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Ngaphandle kokuzijwayeza, ukwazi ukuba yindoda nenhloko yomndeni kungabonakala njengomsebenzi onzima. Ngisho nalabo asebeshade iminyaka eminingana, ukukwazi ukuhola nokukhuthaza owakwakho nomndeni wakho kungaba nzima. Kwabanye, ukuguquka kusuka ekubeni ongashadile kuya ekubeni oshadile kuza ngokwemvelo futhi kuyinto ebushelelezi uma kuqhathaniswa. Kwabanye, noma kunjalo, lolu shintsho lungaba yinselele. Lapho ulungiselela umshado noma uzama ukubandakanyeka ngokwengeziwe njengendoda, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ama-4 A: ukunakwa, ukuvuma, ukuzivumelanisa nezimo, nothando.
1. Ukunakwa
Ukulalelisisa oshade naye kungaba ushintsho olunzima kakhulu kumyeni. Amadoda amaningi asebenzise izimpilo zawo zabantu abadala njengezanele ngokwabo, ngakho-ke ukwenza ushintsho ekunikezeni ukunaka kwakho kumlingani wakho esikhundleni sezidingo zakho kungaba yinselele. Kodwa ukunaka oshade naye kungawukhulisa kakhulu umshado wakho. Uzakwethu ozizwa ehlonishwa futhi ethandwa futhi enakekelwa uzohlanganyela ngokugcwele ebudlelwaneni futhi abuyisele ukunakwa okuboniswayo. Ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane, ukuqaphela kanye nokucabangela izidingo kungasiza kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba phakathi kwakhe nowakwakhe. Ukuhola njengendoda kufanele kufake ukunaka ngoba kunikeza isibonelo ezinganeni nakwabanye ukuthi umlingani kufanele aphathwe kanjani.
2. Ukwamukelwa
Yize kungafakwa njengengxenye yokulalelisisa, ukwazisa umlingani wakho kubalulekile empilweni yobuhlobo bakho nakwindima yakho yobuholi. Cabanga ngomphathi onethonya kakhulu oseke waba naye emkhakheni wakho womsebenzi. Lapho kubhekwa isitayela sobuholi balo muntu, ukwamukela imibono nokufeza okuthile kwamanye amandla kungakhonjiswa yilo muntu. Ngokufanayo, njengomholi emshadweni wakho kubalulekile ukubona imibono, imicabango nemibono yoshade naye njengebalulekile ebudlelwaneni. Ungahle ungavumelani ngaso sonke isikhathi noma nibonane, kepha umholi olungile uzimisele ukubeka eceleni ukungaboni ngaso linye ukuze anikeze isikhuthazo kwabanye. Ngokwazisa oshade naye, ukhombisa ukuthi izwi lakho akulona lodwa elizwakala ebudlelwaneni. Esikhundleni salokho, kungokubambisana lapho imibono emihle kakhulu izovela khona.
3. Ukuzivumelanisa nezimo
Vumelana nezimo! Ikakhulukazi kubayeni abasha, ukuguquguquka nemisebenzi ejwayelekile neyansuku zonke kungaba nzima kakhulu. Uma ujwayele ukwenza izinto ngendlela ethile ngisho nengxenye encane yempilo yakho yokuba mdala, ukushintsha leyo ndlela kungaba ngumsebenzi impela. Qala ngezinto ezincane, futhi uhlale uvulekele ukushintsha. Kubo bobabili abashadile, ukufunda ukuzivumelanisa nemikhuba yomunye nomunye kuthatha isikhathi futhi kudinga ukuqonda. Impilo ayihambi njalo ngokohlelo, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi ujwayele ukuzijwayeza ukuguquguquka. Ukuzimisela ukuguquguquka futhi uvulele ushintsho kunganciphisa ingcindezi ebudlelwaneni futhi kuvumele umshado wakho uphumelele. Hola ngesibonelo futhi uzimisele ukuzivumelanisa nezinguquko impilo ephonsa indlela yakho.
4. Uthando
Okokugcina futhi impela, akubalulekile ukubaluleka kokukhombisa uthando. Yize lokhu kufaka uthando lomzimba nobulili, akunqunyelwe lokho kuphela! Uthando lungaboniswa kumlingani wakho ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene. Yiba nobuciko ekuboniseni umlingani wakho ukuthi kusho ukuthini kuwe. Ayikho ifomula noma iqoqo lemithetho okufanele ilandelwe. Ukuthandana yilokho okwenzayo ngakho! Ithiphu eyodwa ewusizo ukunaka indlela oshade naye akhombisa ngayo wena uthando. UGary Chapman, encwadini yakhe Izilimi Ezi-5 Zothando, ichaza izindlela ezinhlanu eziyinhloko abantu abanikeza futhi bamukele ngazo uthando. Lokhu kufaka phakathi: ukupha izipho, ukukhuluma amagama okukhuthaza noma ukuvuma, ukuthinta umzimba, ukwenza imisebenzi yokusebenzela, nokuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye. Uma unaka kakhulu oshade naye nokuthi bakubonisa kanjani uthando, uzokwazi ukuthola ukuthi bathanda kanjani thola uthando! Ukwazi izindlela eziyinhloko umlingani wakho afisa ukukhonjiswa ngazo uthando nokwazisa kungolwazi olubalulekile. Ngeke neze uhambe kabi ekuboniseni uthando uma uthatha isikhathi sokwenza kanjalo ngendlela ezwakalayo komunye umuntu.
Khumbula ukuthi njengendoda ungumholi. Uhola ngesibonelo futhi ungahola kabi noma ngokunothile. Kukuwe ukuthi ukhetha ukuba yindoda enjani. Ama-4 A angaba wusizo olubalulekile, kepha kukuwe ukuthi utshale imali ngokuphelele futhi ubandakanyeke ebudlelwaneni bakho.