-Delile
- 1. Lindela izinto ezingokoqobo
- 2. Yazi ukuthi ulimaza bani
- 3. Bhala okushiwo ofuna ukukusho
- 4. Qeda indaba yakho
- 5. Ungavumi ukuhlangana “nokuvalwa”
- 6. Khomba izifiso zakho ukuvimbela izindaba ezizayo
- 7. Thola eminye imithombo yenjabulo
- 8. Tshela umlingani wakho
- 9. Sebenzela ukonga ubudlelwano bakho
- 10. Zibophezele kaningi ekuqedeni
Uma usebudlelwaneni obungemthetho ngaphandle komshado wakho wake wazibuza ukuthi ungayeka kanjani ukuthandana nesikhathi esithile. Izinto ziyajabulisa ngokwemvelo futhi zivame ukukunika ukuzethemba nemizwa yokulangazelela entula emshadweni wakho. Kodwa-ke, zibuye zigcwale umuzwa wecala nemizwa elimazayo kubo bonke abathintekayo.
Ukuphela kocansi akulula futhi akuhlali kushesha njengokusho ukuthi 'Kuphelile' - kepha ungagqashula kulokho kulutha kwakho. Nazi izinyathelo okufanele uzithathe ukuqeda udaba lwakho ngesithunzi bese ubuyisela inhliziyo yakho emshadweni wakho.
1. Lindela izinto ezingokoqobo
Ukuqeda indaba kunzima. Lapho usuthathe isinqumo sokuthi ufuna ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni bakho bokuphinga kubalulekile ukuthi ube nokulindela okungokoqobo. Lindela ukuthi uzizwe uphatheke kabi futhi unecala kubo bobabili owayethandana nabo noshade naye. Lindela ukuzwa ukulahleka kwazo zonke izimfanelo isithandwa sakho ebinazo ozizwe sengathi umlingani wakho untula. Lindela ukuzwa intukuthelo, ukudabuka kwenhliziyo, intukuthelo, ukudabuka, nokuzwela.
2. Yazi ukuthi ulimaza bani
Uma usuzophela ukuthandana, izingqinamba wazi kahle ukuthi ngubani onomuzwa wokuthi uzolimala kule nqubo. Wena uqobo, isithandwa sakho, nomngane wakho womshado. Kodwa-ke, lobu buhlungu bungadlulela ngale kwalawa maqembu amathathu. Izingane ezivela emshadweni wakho ziyohlukumezeka futhi ziphikisane uma zingase zizwe ngodaba lwakho, umndeni kanye nomndeni wakini uzolimala futhi uthukuthele, futhi abangane bangazizwa bethengisiwe.
3. Bhala okushiwo ofuna ukukusho
Kungasiza ukubhala phansi ukuvalelisa kwakho ngaphambi kokuqeda indaba yakho. Ukuqeda indaba kuyisikhathi esinzima ngokomzwelo futhi ungahle wethuke lapho usesikhathini. Njengoba ubhale kahle ukuhlukana ngaphambi kwesikhathi kungakusiza uhlanganise imicabango yakho futhi unqume ukuthi yimaphi amaphuzu ofuna ukuwenza ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa. Yenza amaphuzu akho acace futhi abe nobuchule.
Izitatimende ezichazayo zingukhiye. Ungasoli ukwahlukana kumngane wakho womshado. Ungasebenzisi amabinzana afana nokuthi "Ngiyakuthanda, kodwa ngikweleta umyeni / unkosikazi wami ukusebenzela umshado wethu." Lokhu kuzonikeza indaba yakho nethemba lokuthi bangakwazi ukufaka kabusha isithombe ngoba usabathanda. Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzisa amabinzana namagama isithandwa sakho esingenakuphikisana nawo, njengokuthi “Angifuni ukuba kulobu budlelwano” noma “Lesi akusona isimo esihle kimi.”
4. Qeda indaba yakho
Musa ukuhlehlisa. Kungabonakala kulingeka ukuhlehlisa ukuqeda udaba lwakho. Mhlawumbe unosuku lokuzalwa nesithandwa sakho esiza, noma bebekhathazeke kakhulu emsebenzini muva nje. Kungakhathalekile ukuthi zinjani izimo, ungalokothi uhlehlise ukuqeda udaba lwakho ukuze wenze kube lula ukuthi uzoba ngumlingani wakho maduze. Ukuzindela kungakwenza ulahlekelwe yisibindi. Lapho usukulungele ukuqeda indaba yakho kufanele ukwenze manje.
Ungazizwa sengathi kufanele uqede ubuhlobo bakho ubuso nobuso. Lo akuyena umuntu oshade naye futhi awukweleti lo muntu ukuhlukana phakathi kwabantu. Uma kukhona, ukwehlukana ubuso nobuso kunganciphisa ukuzimisela kwakho ukusebenzela umshado wakho.
5. Ungavumi ukuhlangana “nokuvalwa”
Uluqedile udaba lwakho futhi uzizwa kamnandi, kodwa-ke lowo owawungumlingani wakho ucela ukuhlangana ukuze athole ukuvalwa. Uma uzimisele ngokuqeda indaba yakho ngeke unikeze kulesi silingo sokuhlangana. Lokhu kungaholela emzuzwini wobuthakathaka lapho uqala khona udaba lwakho. Zibophezele ekuqedeni lobu budlelwano bese ubugcina ngabo.
6. Khomba izifiso zakho ukuvimbela izindaba ezizayo
Zihlole ngobuqotho bese uthola kabusha ukuthi yini oyidingayo kumngane wakho womshado obukade ukufuna komunye umuntu. Yini okufunayo nezifiso zakho kumlingani wakho? Vocalize lezi zidingo ukuze uvikele ukushelela okuzayo.
7. Thola eminye imithombo yenjabulo
Abanye abantu bahlanganyela ezindabeni zomshado owengeziwe ngoba imfihlo ethintekayo idala isasasa. Lapho indaba yakho isiphelile ungazizwa sengathi enye injabulo ishiye impilo yakho. Thola eminye imithombo ukuze ujabulise futhi uphinde uzibandakanye njengokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukujaha umsebenzi wakho wephupho, noma ukwenza umdlalo wokuzilibazisa omusha noma umdlalo.
8. Tshela umlingani wakho
Le ngenye yezingxenye ezinzima kakhulu zokuqeda indaba nokulawula impilo yakho emuva: ukutshela umlingani wakho. Uma bengazi vele, kungcono ukuphumela obala nomlingani wakho ngokungathembeki. Ungazizwa sengathi kufanele wabelane ngemininingwane ngayinye eyenzakalisayo, kepha ungayibukeli phansi leyo ndaba. Khumbula ukuthi waphambuka ngoba kukhona okwakonakele ebudlelwaneni bakho obukhona manje, ngakho-ke unecala wena nomlingani wakho lokukhipha konke etafuleni ukuze nibe nobudlelwano obuqotho. Lokhu kungaholela ekuqedweni kobuhlobo bakho noma kungasho ubudlelwane obuqinile ngokuzayo.
9. Sebenzela ukonga ubudlelwano bakho
Uma umlingani wakho ezimisele, sebenzela ukonga umshado wakho. Lesi yisikhathi esibuhlungu kunoma imuphi umshado futhi imibhangqwana eminingi iyazuza ekwelashweni kokungathembeki nakwindaba yokwelulekwa ngemishado. Ungahle ubheke phambili ekuxhumaneni kabusha nomngane wakho womshado, kodwa qonda ukuthi bangase bangabi umuntu ofanayo lapho bethola ngodaba lwakho. Sebenzisa ukubekezela nokuqonda futhi unikele ngakho konke ukuze usindise umshado wakho.
10. Zibophezele kaningi ekuqedeni
Njengoba imizwa nokuzithokozisa ngokocansi kungena endabeni yakho ungaqala ukuzizwa ukhathazekile ngomlingani wakho oyimfihlo. Ngandlela thile, indaba yakho isiphenduke umlutha futhi njengazo zonke izidakamizwa, kunzima ukuyiyeka noma ngabe uyiqedile ngamazwi. Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uzincome ngokwakho ukuze uyiqede nsuku zonke.
Lapho nithandana, ukukuqeda ngobuqotho kungaba nzima, kepha asikho isizathu sokukuhlehlisa. Izindaba zinzima kubo bonke abathintekayo futhi zingathwala izibazi iminyaka eminingi ngemuva kokuthi ziphelile, kodwa uzozizwa ukhululeke kakhulu uma sekuphelile futhi ungabuyisela impilo yakho ezandleni zakho.