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- Ukuhlolwa kwangempela
- Ukululama emikhubeni emibi.
- Ungahlala kanjani uqonde ezingeni lapho kuvela izingxabano.
Ukuhlolwa kwangempela
Kwenzekani lapho iqiniso lomshado livezwa ngokuzumayo? Akukona obekulindele, hhayi lokho okubhalisele, hhayi lokho okuphuphe kusukela usemncane, futhi umlingani wakho uyakudumaza ngoba akahlangabezani nohlu lwakho lwezilindelo nezifiso ozenzele "OWODWA". Kuleli qophelo, ukuxabana kuyaqala ... Ufuna ukuthi umlingani wakho akwenze ujabule, afanele imibono yakho nokulindela ukuthi umshado wakho kumele ube njani, ukhohlwe iqiniso lokuthi nabo baneqoqo labo lemibono nabakulindele. Ngubani owakujabulisa ungakashadi? Akekho umuntu emhlabeni okwazi ukukunikeza nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lwenjabulo esimeme. Uyisihluthulelo senjabulo yakho. Usuku lapho mina nomyeni wami saqala ukudela khona kanye umshado ojabulisayo oqukethe uthando, inhlonipho, ukuqonda, ukwamukela, ukuyekethisa, ubungane nomusa kwaba usuku, sabona ukuthi umshado wethu uthathe izinto ezilimazayo. Kungani? Ngoba sivumele ama-egos ethu abuthaka ukuba alawule ukungezwani kwethu futhi aholele emzabalazweni wamandla ongasebenzi kahle, kanye nomncintiswano wokuwina izimpikiswano eziningi.
Ukululama emikhubeni emibi.
Yize sisebenzise izindlela eziningi ezisungulwe ngokuvumelana futhi savumelana ngamasu, nginqume ukwaba abathathu bakho kule ndatshana.
- Zitholele ukuthi ungubani futhi uthathe umthwalo wenjabulo nenhlalakahle yakho. Yilapho kuphela lapho sizazi futhi siziqonda ngokweqiniso iziqu zethu, ubuntu bethu, imizwa, izenzo, njll, lapho sikwazi ukuqonda ozakwethu. Umshado awusona isibalo sezibalo.
- Izingxenye ezimbili azilingani ngokuphelele, kuyathakazelisa kakhulu futhi kuyimfihlakalo ngokwenziwa lula kwalokho. Infact, ngababili kuphela abantu abaphelele ngokweqiniso abalingana nokuqedelwa kweqiniso obukade ukufuna impilo yakho yonke.
- Yenza ukukhetha okuqondayo ukususa ukugxila kwakho kulokho okufunayo, kuye kulokho okudingwa ngumlingani wakho nomshado (qaphela: Angibhalanga "okufunayo").
- Bamba umlingani wakho enza okuthile kahle, futhi uzwakalise ukubonga kwakho emizamweni yabo. Funda ukwazisa izinto ezincane ezingavamisile ukubonwa.
Buka futhi: Kuyini Ukungqubuzana Kobudlelwano?
Ungahlala kanjani uqonde ezingeni lapho kuvela izingxabano.
- Funda futhi uqonde ukusabela komzimba wakho entukuthelweni. Lapho lokho kugijimisana okufudumele kwegazi kugeleza ekhanda lakho, kuguqula yonke into isendleleni eya phezulu iye kumabala ahlukahlukene abomvu, ngenkathi ithola ingcindezi yokuqhuma okungalawuleki, tshela umlingani wakho ukuthi udinga isikhathi sokuba wedwa, nokuthi uzoludingida lolu daba isigaba sakamuva (“kamuva” kubhekiswe kuso, emahoreni angama-24 alandelayo). Uma kwenzeka uphikisana nomlingani wakho ngenkathi usesimweni esishiwo ngenhla, khumbula ukuthi ubuchopho bakho busebenza kumodi yokulwa neyendiza ukuqinisekisa ukusinda okuyinkohliso. Amakhono obuchopho bakho wokusebenzisa amasu wokudala, onozwela, wokuqamba izinto ezintsha, onothando nenhlonipho, awasebenzi ngesikhathi semodi yokusinda. Ingqondo yakho ayikwazi ukusebenza kuzo zombili!
- Shiya ukumemeza, ukuthuka inhlamba, ukuthuka amagama, ukuthulisa, ukubhuqa, nokuthukuthela njengokuthi “uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe” zokuthuthukisa ukuhlakanipha kwemizwa kwengane yakho.
- Lalela ukuqonda. Yeka ukusebenza ngempikiswano yakho yokuzivikela ngenkathi umlingani wakho exhumana nawe. Lapho ungaqondi kahle, humusha ngenhlonipho futhi ukhulume amagama abo ngawakho amagama, kanye nozakwenu uma ngabe ukuhumusha kwakho bekulungile.
- Qaphela ulimi lwakho lomzimba nesimo sobuso. Umlingani wakho uqaphela izisusa nezinhloso zakho ezifihliwe ngezinkomba abazithola kusuka olimini lwakho olungakhulunywa. Hlala ugcina lezo zinhloso nezinhloso, zimsulwa, zakha futhi ziyahlomulisa.
- Yiba qotho ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi unakekele ngenkathi udlulisa umbono wakho. Hola ingxoxo ngothando nangenhlonipho.
- Imvamisa ngibona lokhu nabesifazane futhi ngicela wazi ukuthi angenzi okujwayelekile. Ngesikhathi sokuphikisana, abesifazane bavame ukuzwa isidingo sokukhuluma kabanzi ngempikiswano yabo yonke, ngokuqhubekayo bengeze izibonelo nemizwa, bese kuthi lapho bekuyo, baxhume eminye imicimbi, bezwe ukuthi ingahle ihambisane nengxabano yabo yamanje, ngasikhathi sinye. Hawu, nokuzama ukubeka konke lokho emshweni owodwa kuyadida. Amadoda agxile kwisisombululo futhi akhululeke kakhudlwana ukwenza isaga, ukubhekana nesitatimende esisodwa senkinga, kanye nemizwa yaso, ngasikhathi. Amadoda athambekele ekuqoqeni nasekuxhumaniseni imininingwane, engabonakala ifana nokuqonda kwabo, okuvame ukuholela ekungaqondani. Madoda, hola futhi uqondise ngothando owesifazane wakho ukuthi ahlukanise isitatimende sakhe senkinga, sibe izingxenye ezilawulekayo neziqondakalayo. Bantu besifazane, bongani umaqondana wakho uma bekwenza lokhu, akakuphazamisi futhi akahloniphi. Uzama ukukuqonda nempikiswano yakho.
- Khumbula ukuthi umlingani wakho akakwabelani ngokoqobo kwakho, ngoba ubuchopho bomuntu buhumusha okwenzeka ngokusebenzisa indlela yokuzibandakanya ukuze ahumushe futhi abone okuhlangenwe nakho okusha, kusetshenziswa uhlaka lwakho oluyingqayizivele lwereferensi. Ngakho-ke ubuchopho bethu buchemile ngokomqondo futhi ngenxa yezici eziningi ezinomthelela, imiqondo yakho, okulindelwe, kanye nokucabanga kwakho kungenzeka kungahlali kunembe ngendlela obucabanga ngayo. Thola amaqiniso ngeqiniso lakho langempela, ngokuhlola imibono yomunye nomunye. Uzomangala ngomphumela futhi uhlekise ngenqubo. Ungathathi izwi lami ngalo; ungazibonela ngokwakho. O, ungakhohlwa ukwabelana ngokutholile kwakho, ngokuphawula ngale ndatshana.