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- Ungabuyisa kanjani ezothando emshadweni wakho
- Ngingakwazi ukubuyisela uthando emshadweni futhi?
- Xoxani ngezinkinga
- 2. Bheka ezinye izici
- 3. Khomba izakhi
- 4. Thola isisombululo
Kufanele ukuthi uzwile ngalesi sigameko izikhathi eziyizigidi empilweni yakho - “Yilungise, ungayiqedi.”
Abantu bayesaba uku bhekana neqiniso mayelana neyabo umshado ongenaluthando bese uzama ukubulungisa, noma ngabe ubuhlobo sebufinyelele esigabeni 'se-point-of-no-return'. Bayazibuza ukuthi bangalubuyisa kanjani uthando olulahlekile emshadweni futhi bachithe amahora amaningi bevula i-Intanethi ukuthola isisombululo esifanele ebudlelwaneni babo obungenaluthando.
Ungamangala ukuthola ukuthi kuGoogle, useshela 'umshado ongayi ocansini' cishe izikhathi ezintathu nengxenye ngaphezu kosesho ‘ngomshado ongajabulisi’ futhi izikhathi ezingaphezu kweziyisishiyagalombili kunezi ‘umshado ongenaluthando.’
Uvame ukuzwa abantu abashadile emhlabeni wonke kungenzeka ukuthi babuze lo mbuzo, "Ngilubuyisa kanjani uthando emshadweni wami?" Uyabona-ke ezothando emshadweni yilokho kubalulekile ukuhlala nijabule futhi ninenhliziyo ndawonye.
Kule ndatshana, sizohlose ukuphendula lo mbuzo - kepha futhi sikholwa ukuthi impendulo ikuwe.
Ngakho-ke okokuqala, ake sihlole inkinga esesiseduze nayo - ukuthi ungabuyisa kanjani ezothando emshadweni?
Ungabuyisa kanjani ezothando emshadweni wakho
Abantu abashadile ngokuvamile banomuzwa wokuthi umshado wabo untula uthando olwalukhona ebudlelwaneni. Ngakho-ke, kungani ezothando ziphuma emshadweni? Kungani kukhona ukungabikho kothando emshadweni?
Ngaphandle kokuthi abantu baseMelika abangama-88% bathe uthando yisona sizathu esiyinhloko sokushada, amazinga ezehlukaniso akhule kakhulu.
Imithombo esibonisene nayo ikhombe lezi zimo ezingezansi nezimbangela njengezizathu zokwehla kwenhlansi.
- Ukukhula ukhathele umlingani womuntu
- Ukwehla kwentshisekelo, noma imvamisa yocansi
- Ukulahleka "kwezimvemvane zothando", imizwa yezinzwa ekhiqizwa ngama-endorphin lapho isothandweni
- Ukungabi nokusondelana ngokomzwelo
- Ukuntuleka kothando
- Ukungalindeli (izinsuku, izipho, imicimbi engahleliwe, nezenzo zomusa zomusa)
- Ukuthatha umlingani wakho kalula
- Umehluko, ukukhula ngokwehlukana, noma ukuntuleka kwezintshisekelo ezifanayo
- Ushadile ngezizathu ezingalungile, umshado ophuthume, noma ushade usemncane kakhulu
- Uzakwethu ushintshile
- Ukuxhumana okungalungile
- Shintsha amandla, noma ukungabi nesikhathi ngenxa yomsebenzi nezinye izibopho
- Ukukhathala
Ziningi ezinye izithiyo ezibhekene nemibhangqwana, kepha laba ababalwe ngenhla bangabanikeli abavame ukucashunwa esimweni sokwehla kwezothando.
Ngakho-ke umbuzo obalulekile uhlala ungaphenduliwe - uyibuyisela kanjani inhlansi emshadweni?
Ngingakwazi ukubuyisela uthando emshadweni futhi?
Impendulo yalo mbuzo iyehluka ngobudlelwano.
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi ezothando emva komshado ibekwe ku-backburner. Kepha, asikho isizathu sokuthi uthando lomshado luphume ngokuphelele empilweni yakho.
Ezinye zezici ezicashile ziyalimaza kakhulu kunezinye.
Ezimweni ezingezinhle, imizamo yokwengeza ezothando emshadweni ekugcineni iyohluleka, noma ngeke iveze imiphumela oyifunayo. Impendulo yokuthi ungaphinde ubuyele yini emshadweni wakho ingaphendulwa kangcono ngokuqala ngokuthola izingqinamba noma izimbangela ezibangela inkinga.
Izinyathelo zokubuyisa ezothando emshadweni
Xoxani ngezinkinga
Hlaziya izingqinamba obhekene nazo, sebenzisa uhlu olungenhla njengomhlahlandlela, bese ubhala phansi noma yibaphi abaxhasi abangaba ngu-1-3 njengoba befika engqondweni.
Sebenzisa uhlu olungenhla njengesiqondiso uma udinga usizo.
2. Bheka ezinye izici
Bheka izici zakho. Manje, flip kubo nxazonke kusuka kokubi kuya ezitatimendeni ezinhle.
Ngokwesibonelo -
Ake sithi inothi lakho lithi “Ukuntuleka Kokusondelana” - Bhala ngo “Ukuxhumana okuqinile, ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo, uthando.”
Usanda kuchaza ukuthi ungathanda ukuthi lokhu kubukeke kanjani, noma ukuthi kwakubukeka kanjani lapho izimo zazizinhle.
Ukuqhubeka thuthukisa ibinzana lakho elihle, cabanga ngalokho obekuzothatha, noma ukuthi kwakubukeka kanjani esikhathini esedlule lapho izimo ezinhle zazikhona. Uma usenenkinga, cabanga ngezikhathi lapho bekukhona ukusondelana okuningi ngokomzwelo(noma noma yisiphi isimo osibhalile) bese ubhala phansi obekuhlukile ngaleso sikhathi.
Sebenzisa amagama, izehlakalo, amagama abantu, nanoma iziphi ezinye izincazelo ozicabangayo, ezixhuma kwimemori futhi ezinenjongo kuwe.
3. Khomba izakhi
Manje thola izinto ezenze kwaba nokwenzeka ukuzwa ezothando noma imizwa emihle, izenzo noma imisebenzi oyikhombile esinyathelweni sakho # 2.
Zazinjani lezo zikhathi? Yini ekwenze wazizwa uxhumene? Babengobani abantu ezimpilweni zakho? Yisiphi isimo sengqondo, imisebenzi, izimo, noma izimo ezazikhona ezakwenza wazizwa unothando ngalowo muntu?
Rekhoda lezi zimpendulo ngokushesha, ngaphandle kokucabanga kanzima ngombuzo. Ubhala phansi imicimbi, abantu, izimo, izimo zengqondo, noma ezinye izinto ezikuxhumanise ngokomzwelo nesikhathi lapho wawujabule kakhulu othandweni nomlingani wakho.
4. Thola isisombululo
Halala! Uthole indlela yokubuyisa ifayela le- ezothando emshadweni.
Izimpendulo zesinyathelo 3 zingukhiye ekusaseni lakho. Manje udinga ukwethula kabusha noma yini eshintshile. Kusinyathelo 3, ukhombe izimo, nezimo ezizungeze imizwa emihle.
Manje uzocubungula izindlela ongakwenza ngazo buyisa lezo zinto emuva ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Uma kungenzeki ukwenza njalo, thola ukuthi yiziphi izinto zokuxhuma eziphinda futhi, uzithumela ngamagama ahlanganisayo, abantu, noma imizwa oyihlanganisa nemibono yakho. Noma buyela emuva bese ungeza ezimpendulweni zakho uze wenze okutholakele okuholela kumasu wokwenza okuthile.
Isu elenzekayo isenzo.
Ngokwesibonelo -
Ukwenza kabusha ukuxhumana nabangane bakudala wena noshade naye nichithe isikhathi, niqala kabusha izindlela zenu zokuzivocavoca ezindala, nihlale ninikeza umlingani wakho isigubhu sezinyawo ngesikhathi sokulala.