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- 1. Khulumisana ngokukhululekile futhi uhlele kusengaphambili
- 2. Beka phambili izinhlelo / amasiko akho
- 3. Kulungile ukuthi cha
- 4. Bhekanani
- 5. Hlanganyelani nomunye
- 6. Hlala useduze
- 7. Ungavumeli umlingani wakho abe ngumuntu wangaphandle
- 8. Ungashintshi uhlelo
- 9. Hlela isikhathi “sethu”
Njenge-PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) I-Level II yezokwelapha izithandani, ngikholelwa ngokuqinile emandleni obudlelwano obuphephile bokusebenza.
Isisekelo esiyisisekelo se-PACT sidinga ukuthi abalingani babeke ubudlelwano babo phambili futhi benze isifungo sokuvikelana ngasese nasesidlangalaleni, ukufeza ubudlelwano obuphephile, obuxhumene nobunempilo.
Isivumelwano okukhulunywa ngaso yisithembiso esiphakathi kozakwethu sokuthi noma kungenzekani, bazohlala beseqenjini elilodwa.
Lokhu kuzibophezela enhlalakahleni yomunye nomunye kukhulisa kakhulu ukuphepha nokuvikeleka kobudlelwano.
Njengoba kuza amaholidi, abantu abaningi kubandakanya imibhangqwana baba nomuzwa wokwesaba nokukhungatheka, kunokuba kube nenjabulo. Besaba ukuchitha isikhathi eside namalungu omndeni okungenzeka kube yinselele ukuxhumana nawo futhi azizwe ekhungathekile ngokuhlelwa kokudla kanye nokuthenga izipho.
Nawa amanye amasu avikela imibhangqwana esebenzayo ukuthi iqede amaholide
1. Khulumisana ngokukhululekile futhi uhlele kusengaphambili
Qala izingxoxo ngemicimbi yomndeni ezayo nomlingani wakho kusenesikhathi ukuze nobabili nihlanganise amakhanda nize necebo. Izingxoxo ezinjalo futhi zingumongo ophephile wokuthi noma yimuphi umlingani abelane ngokwesaba, ukukhathazeka, kanye nokukhathazeka inqobo nje uma omunye umlingani ahlala evulekile, amukela futhi ezwelana.
Ucezu lokuhlela kufanele lube nemininingwane efana nokuthi ufuna ukuhlala isikhathi esingakanani embuthanweni weholide lomndeni wakho nokuthi yini enizoyisebenzisa nobabili ukukhombisana ukuthi nizizwa ningakhululekile.
Uma ubungaza umcimbi, ungaba nezingxoxo mayelana nokwakheka nobude bomhlangano.
2. Beka phambili izinhlelo / amasiko akho
Qaphela ngalokho wena nomlingani wakho eningathanda ukukwenza ngamaholide namasiko nobabili enifuna ukuqala noma ukuwahlakulela.
Amasiko akho eholide kufanele eze kuqala kunamasiko omndeni wakho owandisiwe.
Uma ubamba isidlo sakusihlwa somndeni noma umbuthano, yazisa izivakashi zakho ukuthi ulindele ukuthi zihloniphe amasiko nemikhuba wena nomlingani wakho eningathanda ukuba nayo ngesikhathi sokudla.
3. Kulungile ukuthi cha
Uma wena nomlingani wakho nifisa ukuchitha amaholide nihamba noma nihlala ekhaya esikhundleni sokuwakhokhela nomndeni owengeziwe, khululeka ngokuthi cha ezimemo.
Uma uthembekile kubantu ngokuthi kungani ungakwazi ukuya emcimbini weholide, mancane amathuba okuthi bawuthathe noma bazizwe bephatheke kabi.
Dlulisa ngokusobala nangokufishane ukuthi wena nozakwenu ningathanda ukuchitha leli holide ekhaya noma mhlawumbe nindiza eCaribbean.
4. Bhekanani
Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuchitha leli holidi nomndeni owengeziwe, naka ulimi lomzimba womlingani wakho, ukubukeka kobuso, nemiyalezo ekhuluma ngomlomo nganoma yiziphi izimpawu ezibonisa ukuthi bazizwa bengakhululekile.
Uma ubona umlingani wakho ekhonxwe yilungu lomndeni elinzima, ngenelela ngendlela yokudala ukuze ukwazi ukunikeza induduzo nokusekela kumlingani wakho ngaphandle kokudelela abanye.
Yiba yisiphepheli somlingani wakho lapho ubona umlingani wakho edonsa kanzima noma ezizwa ekhungathekile.
5. Hlanganyelani nomunye
Emhlanganweni womndeni noma umcimbi, hlola umlingani wakho ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi balungile.
Ningavumelana ngezinto ezithile ngaphambili eningazisebenzisa ukuxhumana omunye nomunye ngaphandle kokwazisa abanye. Ukuthintana kwamehlo kaningi nokungena ngomlomo okucashile njengokuthi “konke kulungile?” kungaba yinzuzo.
6. Hlala useduze
Sebenzisa wonke amathuba owatholayo ukuze usondele ngokomzimba kumlingani wakho. Hlala eduzane komunye nomunye etafuleni lesidlo sakusihlwa noma kusofa, nibambane ngezandla, nigonane noma nigudle iqolo lomlingani wakho.
Ukuthinta ngokomzimba nokusondelana kudlulisa ukuphepha nokuqinisekisa.
7. Ungavumeli umlingani wakho abe ngumuntu wangaphandle
Ezimweni lapho umlingani wakho engazi abantu abaningi noma mhlawumbe ehambela umbuthano womndeni wakho okokuqala ngqa, ungavumeli umlingani wakho ukuba abe yedwa.
Uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi umlingani wakho ubonakala eshiywe ngaphandle noma ehlukile, bafake ezingxoxweni zakho futhi ungashiyi uhlangothi lwabo.
8. Ungashintshi uhlelo
Leli yithiphu ebaluleke kakhulu.
Musa ukuphambuka ohlelweni enivumelene ngalo ukululandela ngaphambilini. Uma nobabili ninqume ukuhamba ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile, qinisekani ukuthi niyashiya. Ungazinaki izinkomba zomlingani wakho zokuthi bayakhungatheka futhi mhlawumbe bangathanda ukuhamba ngokushesha.
9. Hlela isikhathi “sethu”
Yiba nokuthile okujabulisayo okuhlelelwe wena nomlingani wakho, ngemuva komcimbi womndeni.
Mhlawumbe kusihlwa kuthule ndawonye, ukubaleka kwezothando noma umgubho wenu nobabili! Yiba nokuthile okuhle ongakulindela, ngemuva kokufeza izibopho zakho zeholide.