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Ukuthola isehlukaniso kwanele ukulahla noma ngubani kubhalansi. Kepha lapho kunokungalingani kwamandla ebudlelwaneni, konke kuba nzima kakhulu. Manje kuyini ukungalingani kwamandla? Yini ebangela ukungalingani kwamandla esehlukanisweni? Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakuphatha kanjani ngempumelelo ukungalingani kwamandla lapho uthola isehlukaniso? Le mibuzo izokwakha isisekelo sale ngxoxo, ikusize okokuqala ukubona ukuthi ngabe le yinto ohlangabezana nayo, bese unquma ukuthi yini ongayenza ngakho.
Kuyini ngempela ukungalingani kwamandla?
Umshado ubumbano phakathi kwababili abalinganayo. Yize laba babili abalingani behluke ngokuphelele, behlukene futhi behlukile, ukubaluleka kwabo nokubaluleka kwabo njengabashadile kuyafana. Emshadweni onempilo indoda nenkosikazi bazosebenzisana ukwenza konke okusemandleni ebudlelwaneni babo. Baxoxa nganoma yiziphi izingqinamba abangaba nazo futhi bafinyelela ezinqumweni ndawonye. Uma bengavumelani bazothatha isinqumo ngokuvumelana okusebenzekayo. Lapho kunokungalingani kwamandla, noma kunjalo, umlingani oyedwa ulawula omunye ngandlela thile. Oshade naye 'onamandla' kakhulu uphoqa intando yakhe kokunye futhi kuyicala 'lendlela yami noma umgwaqo omkhulu.'
Uma kukhulunywa ngokufinyelela esivumelwaneni ngesikhathi senqubo yesehlukaniso, ukungalingani kwamandla kungaholela ekutheni omunye umlingani agcine esekubi kakhulu kunomunye. Okwenzekayo ukuthi oshade naye onamandla ngokwedlulele ubiza zonke izibhamu bese ethatha isinqumo sokuthi ngubani othola lokho kuyilapho oshade naye onamandla amancane kufanele akuthathe noma akushiye. Lokhu kungenza isimo esivele sinenhlekelele singabi nabulungisa ngokweqile, kepha ngosizo lomlamuli ohlakaniphile nohlakaniphile kungenzeka ukuthi kube nomphumela ongcono futhi olinganayo.
Yini ebangela ukungalingani kwamandla esehlukanisweni?
Izimbangela nezinhlobo zokungalingani kwamandla esehlukanisweni ziningi futhi ziyahlukahluka. Kuvamile impela ukuthola ukuthi kunombango othile noma omunye wamandla oqhubekayo ngesikhathi sehlukaniso. Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zezinto ezijwayelekile:
- Ezezimali: Lapho omunye oshade naye ehola kakhulu kunomunye bangaba nolwazi olukhulu nokulawula imali engenayo yomshado nempahla. Isibonelo salokhu kungaba esimweni sokuhlala ekhaya-umama onendoda yakhe eyondlayo kakhulu.
- Ubudlelwano nezingane: Uma izingane zinokwethembeka okukhulu kumzali oyedwa kunomunye, lokhu kungaholela ekungalingani kwamandla lapho umzali 'othandwa kakhulu' esesimweni esinamandla kakhulu.
- Ukuhlukaniswa noma ukutshalwa kwezimali ngokomzwelo emshadweni: Oshade naye osehlukanisiwe emshadweni uzoba namandla athe xaxa kulowo osatshaliwe ngokomzwelo futhi ofuna ukuzama ukusindisa ubudlelwano.
- Ukubusa nobuntu obunolaka: Lapho omunye umlingani ehlula omunye ngamandla amakhulu obuntu babo, nakanjani kunokungalingani kwamandla. Onqotshwe imvamisa angazizwa esaba ukuvuma ngoba bayazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma bengakwenzi.
- Ukuhlukumeza, Ukulutha Umlutha noma Ukuphuza ngokweqile: Uma kukhona omunye walaba abakhona ebudlelwaneni futhi kungakhulunywa nabo futhi belashwe, kuzoba nezinkinga zokungalingani kwamandla ngesikhathi sedivosi.
- Yiziphi ezinye izeluleko zokubamba ukungalingani kwamandla ngesikhathi sehlukaniso?
- Uma uke wabona noma iziphi kulezi zimo ezingenhla kungakuhle uzibuze ukuthi ngabe lokhu kungalingani kwamandla kungakuthinta kanjani ngqo inqubo yakho yesehlukaniso. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi uzoba ngumlingani obuthakathaka, ungahle uthande ukucabanga ngokufuna ngokucophelela umlamuleli ofanele. Kuyanconywa futhi ukuthi ube nommeli othintekayo ukuze anikeze ukwesekwa okwengeziwe, kanye nanoma yikuphi ukuqeqeshwa kwangaphambi kokulamula okutholakalayo.
- Umlamuleli owazi ukungalingani kwamandla angathatha izinyathelo eziningana ukwenza lula ukuqhutshwa kwenqubo ngale ndlela elandelayo:
- Ukusetshenziswa kochwepheshe abangathathi hlangothi: Ngokuphakamisa ukuthi amaqembu asebenzise ochwepheshe abangathathi hlangothi, umlamuleli angaqinisekisa ukuthi umbiko owamukelekile uyatholwa. Isibonelo isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezingane singanikeza imininingwane maqondana nezinketho zokugcina izingane, kuyilapho umeluleki wezezimali enganikeza isifinyezo sezimali zomshado.
- Ukuvimbela ukubusa: Ngesikhathi sokulamula kubalulekile ukuthi umlamuli abeke umsindo engxoxweni futhi aphikelele emithethweni ethile elandelwayo. Lokhu ukuvimbela noma yikuphi ukubusa okwenzekayo lapho umlingani oyedwa enobuntu obunamandla futhi obusayo. Uma umuntu oyedwa engalitholi ithuba lokukhuluma, noma ebonakala ehluliwe futhi ediniwe, umlamuleli omuhle uzobiza isikhathi sokuvala futhi mhlawumbe aphakamise ukuqeqeshwa okuqhubekayo ngaphambi kokuqala kabusha ukulamula.
- Ukubhekana nezinkinga ezinzima: ngokulamula kungenzeka ukuthi kutholakale izixazululo ezizuzisa naphezu kokuqukethwe okuvame kakhulu ngokomzwelo ezindabeni eziningi ezizungeze isehlukaniso. Umlamuli angasiza ekwehliseni imizwa nemibono yokungalingani kwamandla ngokukhuluma ngokucophelela ngezinkinga ezinzima.
- Ukwazi lapho ukulamula kungasizi: Kwesinye isikhathi kufika iphuzu lapho kungenzeki khona ukulamula okuqhubekayo. Lokhu kungenzeka lapho ukungalingani kwamandla kuthinta isimo kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bangakwazi ukubamba iqhaza ngempumelelo. Lokhu kungaba njalo lapho kunokuhlukunyezwa, imilutha engalashwa noma ukuphuza ngokweqile.
Olunye uhlobo lokungalingani kwamandla okwenzeka kwesinye isikhathi ngesikhathi sehlukaniso kulapho kwenzeka khona ukushintshwa kwamandla phakathi kwabazali nezingane. Njengoba kunezinxushunxushu nezinguquko ezehliswa isehlukaniso, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bagcine indima yabo yokuba ngabazali ukuze bavikele izingane zabo. Okuvame ukwenzeka ukuthi abazali bashelele endimeni yokuzama ukuba ‘ngabangane’ nezingane zabo kunokusebenzisa amandla abo obuzali abanomthwalo wemfanelo.
Indlela yokuvimbela lolu hlobo lokungalingani kwamandla ukuthi lwenzeke ekhaya lakho ngemuva kwesahlukaniso kuzoba ukuqinisekisa ukuthi unezinhloso nezindinganiso ezicacile. Setha okulindelwe okuqinisekile ezinganeni zakho futhi uxoxe ngemithetho nemithethonqubo ofuna ukuba bayigcine, kanye nemivuzo noma imiphumela ezoba khona uma bekwenza noma bengakufezekisi okulindelwe.