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- Kungani ukuthethelela kubalulekile
- Bheka okuhle
- Zwelana nomunye
- Khuluma ukuze uthole usizo
- Amathiphu wokuthi ungayilungisa kanjani intukuthelo emshadweni
Ukuthethelelwa kwangempela ebudlelwaneni kunomthelela ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo nobunempilo. Uthando nentethelelo kuhlangene.
Kulabo abafuna izimpendulo ezicacile zombuzo, kuyini ukuxolelwa nokuthi kungani kubalulekile, masikubhekane nakho - akekho umuntu ophelele. Intethelelo imayelana nokukhombisa ukuzimisela ukwamukela ukuthi ungumuntu futhi ungalimala futhi uzizwe ulimele.
Kungakho ukuthethelelwa kuyinto esemqoka yokwenza noma yibuphi ubuhlobo bube nempilo futhi buphumelele. Imibhangqwana ekholelwa ukuthi abangane bayo bomphefumulo izolingana nezimpilo zayo zesikhathi esizayo kanye nokulindelwe okufana negilavu kulokudana okukhulu.
Ngezansi komugqa, bazobona ukuthi bobabili abalingani babophekile nakanjani ukuba benze amaphutha futhi balimaze omunye.
Ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi sibayeke? Uma ufuna ukujabulela umshado ohlala njalo nomuntu omthandayo nomazisayo, khona-ke ukugxilisa nokukhula emandleni ethu okuxolela kubalulekile. Khumbula ukuthi uthando nokuxolelana kuyahambisana.
Lokho kucela umbuzo, ukuthi ungakuyeka kanjani okwedlule uphinde uthembe futhi?
Kungani ukuthethelela kubalulekile
Ngaphambi kokwethula ukuthi singakwenza kanjani ukuthethelela ebudlelwaneni noma emshadweni, ake sibheke eminye yemiphumela yokubamba igqubu.
- Kwengeza ukufutheka nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni
- Kuvimbela amandla ethu okujabulela nokuphila okwamanje
- Kwengeza emazingeni ethu okukhathazeka nokudangala
- Iyasinqamula kokunye
Ngakho-ke, kungani ukuthethelela kubalulekile?
“Uma ungaxoleli, kungenzeka kube nguwe okhokha kakhulu”
Yize sikwazi konke lokhu futhi sikholelwa ukuthi kubalulekile ukuxolela nokudedela, kungenzeka kungabi lula kangako. Iningi labantu, ngisho nalabo abazimisele ukuthethelela futhi bakhohlwe, abanalwazi lokuthi baxolela kanjani futhi baqhubeke.
Ngabe lokho kusho ukuthi umuntu kufanele aqhubeke akhohlwe, ahlale phansi futhi amelane nokuhlukunyezwa? Vele akunjalo! Nazi ezinye izindlela nezindlela ezifakazelwe ezizokusiza ukuthi uyeke futhi uxolele umuntu okukhohlisile.
Kwesinye isikhathi, kumayelana nemibono.
Kwabanye, ukuthi baxolela kanjani umuntu ngokukopela akuwona umbuzo, njengoba bethatha isinqumo sokuqeda lobu budlelwano ngenxa yokungathembeki nokulimala ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo kusho ukuphela kobudlelwano babo ngokuzenzekelayo. Ukuthethelela ebudlelwaneni kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza.
Kwabaningi, ukukopela ebudlelwaneni kungenye yezingqinamba ezinzima kakhulu kumlingani ongakhohlisi nokukhetha okunzima ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni nomlingani okopelayo.
Noma kungaba yinto yokugcina ongafuna ukuyenza, ikakhulukazi ezimweni lapho uzizwa khona ukuthi woniwe ngokujulile, gxila kweminye yemiphumela emihle yalesi siqephu.
Yikuphi ukuthatha okubalulekile obe nakho kuwe?
Lapho ushintsha umbono wakho futhi usebenzisa lolo lwazi ukuziqoqela izifundo ezibalulekile, bese uthola impendulo yombuzo, ukuthi uzobalela kanjani umlingani okopelayo kuzoba lula.
Zama ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomlingani wakho.
Zama ukuqonda lokho abadlule kukho, noma ukuthi kungani kungenzeka ukuthi bakwenzile lokho ngenkathi beshiya intukuthelo emshadweni. Hlaziya uma ngabe wake wenza iphutha elifanayo esikhathini esedlule.
Zama okusemandleni akho ukucabanga ngezimfanelo zabo ezinhle; konke lokhu kungakusiza uqonde ukuthi bekungeyona inhloso yabo ukukuzwisa ubuhlungu. Mhlawumbe, babhekene nezinkinga zabo ezingahlangene nakancane nawe.
Icebo elihle kakhulu lokuthi ungamxolela kanjani umuntu oqhubeka ekulimaza - ungalaleli izwi lakho langaphakathi eligxeka ngokweqile; zama futhi uzwele ngokusemandleni akho.
Uma isenzo esonayo sozakwethu besilimaza ngokweqile, njengasesimweni sokukopela, ukuyeka ukuhamba uqhubeke nobudlelwano kuba nzima kakhulu.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, kungcono ukukhuluma nomuntu osondelene naye noma uthole usizo lochwepheshe ukuze uzulazule kangcono imizwa yakho njengoba ulwa nokuthethelela nokuyeka.
Ngale ndlela uzokwazi ukuthola ukwesekwa okukufanele ukuze uzisize ngale nqubo futhi wakhe amakhono adingekayo ekwenzeni ukuthethelela.
Lapho ulimele, konke ofuna ukukwenza ukukhala noma ukukhala.
Ukuzama ukuthethelela kungaba yinto yokugcina engqondweni yakho. Kepha zinike isikhathi futhi uzokwazi ukuthi kungani kubalulekile ukukhipha ingcindezi yesikhathi esedlule, uyeke ukuxolela - konke kuzuze wena. Zama lawa macebo okuxolela emshadweni ubone ukuthi akusiza kanjani ukuthi ukhule njengomuntu.
Buka futhi:
Ukuthukuthela emshadweni noma ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside kungumbulali othule osongela ukuqhubeka kobuhlobo bakho.
Nawa amathiphu ambalwa okwenza umshado wakho usebenze uma intukuthelo yonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho.
- Sukulawula i-elf nokuphathwa kwemizwa yakho zibaluleke kakhulu lapho ufuna ukuzijwayeza ukuxolelana ebudlelwaneni futhi welaphe emanxebeni okungathembeki.
- Yazi lokho ukuxolela ebudlelwaneni akufani nokuvumela ukuziphatha okubi komlingani wakho okopelayo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuthethelelwa ebudlelwaneni kuyinkomba yokukhula njengezithandani, nekusasa elingenamagqubu nentukuthelo.
- Gwema ukuhoxa ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba, futhi uthathe igxathu eliya phambili lokwamukela uzwela, uthando nemikhuba yokuxhumana enempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho.
- Ungavumeli ukunganaki kukhule futhi kunciphise umthwalo wakho. Njengokuqhubeka kokuxolelana ebudlelwaneni, gxila ekwelapheni esikhathini esifushane ngokungabambeleli emizweni elimele isikhathi eside.
Ukubamba amagqubu ebudlelwaneni kuyinkomba yokuzijezisa wena hhayi owakwakho kuphela. Ngakho-ke, yeka ukuthunjwa emizweni yakho engemihle.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukwamukela ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bunemifantu, futhi bunamandla okulimaza ubuhlobo bakho kubalulekile ekwenzeni ukuthethelelana ebudlelwaneni, bese uqala kabusha. Sebenzisa lesi siqeshana esirhabaxa njengesisekelo sokuqinisa ukuxhumana kwakho noshade naye, futhi wakhe izitayela zokunamathisela ezinempilo.