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- 1. Khuluma kabanzi
- 2. Thembela ulalele
- 3. Njalo bheka uhlangothi lomunye
- 4. Yiba nokusondelana kakhudlwana
- 5. Phuma kaningi
- 6. Ningabangane abakhulu
Uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano, kuhlale kunendawo yokwakha okuningi. Akunandaba ukuthi buhle kangakanani ubudlelwano bakho bamanje, hlala ukhumbula ukuthi izinto zingaba ngcono kakhulu kunalokho eziyikho. Sonke siyazi ukuthi akunzima ukuthola iziphakamiso zokuzithuthukisa.
Singaguqula isimo sethu sengqondo, sinciphise isisindo, sinciphise imikhuba emibi - futhi kunezinqwaba zezincwadi nezindatshana maqondana nokuzisiza - kepha kuthiwani ngezeluleko mayelana nobudlelwano esinabo nabalingani bethu?
Ake sihlole ezinye zalezi zingcezu zezeluleko lapha ku-athikili elandelayo futhi sifunde ukwenza ubuhlobo bube ngcono esinabo nabalingani bethu.
Indlela obubona ngayo ubudlelwano nomlingani wakho ekugcineni iyindlela ophila ngayo. Isipiliyoni sesipiliyoni enihlanganyele ndawonye ebudlelwaneni sinikeza ifomu, futhi nguwe kuphela onganquma ukubaluleka kwemibono nemicabango yakho ebheka umhlaba okuzungezile.
1. Khuluma kabanzi
Ukuxhumana kudlala indima ebalulekile kunoma yiluphi udaba lomuntu. Lapho sisebudlelwaneni, amagama ethu agcwala kakhulu ngemizwa nokuzwela.
Abanye abantu bayesaba ukukhipha le mizwa nabalingani babo futhi esikhundleni salokho bayeke bakhule ngaphakathi kubo, kubangele ukukhungatheka nokukhathazeka ekugcineni.
Iyiphi enye indlela esingazisa ngayo ophathina bethu ukuthi sizizwa kanjani ngaphakathi ngaphandle kokukhuluma nabo? Ngokugcina ukuxhumana okuthembekile okuhlala njalo nabalingani bethu, senza ngokuzenzakalela ubudlelwane bethu nabo ngokungazi.
2. Thembela ulalele
Kuhle njalo ukwazi ukuthi ungagcina umuntu ohleli eceleni kwakho. Yazisa lowo muntu lokhu, zama ukusabalalisa yonke injabulo nokujabula egumbini lapho unabo. Thembela futhi ubalalele.
Sonke sifuna umuntu ongasizwa, futhi asihlukile kakhulu kulesi sici kunabalingani bethu.
Uma ulalela umuntu onobudlelwano naye, uzothumela umyalezo kubo ubatshela ukuthi ubakhathalele ngokweqiniso nokuthi uyabakhathalela. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuthi uma ufuna ukuba yisikhulumi esihle, kufanele ube isilaleli esihle kuqala, njengoba uDale Carnegie akubeka kahle. Buza umlingani wakho ukuthi belunjani usuku lwabo, buza ngezinto ezijwayelekile ezingasho lutho futhi ubazise ukuthi unendaba nokwenza ubuhlobo bakho bube ngcono.
3. Njalo bheka uhlangothi lomunye
Kufanele uzimisele ukubona uhlangothi lwabo. Musa ukuthi cha kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha okungase kuphakanyiswe umlingani wakho. Ubudlelwano obujabulisayo buhlala buphawuleka ngokuqondana okuhle komunye nomunye. Zama ukucabanga ngobudlelwano njengesivumelwano phakathi kwamazwe. Ukuze izwe ngalinye liphumelele, izinqubomgomo kufanele ziqondwe yizwe ngalinye.
Ubudlelwano benziwa busekele, nokusiza abalingani abakubo bathole insika yokwesekana komunye nomunye lapho kuvela izithiyo empilweni noma ezinye izingxabano.
4. Yiba nokusondelana kakhudlwana
Iyiphi indlela engcono yokukhombisa uthando lwakho kumlingani wakho kunombhede? Ukusondelana kufakazelwa ukwenza ubuhlobo bube ngcono. Imizimba yethu ikhipha ama-hormone athinta ngqo indlela esizizwa ngayo ngomuntu futhi aqinise isibopho esinaso naye.
Ukuqala ukusondelana embhedeni kukhombisa abalingani bakho ukuthi uyabafuna nokuthi bayathandwa.
Ubudlelwano obujabulisayo baziwa ukuthi buphakathi kwabalingani izinga elihle kakhulu lolwazi olusondelene komunye nomunye, okwenza ubudlelwane babo bube ngcono kunalabo abangajabule.
5. Phuma kaningi
Ugcine nini ukudla isidlo sakusihlwa edolobheni elihle? Noma uye kuma-movie? Noma vele uphume uyehambahamba epaki? Qalisa ukuphuma ebusuku.
Uma usebudlelwaneni obuhlala isikhathi eside futhi “ubonakala” ukhohliwe ngomhlaba wangaphandle, zama ukuduna indawo okuhlala kuyo umlingani wakho kusihlwa bese ubakhipha nosuku edolobheni, njengoba nje ubujwayele ukwenza ngenkathi uqala uxhunyiwe. Ukwenza izinto ngokujwayelekile kuvusa uthando futhi uma uqhubeka nokuzenza, kuzokwenza ubudlelwane bakho bube ngcono.
Ukuba sebudlelwaneni akusho ukuthi ukhohlwa indlela yokuzijabulisa. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ningabangane abakhulu, futhi nikhuluma ngabangane abakhulu ...
6. Ningabangane abakhulu
Ungalokothi ukhohlwe lokhu. Uma usebudlelwaneni nomuntu njalo kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi ngaphezu kwakho nobabili ningabangane abakhulu, futhi yibo lobo budlelwano obuphumelele kakhulu. Futhi abangane abakhulu bayazijabulisa, banakekelane futhi bayazwana. Ukuba ngabangane abakhulu kwenza ubuhlobo bakho bube ngcono futhi bujabulise.