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- 1. Ungalokothi ulale uthukuthele
- 2. Ungazami ukushintsha owakwakho
- 3. Umshado wakhiwe ngabantu ababili. Akusekho, noma ngaphansi
- 4. Gcina umlilo uvutha
- 5. Qhubeka uthandane
- 6. Funda okunye "ukuhamba" okusha
Ukushada nendoda noma owesifazane wamaphupho akho kuzwakala njengesinqumo esihle kunazo zonke owake wazithatha, kuze kube yilapho ezezimali zihlanya neqiniso lokuthi ukukhulisa izingane akulula njengoba ubucabanga ukuthi kuyaqala ukungena. Lapho izinto ziba nzima kakhulu kwabanye izinsuku, ungacabanga ukuthi lesi yisinqumo esibi kunazo zonke owake wazenza. Kepha ungenzi iphutha lokupakisha izikhwama zakho ushiye konke ngemuva. Yehlisa umoya. Yonke imibhangqwana eshadile ibhekene nezinkinga ongacabanga ukuthi wena kuphela nomlingani wakho nizithola.
Ngenxa yothando, lapha sinohlu lwezeluleko zomshado ukukusiza ukuthi uthole injabulo emshadweni.
1. Ungalokothi ulale uthukuthele
Cishe uke wezwa ngalokhu ngaphambili futhi kungenxa yokuthi lokhu kuyiseluleko esihle somshado, ikakhulukazi kulabo abasanda kuqala ngezimpilo zabo zomshado. Uma usujwayele ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile ngezinkinga zakho futhi ubhekane nazo esikhundleni sokukuvumela ukuba kuqhubeke, ubuhlobo obulandelayo buyolandela. Ungalali, vuka ngakusasa bese uqala ukwenza sengathi umyeni noma unkosikazi wakho akekho. Ungumlingani wakho impilo yakho yonke, hhayi umuntu ohlala naye ekolishi.
2. Ungazami ukushintsha owakwakho
Ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe isinqumo sokuthembisana umshado futhi ushade, ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi wazi kakhulu, uma kungenjalo konke, ngemikhuba nobuntu bomlingani wakho. Ngakho-ke akawuvali umnyango wegumbi lokunethezeka lapho echama. Akagezi izinwele zakhe futhi ugqoka izithukuthuku izinsuku lapho ekwi-PMS-ing. Ubukwazi konke lokhu, wamukele futhi wathanda umlingani wakho ukuthi ungubani ngempela. Manje kungani uzama ukumshintsha? Ngaphandle kokuthi abe ngumlingani ophuza ngokweqile futhi ohlukumezayo, akunasizathu sokucindezela eminye yemikhuba yakhe ecasulayo.
3. Umshado wakhiwe ngabantu ababili. Akusekho, noma ngaphansi
Angikhulumi ngomuntu wesithathu. Lokhu akukona ukungathembeki. Isikhathi sokukhuluma ngabantu abafana nabasekhweni, abangane bakhe abakhulu, nabazala bakho. Emuva ngenkathi nisathandana, laba bantu babeyingxenye yobudlelwano bakho. Babejwayele ukukunikeza izeluleko wena noma umlingani wakho ngokuthi kufanele nibhekane kanjani. Kodwa izinto sezihlukile manje. Kunezinkinga ezithile okufanele zihlale phakathi kwenu nobabili. Ukubandakanya abanye abantu ezindabeni zakho siqu kuyingozi. Banokuthambekela kokukhetha izinhlangothi, banikeze izinqumo ezibandlululayo, futhi esikhundleni sokuletha isixazululo senkinga, bangayenza ibe yimbi nakakhulu.
4. Gcina umlilo uvutha
Izinyanga noma iminyaka isemshadweni, ikakhulukazi lapho isigaba se-honeymoon sesiphelile, ungaqala ukuzizwa unesithukuthezi. Ngezinye izinsuku uzozizwa uphambene kancane bese uqala ukucabanga ukuthi akasenandaba nawe. Mhlawumbe wayeka ukuzama ukubukeka kahle kuwe noma kukwenza uzizwe unganakiwe, sengathi akanandaba nempilo yakho. Ngezinye izinsuku, uzozizwa udabukile ngezinguquko futhi ugcine ukhala ngoba akasakuniki izimbali noma uyeke ukukubhalela amanothi amancane amahle njalo nge-12 enyangeni. Uyazi ukuthi bengizokwenzenjani? Bhekana naye! Mtshele ukuthi ufuna ukuphuma nosuku. Mtshele ukuthi ufuna ukubona umeluleki wokuqondisa. Mbuze nje ukuthi kwenzenjani. Vele ungavumeli umlilo ucishe. Uma uzizwa sengathi izinto zibheke eningizimu, yenza okuthile ngaphambi kokuba kwephuze kakhulu ukuzama.
5. Qhubeka uthandane
Hhayi abanye abantu, kulungile? Lokho ngu-cha omkhulu. Engiqonde ukukusho ukuthi, qhubeka uthandana nomlingani wakho. Umshado kufanele ube ukuqhubeka kokuthandana. Mkhipheni. Zama izindawo zokudlela ezintsha. Vakashela izindawo ezintsha. Thola izinto zokuzilibazisa ezintsha ndawonye. Umlingani wakho manje ungumngane wakho omkhulu. Ngakho hamba uyozijabulisa ngezikhathi ezithile.
6. Funda okunye "ukuhamba" okusha
Yebo. Ubulili busengaba ngcono. Khuphula umdlalo wakho! Thola umlingo we-kamasutra. Heck, bukela i-porn futhi ufunde ukuhamba! Ungalokothi unamathele endaweni efanayo yezithunywa zevangeli njalo ebusuku. Awufuni ukuzamazamisa ingane yakho ukuthi ilale phakathi kwe-coitus! Ucansi lubaluleke kakhulu emshadweni futhi angikwazanga ukukugcizelela lokho ngokwanele. Thola isikhathi "sesikhathi esimnandi" futhi uma wenza kanjalo, mnike ukusebenza okuhle kakhulu empilweni yakho.
Umshado awusiwo wonke umuntu. Abanenhlanhla yibo abathole uthando bangabe besaphinde balahleka. Ngakho-ke bekezelani, niqondane futhi nithandane ngoba empeleni kunabantu abachitha izimpilo zabo bodwa, bephuza bodwa emabhawa, kodwa beze ekhaya endlini egcwele izilwane ezifuywayo ukuze banikeze injongo empilweni yabo. Kepha nobabili niyazwana. Kwazise lokho. Umshado yisinqumo esihle kunazo zonke owake wazithatha. Ungalokothi ungabaze.