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- Izigaba zokubhekana nokungathembeki
- Qeda ubudlelwano bangaphandle komshado
- Buza bese uphendula
- Funa ukwelulekwa
- Thola ukuvalwa
Lapho umbhangqwana uzama ukululama ekungathembekini emshadweni, bafuna ukwazi ukuthi bangasinda kanjani kulokho. Abashadile bayazibuza, "Ingabe umshado wethu ungasinda ngemuva kokungathembeki?" “Yayiyini imbangela yokungathembeki” nokuthi “Yini iseluleko esihle kakhulu sokubhekana nokungathembeki” phakathi kwezinye izinto eziningi.
Ngalesi sikhathi, kuvame ukuba nomuzwa okhungathekisayo wokuba sengozini okusongelwe kuningi leminye imizwa. Labo ababhekene nayo bafuna izimpendulo zemibuzo yabo ukuze banqobe le nkinga futhi balulame ngempumelelo ekuthandaneni / kokungathembeki emshadweni.
Izinyathelo zokuthi ungalulama kanjani ekungathembekini ziqonde ngqo kepha bobabili abashadile kufanele benze umzamo.
Izigaba zokubhekana nokungathembeki
Kulabo abahlangabezane nokungathembeki emshadweni, kuba ngumcabango munye ukuthola izimpendulo zale mibuzo:
"Ungalulama kanjani ngemuva kokuqomisana"
"Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukwedlula indaba"
Kunzima ngabo ukusonga ikhanda labo ngokugcwele ngokwenzekile. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi kuqala uqonde izigaba zokubhekana nokungathembeki.
- Ukutholwa kokungathembeki komlingani wakho kungakushiya nawe ethukile ukukhuluma noma usesimweni sengqondo esonakalisayo ngokuphelele.
- Ungahle ube sesimweni se ukuphika ukwenqaba ukukholelwa ukuthi umlingani wakho ukukhohlisile.
- Uqhubeka uphendula isenzo sakhe sokukopela ekhanda lakho, kaninginingi. Lokhu ukuthatheka ayikuvumeli ukuthi ugxile kokunye. Uhlala uzibuza wena, kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthola ukungathembeki, kepha kubonakala kungahambi phambili.
- Uma iqiniso selingenile, uyahlangabezana intukuthelo. Ufuna ukumemeza futhi ukhiphe intukuthelo yamabhodlela.
- Ukwesaba ukulahlwa kungakwenza ukuthi ulinganise isiphambeko noma ufike esimweni se ukuxoxisana ukulungisa ubudlelwano. Kodwa-ke, akufanele ukwenze ngezindleko zokuthwala umthwalo wobudlelwano obungenampilo.
- Imisebenzi yansuku zonke njengokuvuka embhedeni nokuya emsebenzini ibukeka njengomsebenzi. Uma ukudana kubonakala kuphuma ezandleni zakho, funa ukwelashwa ukuthola izimpendulo zemibuzo, "ukuthi ungalulama kanjani kumlingani okopelayo", "ungalulama kanjani ekungathembekini emshadweni", noma "ungaphulukisa kanjani ekungathembekini emshadweni", njalonjalo.
- Ukuvuma kuza ekugcineni. Uthatha isinqumo sokwamukela okwenzekile, uthathe icala lokuphila kwakho, bese uqhubeka. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kuhumushele ekuthetheleleni oshade naye okopelayo, kunalokho, uyakhululeka ekutheni weqe ubuhlungu nolaka lwakho.
Futhi, uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlala ndawonye, nobabili niyakwamukela ukuthi kuzoba ngumgwaqo okhuphukayo onomsebenzi onzima omningi. Uthatha isinqumo sokushiya ubuxhakaxhaka ngemuva bese uhlela izindaba zakho ngendlela.
Qeda ubudlelwano bangaphandle komshado
Ukubuyiselwa komshado ngemuva kokungathembeki kudinga ukuphela kwendaba yakho.
Ngemuva kokukhuluma ngobudlelwano bangaphandle komshado, bonke ubuhlobo kufanele bunqunywe nomunye umuntu. Leso isinyathelo sokuqala sokubhekana nokungathembeki emshadweni.
Ukuyiqeda ngokuphelele kungenye yezinyathelo zokuqala zokululama ngemuva kokungathembeki. Umlingani ongathembekile kufanele athembise ukumisa noma yikuphi ukuxhumana nalo muntu futhi azise umlingani wakhe njengoba lokhu sekwenziwe. Ukuvuleka kuyisihluthulelo.
Ukweqa udaba futhi kudinga ukuthi uthathe umthwalo wezenzo zakho, uzixolele, wenze ukwethembeka okuphelele koshade naye futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uzivikele esikhathini esedlule.
Ngakho-ke, ungadlula kanjani othandweni uma kunguwe okopelile? Khumbula, ukululama ekungathembekini lapho ukhohlise kuyinqubo ekhathaza isisu kumlingani wakho, ongaba nemizwa esukela ekubeni namahloni noma ukuphoxeka abe nomuzwa wokuphoxeka. Futhi, umthwalo wakho wecala nokuba nesizungu kungakwenza uzizwe ungafanelekile kuzwelo lomlingani wakho.
Kodwa-ke, ngokwamukela ukuthi kufanele welaphe izimpilo ezimbili, ezakho nezomlingani wakho, uzokwazi ukusebenzisa amandla angaphakathi okusiza inqubo yokululama ekungathembekini emshadweni. Lokhu futhi kuphendula umbuzo othi, "ungamsiza kanjani oshade naye ukuthi aphulukise endabeni yakho".
Buza bese uphendula
Abashadile nabo kudingeka badlule esigabeni sokubuza nokuphendula uma ukungathembeki emshadweni sekuvele obala.
Ukuphulukiswa kokungathembeki kuzokwenzeka ngokuqhubekayo. Azikho izixazululo ezisheshayo zokululama ekuthandaneni noma ukululama ekuphingeni.
Iningi lemibuzo lizovela kumlingani owakhashelwa futhi kukumlingani ongathembekile ukuphendula imibuzo ngokuthembeka. Kungabonakala kulula ukungakhulumi ngalolu daba kodwa ukuba nemibuzo ezayo mayelana nalokhu kuzovimbela umshado ukuthi usimame ngempela.
Funa ukwelulekwa
Ukungathembeki emshadweni yisihloko esidinga izingxoxo eziningi.
Kwesinye isikhathi indlela enhle yokudlula kulezi zingxoxo ukuba khona kukathisha onelayisense. Umelaphi uzobeka umbhangqwana endleleni eya emshadweni onempilo. Ukuxolisa kuzokwenziwa, ukukhuthazwa kuzokhuthazwa futhi izithandani zizonikezwa ithuba lokungcwaba okwedlule.
Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni kungabe sekwakhiwa kabusha ngempumelelo ngokwelulekwa ngobudlelwano.
Umuntu akufanele alindele ukuthethelelwa kalula kepha ukungathembeki emshadweni kungaxolelwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kungasiza futhi ekwazini izigaba ezahlukahlukene zokululama kokungathembeki.
Noma ngabe ukhetha ukungcwaba okwedlule, qala kabusha futhi nihambe ndawonye, noma ninqume ukuhlukana ngezindlela, ukwazi lezi zigaba zokululama kokungathembeki kuzokusiza ukuthi welaphe emiphumeleni yokungathembeki emshadweni futhi kukusize uthole izimpendulo zombuzo othi, "kanjani ululame othandweni emshadweni wakho? ”.
Thola ukuvalwa
Ngemuva kokuthi udaba seluphelile, imibuzo mayelana nokungathembeki emshadweni iphenduliwe futhi nemizwa isetshenzisiwe, abashadile bafinyelela ezingeni lapho sekuyisikhathi sokuvalwa futhi.
Ukufukamela intukuthelo kudala ukuthi abantu ababili bahlukane phakathi ngenkathi bezibophezela ukuhlala kulesi sikhathi samanje kubasondeza, kubeka izipoki zokungathembeki emshadweni.
Enye indlela yokwenza thola ukuvalwa ukulandela ukungathembeki emshadweni kuyinto ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngokungathembeki. Njengoba ukuthethelelwa kukhula, abashadile bazosondelana. Ukuze ubuhlobo buphile ngokungathembeki, abalingani nabo kufanele gxila kwezothando kanye nentshisekelo.
Ukungathembeki noma ukungathembeki emshadweni kuvame ukudala ukuthi umlingani olimele azizwe engathandeki ngakho-ke isifiso esiqinisekisayo siyisidingo.
Ngakho-ke, kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukwedlula ukungathembeki? Kunemibhangqwana engalapha onyakeni, futhi kukhona abanye abathatha iminyaka, futhi nangemuva kwesikhathi eside kubonakala ukuthi isilonda selupholile, nokuqina kobuhlungu kwehlile, okuthile kungadala kungazelelwe ubuhlungu obungcwatshiwe nobumunyu bungangena .
Awukho umugqa wesikhathi obekiwe kanti futhi ngemizamo, imicabango ebuhlungu kamuva iqala ukuba mbalwa futhi iqhelelene phakathi.