana kuzolandela
- 5. Yiba khona: Okwedlule kuphelile, ikusasa lingalinda
- 6. Yiba nobugovu
- 7. Zijabulise kancane
Ake ngiqagele. Uthole isabelo sakho esifanele sobudlelwano obubi esikhathini esedlule futhi ulapha ukuthola ukuthi ungakushintsha kanjani lokho. Ufuna ukuthola nokwakha ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu owake waba nabo, kepha awazi ukuthi ungaqala kuphi.
Ngangiseduze?
Yebo, yona le ndatshana izoba yindawo enhle ongayiqala njengoba ubheka ukuthuthukisa izingqinamba zakho zokuba nobudlelwano obuthile emgqeni.
Landela lezi zeluleko bese uthola ukuthi inhlanhla yobudlelwano bakho iyashintsha ibe ngcono.
1. Ukukhetha kuyisihluthulelo
Njengoba ngithanda ukusho ukuthi ungaba nobudlelwano obumangalisayo nanoma ngubani omkhethayo, awukwazi. Izinhlobo zobuntu zingashayisana, izilimi zothando zingahunyushwa ngokungeyikho, futhi, ngaphandle kwephutha lakho, wena naleyo nsizwa noma intombazane “ephelele” niyibiza kanjalo. Isinyathelo sokuqala sokuthola ubudlelwano obumangalisayo ngokumane ukhethe abalingani abangcono.
Uma une-scumbags eningi noma abanye abalulekile abalandela esikhathini sakho esedlule, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uthathe uhlu lwezimpahla.
Thatha ipeni, iphepha elithile, futhi mhlawumbe nesiphuzo sakho osithandayo esidala. Lokhu kungahle kungabi kuhle, kepha kuyadingeka. Bhala phansi bonke abantu obangenisile empilweni yakho isikhathi esithile. Amathuba amahle ukuthi uzothola ingqikithi ejwayelekile phakathi kwamagama amakhulu ohlwini lwakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi awuzange uyibone leyo ngqikithi ngaphambili, kepha manje njengoba usunombono othile nomongo wokugqolozela lawo magama ngasikhathi sinye, ungawabona acace njengosuku.
Kungenzeka ukuthi kuvela isihloko esithi "guy in a band". Kungenzeka ukuthi ubungabaqambimanga abahle bokugula. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ikuphi okungenzeka kube kuwe nakumkhuba wakho wokukhetha umlingani, zinike isikhathi ubhale ukuthi umuntu onobuntu obuhlukile angabukeka kanjani. Hhayi ukusho ukuthi udinga ukujola nothile ohluke ngokuphelele, kepha ngokwakha isithombe somuntu okude kangaka kude nendawo yakho yokunethezeka ye-cupid, uzoqala ukuqondisa ukunaka kwakho kulokho ojwayele ukukufuna.
Lokhu kusebenza kumayelana nokwephula amaphethini. Kucace bha ukuthi uma ungahlanganyeli ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo nobunempilo, unamaphethini amabi uma kukhulunywa ngokukhetha umuntu ofanele. Nyakazisa izinto bese ubheka ngaphandle kwebhulebhu lakho elejwayelekile. Uzothola ukuthi umuntu “ongesiyona inhlobo yakho” yilokho kanye obukudinga.
2. Yiba umlingani ongcono
Ukukhetha umuntu ofanele ongachitha isikhathi sakho naye kuyisango ebudlelwaneni obukhulu, kepha uma ubambe iqhaza, kufanele futhi ubonise ngokuqaphela nangokungaguquguquki ukugcina lowo muntu ezungezile.
Uyakhumbula engakusho ngaphambili mayelana nokwephula amaphethini? Lapho usuphule amaphethini wakho we i-WHO uqala ubudlelwano, kubalulekile ukuthi ubhekisise Kanjani ungumlingani wakho.
Uma uke waba nobudlelwano obubi esikhathini esedlule, amathuba amahle ukuthi bekungelona iphutha lomunye umuntu ngokuphelele. Unomsebenzi ozowenzela umngani wami.
Ngiyethemba, awuzange ubeke ipeni nephepha lakho. Futhi, ngethemba ukuthi unesinye salezi ziphuzo emphemeni futhi ukulungele ukugeza lo msebenzi omncane ongathandeki. Ungakhululekile, kepha oh kubaluleke kakhulu, lokho.
Ngomuntu ngamunye ohluleke ukuthola injabulo naye, bhala phansi ukuthi ubambe iqhaza elingakanani ekuqothulweni kobudlelwano. Mhlawumbe ukhohlisile. Mhlawumbe wawunamathele. Mhlawumbe ubungathakazelisi ngokwanele.
Kukhona ifayela le- ithani ezintweni obungazenza ngokuhlukile, noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi unephutha noma cha. Uma ufuna ukuhlala uphika ngokungapheleli kwakho njengomlingani, kulungile. Vele ulungele ukuphinda inqubo yobudlelwano obunzima ozama ukuhlukana nabo.
Njengokubhala phansi abalingani bakho bakudala futhi uthole into ebixhume bonke, umbono otholakala ngokubhala phansi ubuthakathaka bakho kuzokwenza kucace ukuthi yini okudingeka usebenzele kuyo.
Ngiyaphinda, ungangeni kobunye ubuhlobo uze uthathe isikhathi sakho wedwa futhi usebenze kulokho okubonayo phambi kwakho. Iya kobonana nomelaphi futhi ukhulume ngayo uma udinga. Qasha umqeqeshi wempilo uma kuyinto yakho leyo. Funda ezinye izincwadi ezizokunikeza ukuqonda ngezindawo lapho ungasebenzisa khona ukukhula okuthile. Ngokuziphilisa kanye nezinye zezinkinga okungenzeka ukuthi ubambelele kuzo ngokunganakile, ungaba ngumlingani okhiqizayo kalula kumuntu ofuna ukukuthanda.
3. Ungafaki umbukiso
Esinye sezizathu ezinkulu zokuthi isigaba se-honeymoon siyisigaba nje kungenxa yokuthi abantu abaningi bangena kanjani ebudlelwaneni.
Senza konke esingakwenza ukujabulisa umlingani wethu omusha, kepha ngokwenza njalo, kaningi asibonisi amazwibela amaningi obuntu bethu beqiniso.
Siyamamatheka ngisho noma singeneme ngabo.
Sihleka amahlaya abo noma engahlekisi.
Sabeka umbukiso.
Ubuso bobabili obulethwa yibo bobabili ebudlelwaneni bukwenza kube nzima kabi ukukhula kwezothando. Uma wonke umuntu eletha uhlobo oluphelele ngokwedlulele etafuleni, amaphutha abo ekugcineni azongena ekukhanyeni.
Ukugwema ukubhidlika kokugcina kwalobu budlelwano obuhle, ziveze njengohlobo lwakho oluyiqiniso ngangokunokwenzeka. Iba ngumuntu okwenza ube ojabulisa kakhulu.
Uma lokho kusho ukufunda uHarry Potter futhi ucaphune Abangane noma nini lapho ungakwazi, kwenze!
Uma lokho kusho ukuthi awuyena umuntu wasekuseni futhi unengeka noma yini okuyiyo, yiba ngumnikazi wayo!
Uma ubeka phambili phambili, ukunqamula kuzoba kukhulu lapho ekugcineni uzokwambulelana ukuthi ungubani ngempela. Ngokuba ngu- kwangempela wena kusukela osukwini 1, uzothola umdlalo ongcono kuwe futhi mhlawumbe ube nobudlelwano obude, obanelisa kakhulu.
4. Yiba ngumlaleli ongcono: Ukuxhumana kuzolandela
Njengoba ufuna ukungena ebudlelwaneni bakho obulandelayo, zijwayeze amakhono akho okulalela kuqala. Yeka ukuzwa umlingani wakho ulalele nje.
Abantu abaningi bathi ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo esikhulu sobuhlobo bekhwalithi — futhi kunjalo — kodwa uma kufanele ugxile esicini esisodwa salokho, kwenze kulalele.
Abaningi bethu benza amaphutha ohlangothini lwethu lokuziqhenya futhi abachithi isikhathi bezwelana nozakwethu lapho kunengxabano. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukulalela abakushoyo, ukuthi bakusho kanjani, nolimi lwabo lomzimba ngenkathi luphuma emlonyeni wabo. Musa nje ukulinda isikhathi sakho sokukhuluma, sisebenzise kahle!
Ngokuba ngumlaleli ongcono, uzokhuluma ngamagama acashile namagama okungenzeka ukuthi uphuthelwe ukube awulalelanga kangako. Lokhu ekugcineni kuzokwenyusa ibha yokuxhumana kwakho, kwenze ubuhlobo bakho buqine kunakuqala.
5. Yiba khona: Okwedlule kuphelile, ikusasa lingalinda
Le nugget encane ingaqhunyiselwa enkulumweni yezenhlalo namasiko uqobo, kepha ngezinjongo zalesi sihloko, ake sigxile ebudlelwaneni.
Uhlangana nomuntu, akunikeze izimvemvane, bese ingqondo yakho iqala ukubhala inoveli yendaba yakho yothando.
Ngokuvamile, uhlangana nomuntu omusha, bakwenza umomotheke, kepha futhi bakukhumbuza ngesidala ukuthi awukakudedeli okwamanje.
Kunoma ikuphi, awukho ngokwanele ukuzwa nokujabulela ubudlelwano obuhleli phambi kwakho.
Esikhundleni sokukhumbula izifungo zakho zomshado ekhanda lakho, vele ujabulele umzuzu ngamunye wosuku lwakho lwesithathu.
Esikhundleni sokuchitha ubusuku bonke ubona ukuthi intokazi yakho entsha ifana kanjani nenkosikazi yakho yangaphambili, yiba khona futhi ujabulele ukuxhumana nalo muntu ohluke ngokuphelele.
Lapho ubuyela kakhulu ekubeni khona ngangokunokwenzeka, ubudlelwane bakho buzokhula ngokwengeziwe.
Khohlwa ngezinhlelo zomshado uze wazi ukuthi uzobashada kusasa uma ukwazi.
Vumela ukudlula kwakho kwangaphambilini ungene lapha manje.
Susa ingcindezi ngekusasa elimangalisayo olidalile, futhi unciphise ukucindezeleka kwesikhathi esedlule okukulimazayo.
Cwilisa ezikhathini ohleli kuzo njengamanje. Nakanjani uzothola eziningi zazo ngokwazi kwakho ngakunye.
6. Yiba nobugovu
Manje kunelayisi lezeluleko okungenzeka awuboni nsuku zonke.
Izingoma eziningi zothando nochwepheshe bezobudlelwano bazokutshela ukuthi kufanele uzinikele kumlingani wakho. Ngokuvamile, lo akuwona umqondo omubi. Lapho uvuleka ngokwengeziwe, uthembekile futhi unothando, kuba ngcono. Uma kunjalo, nikela konke ongakwenza kumyeni wakho noma kunkosikazi wakho.
KODWA ... futhi lokhu kukhulu kodwa, yingakho ofeleba ... unganikeli ngawe kude uze ukhohlwe ukuthi ungumuntu onjani.
Yize umlingani ngamunye ebudlelwaneni kufanele azibophezele komunye nomunye, nabo badinga ukuzibophezela ekwenzeni isikhala sabo.
Ukhiye wobudlelwano obuhle kakhulu ubuhlobo onabo nawe. Uma wena, njengomuntu, unyamalele futhi waba “Unkosikazi kaJon” noma “Umyeni kaMary,” sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ube nobugovu ngokwengeziwe.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uphume emshadweni wakho noma ungamhloniphi oshade naye nganoma iyiphi indlela, kepha kufanele okungenani udale isikhala sesikhathi esithile sokuthi "mina".
Iya esitolo sokudla bese ufunda incwadi enhle ngenkomishi yekhofi eshisayo.
Joyina iligi yebhola lezinyawo nabangane bakho.
Thatha isigaba.
Funda ikhono elisha.
Thola okuthile okungaba ngokuphelele eyakho.
Ngokuthola isikhathi nendawo yokuzinakekela, ungabonisa ukufeza okuningi ebudlelwaneni bakho. Uma uhlala njalo usebenza noma usebenza kumyeni noma unkosikazi wakho, uzothola ukuthi ubunikazi bakho buqala ukushelela.
Ingabe wena nomlingani wakho niyathandana futhi nakha isikhala ukuze nithintane nokuthi niyini. Yiba nobugovu.
7. Zijabulise kancane
Uma usuqedile ukusebenza kanzima, phumula futhi ujabule nabantu ozibandakanya nabo. Kaningi ngibona abantu befaka ingcindezi engafanele kubona noma kubalingani babo ngenxa yengcindezi yomphakathi noma okulindelwe.
Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi uzoshada nini. Ungakhathazeki ngokuthi ulale nabantu abangaki. Ungavumeli lelo washi lengane liqale ukukitaza lapho usenezinyanga ezi-3 nithandana.
Yiba khona futhi ujabulele umzuzu ngamunye nomunye. Konke okunye kuzowela endaweni ngesikhathi esifanelekile. Ukuphoqa udaba kuzodala kuphela ukungezwani okuzoholela ekwehleni kwentukuthelo nokuphikisana.
Kick back, uphumule, futhi ujabulele ukugibela.
Ukuba ne-movie enjengothando akungeke kwenzeke, kepha kungazwakala sengathi kunjalo uma ungazimisele ukubheka umsebenzi odingekayo ukwakha ubudlelwano obunjalo. Ukukhetha umlingani ofanele kuyisihluthulelo, kepha ngakho-ke ukwazi ukunika lowo mlingani konke okubafanele. Sebenza ngokwakho kuqala, bese uphuma uye emhlabeni unikeze uthando osukulungele ukusabalalisa.
Uma usuthole lokho, vumela konke kuwele endaweni. Awukwazi ukulwa nemvelo, ngakho-ke jabulela izikhathi lapho uzidala.